- Member since: 06/24/10
- Last active: More than a week ago
- Age: 48
- First location: Washington, District Of Columbia, United States
- Travel location: Washington, District Of Columbia, United States
- Relationship Status: Single
- Looking for: Friends, Dating or Relationship, Hookup
My Stats and Info
- Build: Muscular
- Height: 5' 8''
- Weight: 170 lbs
- Waist: 32 inches
- Hair color: Brown
- Eye color: Brown
- Ethnicity: White
- My gym:
- Weight training: 4 times per week
45 minutes per session
- Cardio training: 4 times per week
30 minutes per session
- Sports I like:
- Other sports I like:
- HIV status: HIV -
- Safer sex?: Always
Here are a few tidbits about me:
Music. I play piano... it's just a hobby, but it's fun. I won a recital at age 7 playing Over The Rainbow (I should have known then!), and I end every drunken sing-along with it. That's just the rules. :)
Career. I'm a software systems analyst right now, and probably will be for awhile. In the past I've worked as a computer programmer, an Air Force officer, a meteorologist, a professional recruiter, a technical writer, and a corporate trainer.
Weather. One of my favorite topics, believe it or not. I have a Master's degree in Meteorology ... not that I use that education for anything these days except to entertain people at work when they ask me whether it's gonna rain.
Personality. Scorpio is my sign ... but I don't believe much about that. I'm a pretty classic INTJ on the personality scale. If you know what that means, then you'd definitely impress me.
Politics. I support the ability for everyone to live however they choose, as long as they're not violating the rights of others. That aligns me most closely with the Libertarian party.
Spirituality. Raised Roman Catholic and "born again" while in college, my "spiritual" life is now directed by my acknowledgement and application of concepts frequently associated with such terms as the "law of attraction", the "art of allowing", the "science of deliberate creation", etc. etc. etc. It's awesome, life-transforming stuff which I am inspired to chat about.
Relationships. I don't necessarily need one, but I do ultimately want one ... one of the long-term kind, leading to a lifetime of happiness. In the meantime, I'm having a great time on this journey, allowing myself, day-over-day, to become a match to the incredible partner of my desire.
And for anyone who is STILL interested ... here's some more stuff. I wrote this when anticipating my 40th birthday last year.
My own reflection over the past few months has been wonderfully valuable to me, and has yielded (for one thing) this list of 40 thoughts / conclusions / ideas / that -- from where I stand RIGHT NOW at least -- represent some of the principles around which I guide my life.
These are in no particular order. If they are meaningful to anyone reading this, then I am glad. If not, that’s cool too. They’re really just for me anyway.
So, Happy Birthday to Me! As amazing as the first half has been … I just can’t WAIT to see what’s in store for me after the band leaves the field …
40 Thoughts I Think
1. If you can train yourself into a pattern of thinking in which the basis of your predominant thought pattern is one of self-worthiness, then you will live the joyful and abundant life that you are supposed to be living.
2. You are no good to anyone -- especially yourself -- if you are not happy. So make it your goal to be happy, and THEN you will be of value to others. It seldom works the other way around.
3. No one can say or do anything to you that you are not in some way calling forth from them. So let their actions toward you be an indicator of something that is going on within you. And if their words or actions displease you, then use this as an opportunity to shift your point of view … since your point of view IS completely within your control.
4. The people in your life who offer you your biggest irritation are most likely the ones who have inspired you to your greatest spiritual expansion. So embrace them after you’re done being pissed off at them … again and again and again and again …
5. Be yourself. Many may think you're weird ... but it's worth it.
6. If the news were to paint an accurate picture of the world around us, then each half-hour news program would contain 29 mins, 59 seconds of beautiful sunrises, laughing children, couples holding hands, dogs catching frisbees on the beach, flowers blooming, and happy birthdays. All of the stories representing some sort of non-well-being combined would pass by so quickly that they wouldn't even be noticed.
7. Every person in our lives has aspects that we enjoy and aspects that we don't; we benefit tremendously by focusing on those aspects we wish to see.
8. There is no value in feeling guilt. Let it go.
9. YOU and only you are responsible for your happiness, and others are responsible for theirs. Anyone who demands differently from you will never be satisfied anyway, so don't even bother.
10. Appreciate the differences in others. It is truly a beautiful thing to observe how the intentions of others may be far different from your own.
11. Don’t be so serious! Be willing to make a total and complete ass of yourself. Laugh at yourself whenever you have the chance. Not only is it healthy for you, but it will also make those around you love themselves even more.
12. Friends, family, and lovers come and go ... and there's nothing wrong with that. Don't stay in a situation that is no longer right for you. It's ok to move on. It's ok to change your mind, even about the "important" stuff.
13. Every new experience offers us a new platform from which to evaluate what we want next.
14. You will ALWAYS want something just a little more than you currently have. So ya might as well get used to that feeling, and just enjoy where you are.
15. Don't engage in an action that you are not mentally aligned with. Line up the thought on it first, and then let the action be inspired. Let each action in life feel to you like it’s simply the next logical step.
16. We came here to play, not to struggle. Despite what we may have been taught, there really isn’t much gain in pain.
17. Music has an incredible power to calm, invigorate, inspire, and align. I don't know why that is … but it's way cool. If you ever find yourself feeling down, just play a song that you love … and watch as its awesome power coaxes you back toward your alignment.
18. Anger is better for you than powerless or hopelessness or depression. So allow yourself to go there when needed; just try not to stay there too long. Continually reach for the thought that provides you some relief from whereEVER you are.
19. Don't think about work AS work, or it will be just that. Try to think of it as play time that you just happen to get paid for.
20. Don't try too hard to convince anyone of anything. It's just not worth the disconnection that it will likely cause you.
21. If someone hurts you, try to think about them as a good friend who has temporarily forgotten it. It generally feels better to give them that benefit of the doubt … and it's probably closer to the truth anyway.
22. You continually create the conditions of your life. When you feel like you're stuck in a rut, it's only because the new experiences you're creating are similar to what you've already been creating.
23. When you ask for something, its essence is given to you. Immediately. And the degree to which you believe that is commensurate with your ability to see the evidence of it.
24. Every unwanted experience provides us greater clarity about what we DO want. So bless those experiences, and bless the people who bring them to you. For without this dichotomy of experiences, we would never know how good “good” can really be.
25. Desire is what calls us forward in life. Try to strike a balance between accepting and appreciating where you currently stand, while eagerly anticipating what is yet to come.
26. Give your attention to only those conditions which please you.
27. There is no reason to fear death, since there is no such thing as it. There is only life, and life, and life ... with occasional refreshing changes in perspective. Life isn't short; it's eternal. So quit using the whole death thing as an excuse to feel bad about something.
28. There is no hell; nor is karma a bitch. No one is watching us and keeping score of our good and bad actions. We need not fear any celestial reprisals.
29. Goal-setting is fine ... as long as your periodic check-ins regarding where you currently are in relation to where you want to be don't turn your attention away from where you want to be.
30. When you see that which you don't want to see ... when you hear that which you don't want to hear ... when you know that which you don't want to know ... it, understandably, causes pain. However, the real power of faith is in the ability to turn your focus to that of the broader perspective within you. For there, there is comfort. For there, there is hope. For there, there is knowing. And for there, there is joy.
31. Great friends are those whose presence in our lives causes us to pivot back toward who we really are during moments when we deviate from that.
32. Your eventual career may have little to nothing to do with what you studied in college … and that’s ok.
33. It's easy to date a cripple when both of your legs are broken.
34. Don't take being "rejected" personally. They have lived a different life, and the clarity of their desire has been born from differing circumstances than yours. They have the right to choose what they want, and the fact that they don't "want" you is really not a reflection on the value of YOU any more than the fact that they don’t like broccoli is a reflection on the value of broccoli. So go on dates! Enjoy getting to know the other. Enjoy the time that you spend together. But never look to any other for a validation of who you are. As long as you are enjoying yourself and loving life, than you are exactly where you need to be in order to achieve the eventual manifestation of all of your relationship desires.
35. We are all one. Therefore, when we perceive that we do not have access to some other –- be it through distance, “busy-ness”, death, etc, -- it is only natural that it feels like we are "missing" the other; when, in fact, what we are "missing" is actually part of ourself … the part that their interaction in our lives had the ability to bring out. That part always remains … so if the other person can’t be there with you, then try to find another avenue to bring it out, and the “missing” feeling will be diminished.
36. The basis of life is freedom. The purpose of life is joy. The inevitable result of living life is spiritual expansion. These three aspects of life comprise a powerful triumvirate of intentions which we came forth to experience.
37. Relationships should enhance one's sense of freedom, not restrict it. Relationships should add unto one's joy, not detract from it. Relationships should support individual expansion, not diminish it. Relationships which do these things are the most successful ones, because they align completely with our broader intentions.
38. No matter where you've been, life CAN just keep getting better and better. So let the past go, and just keep looking forward.
39. We miss an opportunity when we ask people the common question "how have you been doing?". It would be much more beneficial to ask the question “what are you excited about today?”. For although every present moment does has the potential to be blissful, it is really the eager anticipation for WHAT'S NEXT that makes up the thrill of life.
40. Don't listen to anyone who tells you that the fairy tale is unrealistic. Just because they don't have what THEY want doesn't mean that you cannot. :)
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