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I used to be a very active member in this site. Used to work out 6 times a week, be trim and in shape. But life happened- I worked my butt off and earned a master’s degree in Literature by writing a 93 pg thesis on Oscar Wilde’s fairy tales. At the same time I was teaching 3 classes and taking 2 classes on my own. Little by little I had to stop working out and dedicate more time to my education. Sure I gained some weight back but I felt that would not matter, since I knew I would get back to it and no one here would have a problem since I made friends with many guys here. It didn’t turn out to be that way.

As I continued to chat here, more and more guys kept telling me how fat I was getting. I figured that in a community where many of us did not started out with solid six packs and massive arms that I would be encouraged to continue working out and to keep thinking that new gains could be made once I finished my thesis. It was really sad when someone on the chat room asked flat out what was a “fatty”, referring to me, was doing in a jock site. It was something that I just did not expect. After a while, no one would talk to me because I was not the jock type. Many of the “friends” that I had “hot listed” or “buddy” stopped talking to me altogether. So I stopped coming, giving up the idea that one day I would be back in shape.

Fortunately for me I was able to make some great friends here. It took a few emails from some very good friends to get me back into believing that this community is not so bad and that I will always face self centered negative people who would always be happy by putting me down instead of working on their own issues. For that reason I decided to update my profile. I know I am not starting from zero, but I have a way to go. Will it be easy? I am sure it will be more challenging than I expect it to be but I’m ready. With a Master’s degree under my belt and a full time position in a university, I know I can do it. And I know I will have those here, who saw through the physical and were able to appreciate me for who I am, to support me and help me.

Update: Now teaching 6 classes in two colleges. Going a little nuts but enjoying myself. I am starting the 5 by 5 work out this week. I hope it will be a good change for me. I am posting a pic today, 11-03-08 so I can track my progress. I will keep you guys posted on how I do.

Guys I am looking for? After what I have been through here, I hope to meet guys that have a brain to go with the body. Guys who are down to earth, know how to have a conversation, can go from the gym or football field and be able to talk about the recent political shake ups that will mold our society. Facial hair and hairy chests don’t hurt either. If they are local, even better. Always looking for guys who I can share a work out with, and then hit the bar for a drink.

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