Letting go of those feelings for him

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    Jun 22, 2010 12:56 PM GMT
    Hey guys, so about a month ago I posted a topic regarding this guy from my school that I liked and many of you told me that he's probably straight. So after much torturous mind-fucks, I decided to tell myself that he's straight and he'll probably never be gay.

    So now I need to know how do I get rid of those feelings I have for him especially when I see him 5 times a week and I have to resist flirting with him even though I always succumb to that temptation. On top of that, there's still the very frequent "calling of my name" for no apparent reason so even if I try to avoid talking to him I still have to respond to his calls. (Somehow this sounds really animalistic to me). I know time will probably do the trick but the problem is that I've been liking him for almost a year now, and I don't think time is going to help me a lot regarding this issue.

    It sucks when I keep dreaming/thinking about him and I can't be with him...
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    Jun 22, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    boy_needs_guide saidIt sucks when I keep dreaming/thinking about him and I can't be with him...
    That sounds like the beginning stages of stalkerism.
    You need to learn how to let people be themselves without expectations, regardless of how attractive you find them, or how attached you are to them just because they're hot and nice.
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    Jun 22, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    It's not worth your time and you don't need to aggravate the hurt you already feel. You deserve better (whoever you are) and the desire to move on to new satisfying and productive encounters should motivate and encourage you. Learn the lesson from that incident, press the switch, and look into real opportunities. The more self respect you have the better you'll feel. You don't get extra points for feeling miserable. It is up to you.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Jun 22, 2010 5:08 PM GMT
    getting out and meeting new people is a great way to start getting over him.
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    Jun 22, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidgetting out and meeting new people is a great way to start getting over him.

    It's the best.
  • Jack501

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    Jun 30, 2010 9:12 PM GMT
    Hey Bud, unfortunately this kind of feeling or situation exist to people like us. I'm also in the same situations where I have this fantasy or a 'dream come true' moment about this guy. I'm a big closeted guy, still married with children and probably stay this way forever.... anyway, this guy is so dreamy and sometimes I fantasize him when I am making love with my wife. He is also married and I don't think he is gay at all but we hang out a few times for a beer.... the only way you can forget about him is to make yourself busy with other activities and tell yourself that nothing will ever happen between the two of you... that way you don't expect too much from him and you won't get hurt as much.... it's a tough love.. good luck.!
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    Jun 30, 2010 9:28 PM GMT
    This I just one of many people you will have feelings for in your lifetime. Some are viable relationship options and others are not for a variety of reasons. Right now it probably seems that he is "perfect" for you, but rest assured there will be many other "perfect for you's" out there. Distract yourself with sports, workingout, or some other hobby till a more viable option comes along.