How did you come out?

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    Jun 22, 2010 10:22 PM GMT
    So Im bored as hell at work....so I thought this might be fun. Sorry my bit is kind of long but I thinks its funny.

    For me I haven't worked up the nerve for my dad yet, but getting there. As for my mom. Her and my dad bought a new bed. The weekend they go to pick it up my dad has to work so my mom asks me to go because she cant lift heavy things...any ways we are in IKEA and we are looking at light fixtures, she had a very ugly looking lamp shade in her hand that she loved, But here is the dialogue,

    Me: "MOM!"
    (she looks at me along with a number of other people.)
    Mom: "Baby whats wrong are you okay?"
    Me: "Uhh, uhh, I like boys....."
    Mom: "come with me were gonna sit down and talk."

    So for those of you who have never been to IKEA and or don't know what it is. Its a giant Swedish furniture store and they have EVERYTHING! Including an in store cafeteria style restaurant with Swedish food.....Now my mom growing up every year for her birthday had a cake made by her dads Swedish friend called a princess cake....She gets all happy nostalgia and what not and proceeds to offer me some.

    Mom: "Oh my god I haven't had one of these in years...Baby you want one?"
    Me: "Ok mom... Im about to tell you how I like guys, don't make this more gay by giving me a princess cake."
    Mom: You want this triple chocolate truffle cake?"
    Me: "Fuck yea I do! All about the chocolate."
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    Jun 22, 2010 11:00 PM GMT
    I didn't. My parent caught me in the act.
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    Jun 22, 2010 11:33 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI didn't. My parent caught me in the act.


    details man
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    Jun 22, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    I tlld my mom I wanted every season of sex and the city one christmas. She got the hint lol
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    Jun 23, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    naivenewbie saidI tlld my mom I wanted every season of sex and the city one christmas. She got the hint lol


    I laughed my ass off.....BUD
  • calibro

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    Jun 23, 2010 1:59 AM GMT
    police station, wasn't fun
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    Jun 23, 2010 2:01 AM GMT
    Just told em I had a crush on a guy.... so thats why I looked so sad all the time
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    Jun 23, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    "So, I have a boyfriend"

    my mom then said, "next time you tell someone you're gay, try to ease into it a little better"

    Oh well, I can always rework my logic for the Dad experience..
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    Jun 23, 2010 2:07 AM GMT
    When I turned 18 I told my Mom, then said - you can tell whoever you want. I told my Grandma the next day, and she said, "Oh, I knew two men who farmed in Manitoba. Swede's I think, and that was back in the 20s. They were so sweet to each other." I miss my grandma - she was amazing.
  • nicelyproport...

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    Jun 23, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    I didn't come out.

    I was outed.

    By an anonymous caller.

    Who -- without giving his name -- phoned my parents' house to tell them the news.
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    Jun 23, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    I came out to my friends first. They knew probably a year or so before my family did. When I was brave enough, I told my twin first....months later emailed the rest of my siblings. Word spread pretty quickly after that.
  • NashRugger

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    Jun 23, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    nicelyproportioned saidI didn't come out.

    I was outed.

    By an anonymous caller.

    Who -- without giving his name -- phoned my parents' house to tell them the news.

    ouch, that sucks, and not in a good way!

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    Jun 23, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    I came out head first.
  • NashRugger

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    Jun 23, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    My parents know, but techinically have not "officially" said I'm gay to them, but likely will do it this year. They need to know the honest truth, and I may need some advice on this.
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    Jun 23, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    I'm just leaving the door cracked and if someone opens it, I'll just tumble out.icon_surprised.gif
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    Jun 23, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    Told them I had a boyfriend.
  • nicelyproport...

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    Jun 23, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    RamWX said
    nicelyproportioned saidI didn't come out.

    I was outed.

    By an anonymous caller.

    Who -- without giving his name -- phoned my parents' house to tell them the news.

    ouch, that sucks, and not in a good way!



    Not a fun day.

    Mom: Someone just called to tell us that you were gay and that you were doing drugs. (The second part wasn't true, but I guess the caller thought his story needed to be sexed up.)

    Me: Um, Mom, my pizza's here. I'm going to have to call you back.

    Maybe that's why Domino's will always hold a place in my heart.
  • MrXanderM

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    Jun 23, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    My parents were supposed to be out on a date. my mother forgot her purse and had come home to get it.

    I had invited my boyfriend over to hang and ..well fuck lol. she walked in on us. and passed out.

    my dad had to come in and pick her up.. lol
  • NashRugger

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    Jun 23, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    MrXanderM saidMy parents were supposed to be out on a date. my mother forgot her purse and had come home to get it.

    I had invited my boyfriend over to hang and ..well fuck lol. she walked in on us. and passed out.

    my dad had to come in and pick her up.. lol

    lmao! talk about finding out the hard way.
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    Jun 23, 2010 2:57 AM GMT
    I was visiting my parents in Florida in February, and my mom and I were leaving the workout room in their condo building.

    Me: Hey mom, remember that girl Sarah I told you I've been seeing? Well..her name's not Sarah.

    Mom: *chuckle* Was that a disguise name?

    Me:... yeah her name's actually (insert guy's name).

    Mom: Huh? You're dating a girl named (guy's name)?

    Me: ....no...

    Mom: So that's just kinda where you're at right now?

    Me: It's where I've always been and always will be.

    Mom: Huh. Well I think I'll wait awhile to tell your dad.

    Took my dad a few weeks to be OK with it, but now he's fine w/ it.

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    Jun 23, 2010 2:58 AM GMT
    nicelyproportioned said
    RamWX said
    nicelyproportioned saidI didn't come out.

    I was outed.

    By an anonymous caller.

    Who -- without giving his name -- phoned my parents' house to tell them the news.

    ouch, that sucks, and not in a good way!



    Not a fun day.

    Mom: Someone just called to tell us that you were gay and that you were doing drugs. (The second part wasn't true, but I guess the caller thought his story needed to be sexed up.)

    Me: Um, Mom, my pizza's here. I'm going to have to call you back.

    Maybe that's why Domino's will always hold a place in my heart.

    Which vicious queen did you say "no" to?
  • MrXanderM

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    Jun 23, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    RamWX said
    MrXanderM saidMy parents were supposed to be out on a date. my mother forgot her purse and had come home to get it.

    I had invited my boyfriend over to hang and ..well fuck lol. she walked in on us. and passed out.

    my dad had to come in and pick her up.. lol

    lmao! talk about finding out the hard way.


    hahaha... yup... my dad was even like "son, if you wouldn't have been on the bottom we wouldn't have taken it so hard...."

    lol he made it sound like i planned it out that way... hell i just liked sex on the kitchen countertops icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 23, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    My standard line for coming out so far:

    "Have you ever wondered why I've never had a girlfriend?"

    My sister and cousins have had many girlfriends and boyfriends since early high school (though I'm supposedly the only homo).
  • rnch

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    Jun 23, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    dad has long since gone to heaven (or wherever dearly departed dead souls go to) before i figured out why dating girls bored me. he wudda been a problem. icon_sad.gif

    i suspect Mom knows...but doesn't want to know.

    during our hurricane Katrina evacuation, when we all thought the world was coming to an end, i shamlessly flirted with our waiter at our exile location during lunch. he was tall and thin, perfect skin and hair (black and wavey..dyed? dunno), jade green eyes, "manscaped" eyebrows, a darn cute azz, man fur poking up thru his top 2 unbottoned shirt, and a ..less.... than masculine voice. not overly lisping or ultra fem, just enought that my gadar was pegging at the end of the meter.

    i smiled and nodded at him. he smiled back with a mouth full of dazzling, well cared for pearly white teeth. with my gaydar bonging in my head, and my heart pumping, i rubbed the back of his calf muscle while he stood next to me taking our order, looked up and smiled sweetly back at him, chatting about food specials and the area of town were were in and the weather and whatever the hell i could work into the polite conversations. he came back quite often during the first meal to check on us, refill our beverages, see if we needed anything...else (i knew what "I" wanted and it wasn't listed on the menu!) i left my credit card receipt with my name circled and my cell # wrote next to it...this at the first meal no less! in front of mom and 6 other family members! ( i thought...what the hell, my house/or lives are runined....go for it! the worst has already happened the day before in new orleans. believing that your home, job and lives had been destroyed 24 hours earlier by biblical style flooding is a strangely liberating experience!)

    at dinner, he stood very close to me every chance he could get. more calf rubbing and staring and checking on us..always asked me first. when the bill came, he put it squarely in front of me. below the bill was a business card with his name and number on the back.

    of the three weeks we were there, i spent about 40% of the nights at his apt. more than once i would stumble into our evacuation condo and pass out on the sofa; wore out from the "activities" of the night before. surely i smelled of him and his cologne (and lube and latex and grass) while i snored away on the sofa... surely a family member picked up on this! he would come to pick me up in his truck, with a noticeable rainbow sticker on the tailgate. he was charming and sweet and cuddley and foiked like a porn star.

    if mom or any other family member that was there would ask, i would fess up. but nobody's gonna ask.

    Deep Denial is a family trait.








    (wilton/RV is not the only one here who can ramble on and on!)

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    Jun 23, 2010 3:49 AM GMT
    Never thought it was anybody's business but mine and the guy I was doin'. I think my younger brother may have seen me and my BF in the swimming pool. He's never said a word. Years later he came out. I just recently told him about me being gay. Of course he knew, but he still hasn't mentioned that night at the pool. He's a class act.

    I'm surprised my parents never caught my BF and I cause we were always in my room,door closed, and fuckin'

    His Mom caught us once and made his life miserable to the point he wouldn't live with me as an openly gay couple. We parted ways.