Str8 acting in bed

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    May 30, 2007 9:16 PM GMT
    Just wondering if any others have experienced or have an opinion on the so-called "straight acting" types who, for the life of them, are "real men", yet turn out to be some of the biggest, queeny bottoms in bed when it comes down to it. I've found that it's the men who claim to be the most masculine who are in fact, the exact opposite in private and those who in fact don't advertise their masculinity who are the biggest animals in bed.

    Funny to me how the stereotype of the muscle boy is still equated with the dom top while the smaller guy (or guy with the jelly booty) is assumed to be the bottom. I've got a pretty round ass, am not the beefiest man out there, and have long hair, yet it amazes me how men always assume that I'm gonna be the bottom (which I will, though I like it all, fyi).

    Any thoughts on this superficial post of mine comrades???
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    May 30, 2007 9:34 PM GMT
    Yep, absolutely. If guys who go on and on about how masculine they are aren't actually girlymen, they usually turn out to be into hypermasculine drag.

    I don't think masculinity has anything in reality to do with sexual roles, but a lot of men still subscribe to the notion that bottoming is assuming a feminine role. So they seem to overcompensate. You have to fuck them in their rugby shirt while they fondle their gun ... or something.

    Cyberspace is basically Bizarro World (Htrae). The VGL never are. The hugely hung are microphallic. Those who can fuck all night are premature ejaculators. The well built are literally midgets (yes, that happened to me, for real). I could go on.

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    May 30, 2007 9:36 PM GMT
    I love a masculine guy who is willing to be submissive. I'm attracted to masculine looking men. However, I enjoy playing with traditional gender roles. I like to treat the guy I'm with like a beautiful lady. Hahaha... opening doors, serenading him with flowers, etc... otherwise, it juse ends up turning into a mental cockfight.
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    May 31, 2007 12:12 AM GMT
    Yes Jackal YES! That is something I have NEVER understood.

    A lot of bottoms you meet (from my experience) are so manly and all about being a MAN, bla bla bla..however, in the bedroom, their voices start to change into higher pitches and they turn into sounding like bitches. So strange.
    Then again, it's really not.

    And no, not ALL bottoms act like that. However, I have had this experience many times.
  • docbailey2005

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    May 31, 2007 3:40 PM GMT
    Can't the same be said for those total fem guys who feel they need to top? I think it works both ways. Some fem guys claim to be top to compensate for their over the top feminine ways. Just a thought.
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    May 31, 2007 4:32 PM GMT
    Reminds me of that lesbian bumper sticker: "Butch in the streets. Femme in the sheets."
  • GQjock

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    May 31, 2007 10:55 PM GMT
    Str8 acting in bed....

    Now isn't that an oxymoron when it comes to gay men? :)
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    Jun 01, 2007 1:04 AM GMT
    obscenewish> overcompensate

    Bingo!


    obscenewish> Cyberspace is basically Bizarro World (Htrae). The VGL never are. The hugely hung are microphallic. Those who can fuck all night are premature ejaculators. The well built are literally midgets....

    Well, gay people are good at marketing (and retail, too)!


    GQjock> isn't that an oxymoron when it comes to gay men?

    In the words of Romanovsky & Phillips:

    || How straight can they be when they're down on their knees.


    Why does this topic remind me of Fortune Cookies? (:
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    Jun 02, 2007 7:56 AM GMT
    Vord sounds like he has it right - being really polite, but he has to be willing to receive the same kind of treatment. In my estimation, if I was with a man, I would want to give and take.

    I really don't know if I'm masculine or feminine acting, and I really don't care. If I'm with someone, I want them to like me for who I am. I'm probably somewhere in the middle, and I think that my ideal guy would be somewhere in the middle, as well. Why? I think that there would be a better chance of treating each other better, and the relationship being like for the rest of our lives (which, if I ever have a partner, someday, that's what I want it to be).

    Is that unrealistic? Do I have a wrong view of being gay or of the world or of a relationship?
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    Jun 03, 2007 3:10 AM GMT
    When guys advertise themselves as "masculine" or "straight acting", they are really saying they have all sorts of issues with gender and sexuality, and are a mess in the head.

    The rest of us act the way we are. We may be butch or sissy, but we are happy that way and are therefore MUCH sexier, and much better in bed because of it.
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    Jun 03, 2007 9:49 AM GMT
    Here, Here!
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    Jun 03, 2007 10:25 AM GMT
    I read this psychology thing from Jung. he said that homosexuals are often fixated on their personas. So whatever they project on the outside is the opposite of what they feel inside. so supposedly if a man has to project a manly masculine persona of himself on the outside the more feminine and sensitive he becomes on the inside.
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    Jun 06, 2007 9:18 PM GMT
    Its embarrassing to say, but I like to be treated like a lady. I just naturally play that more submissive role and enjoy being held and protected and when put in a situation where I feel that I am more dominant that someone else, I can't pursue it it just doesn't do it for me.

    I don't think I could love a guy willing to bottom. I don't know why really. its just the way my mind works. So a guy could be the most manly steak eating masterpiece on earth, but if he bottoms, then it just won't work.

    I've never felt a need to be more feminine or more masculine for all that matters because of my submissiveness. Even though I must admit that I have often strived to be smaller to assure that I am with someone larger than me.

    A lot of people do go out of their way to be "manly" and you see that more on here than any where else. I truly do think that some guys don't feel like a man unless they fit the straight stereotype. A lot of this comes from them not making peace with themselves I feel. They need to accept that they are gay and nothing is going to change that. Overcompensation just makes you fraud in the end.

    And Obscenewish, please keep posting replies. You are both smart and hilarious and honestly you give me hope for my future as a gay male.
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    Jun 28, 2007 1:04 AM GMT
    okay, my humble opinion on this subject...

    I honestly don't get it. The whole obsession we tend to have with masculine this, str8 acting that, femme this femme that I mean people seem to get so caught up in that it's almost like there's a list of rules outside of gay establishments Separating femme and masc into two groups of acceptable behavior.

    I find that so irritating. When people ask me if I'm masc/femme I honestly don't know what to answer, maybe I should just say multi-faceted I'll say I have tendencies of both I guess, it's my personality and I react to my surroundings. Some of the things I do and mannerisms can be called more femme, and some lean more to the masculine end of the spectrum. People get entirely too caught up in their prescribed category they don't know how to just be (I have seen femmes 'slip' and get bass in their voice, and then literally correct themselves and revert back to lisping) Seriously?! We have to "Stay in character" now? Ridiculous.