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    Feb 06, 2008 7:39 AM GMT

    Hmmm... thought of another interesting topic. Especially since this site is mostly populated by the rugged manly studly jock types (which I'm not, but swears to be someday soon! LMAO).

    I was thinking of sob stories... literally.

    First off, my own story. I cried a lot of times before adolescence. I got into a lot of fights because I had always been eccentric (though not much of a loner) in elementary. When I'm angry, I'm usually bawling all throughout. I was always the more aggressive one in fights (even though I never initiated them). I had the reputation of being a berserker, LOL, because I very very rarely get angry, but when I do I go irrational. I once chased my whole grade 3 class around the classroom with a chair, bit a bully until he bled, and chased a much older bully with a bamboo pole and the intent to kill. LOL All done while sniffling and sobbing pathetically. Heh

    I can only remember one instance in my teens in which I cried in front of people. What's horrible is that the reason was totally inane. I was in sophomore high school (HS starts earlier for Filipinos, I was 12 or 13) and it was our first day of class in Biology. In the absence a seating arrangement, we pretty much had to pick our own 'territories'. I wanted to sit with my bestfriend, so I chose a seat and plopped my backpack on it. We had to go outside for a bit, and when I returned, one of my female classmates had claimed my seat. Grrr...

    We started arguing and I don't know what happened next but I suddenly realized I was crying. The fact that I was crying in front of the whole class made me cry even harder! LOL It's funny to think of it now, but it was totally humiliating. Luckily, the culture here is much less judgmental. Nobody laughed, even the girl apologized. Later on, I realized I was just having a really bad day and the emotional pressure of arguing over a seat caused me to burst into tears.

    So guys... considering that you're all homosexual to some degree and mostly masculine,

    a) Have you ever broken down and cried in front of other people before? No need to elaborate the reasons (it might be personal), just tell us if you did and what you thought of it.

    b) Have you ever cried when reading a good book/movie?

    c) Have you ever cried yourself to sleep?

    d) Also what are your thoughts about men who cry? Do you consider it less manly?

    Personally, I just CAN'T resist a guy who cries in front of me. He could be the ugliest guy in the world but I'd want to marry him right then and there (WARNING: EXAGGERATION DETECTED). There's just something VERY attractive about someone who can show his own vulnerability. I'm curious about what you guys think of it.
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    Feb 06, 2008 6:03 PM GMT
    I sobbed like a baby when my grandfather died. He was a wonderful man and I miss him still. (And he died before a lot of you were even born.)

    I can get the waterworks going over a movie pretty easily.
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    Feb 06, 2008 6:07 PM GMT
    I think most cry (I did) at the loss of a family member. With a movie or series, sure I've done so.
    I think our society has relaxed (albeit not much) the "cry thing" with men to a point... but even I would react in an odd way if I saw a man crying in public. I would think there must have been something really bad.. for him not to have his act together.
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    Feb 06, 2008 6:13 PM GMT
    I'm really not good at crying. Last time it happened was after my mom had a cancer scare. Instead of being sad or worried, I was irrationally really mad at her all day long, but finally just broke down and started sobbing at one point in the evening. It lasted about ten seconds, before it morphed into bitter laughter at myself for crying. Weird, I know. I just can't do sad. I can brood up a nice angsty storm, pout like a fiend, and work up a tremendous temper, but I can't cry.
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    Feb 06, 2008 6:16 PM GMT
    I am not one to cry but I did when my mom passed away suddenly June 23 2005 of a stroke. It was the WORST. We were extremely close. I had never lost anyone that close to me before. Every now and then I will break down because I miss her. Needless to say, I cannot watch the episode of sex and the city when Miranda's mom has a heart attack and dies. It just reminds me of my mom. Break out the tissue! icon_cry.gif
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    Feb 06, 2008 6:23 PM GMT
    A damn good movie can water me up, however for crying crying, I believe the last REAL HARD cry was when my Great Grand Mother passed away YEARS ago! She was my heart & soul!! She lived til 97 and was healthy, she was just old! She passed in her seep, peaceful, just as her soul was! I was in shock for a couple of days, so it took a bit for me to let go, but when I did, I seriously STOPPED the burial services!!!

    Miss her!!!
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    Feb 06, 2008 8:10 PM GMT
    I would need to know somebody very good to cry in front of him. I dont cry very often, even at the funeral of the woman that raised me I didnt cry. A good Movie with an moving end can cause tears sometimes.

    To Guys who think it makes them less manly. Of course, Man are normally seen as the strong ones who dont cry, but crying is something Natural I would say. As long as somebody doesnt cry over every little thing thats wrong, there is no reason in calling him less manly.
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    Feb 06, 2008 8:12 PM GMT
    I cried at my grandmothers funeral. Didn't think I would, but it just happened out of nowhere. And movies, when I'm watching them alone, randomly make me cry. Sometimes not even at sad parts.
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    Feb 06, 2008 8:27 PM GMT
    a) Only in front of ex's and a 2 very close friends.

    b) Teared up at a few movies...never sobbed.

    c) Never cried myself to sleep.

    d) I don't see anything wrong with crying it as long you don't get weepy about every little thing. I'd much rather see someone show some genuine emotion when it's warranted rather being stoic like nothing ever bothers them at all.
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    Feb 06, 2008 8:34 PM GMT
    It is helpful to cry sometimes... I really did cry when I saw Guernica. I cried in Brokeback Mountain. I cried when my dad died. I cried when I was dumped once in a very unpleasant manner. Wherever there is no better more productive response, it is a useful way to clear oneself of one's troubles.
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    Feb 06, 2008 8:44 PM GMT
    Two years ago I used to cry every day/two , everywhere when I'm alone bed , bathroom, outside watering our plants..I guess I was in a deep depression at that stage...(NEVER cried in front of anyone!)

    At these days I forgot about crying though sometimes I cry for no reason .. I just wake up and everything seems wrong the whole day..

    About men who cry .. as you said It's attractive and I'd even marry him just to make him shut up LOL ... no really, a man who cry is someone who has feelings and not afraid to show them(I'd probably start crying with him instead of cheering him up..LOL)
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    Feb 06, 2008 8:58 PM GMT
    I cried my eyes out when my first LTR was ended with my lover drowning. This lasted the whole night and I got very little sleep and I was emotionally exhausted the following day and that seemed to make me cry even more. I also cried a lot when my parents died. Sometimes I can get a little weepy over a movie but this is not at all like the above.

    According to an article on this site, tears are good for you.

    “The protein concentration of emotional tears was 24% greater than irritant tears. The complex proteins in emotional tears were those involved in the human stress response. Frey et al proposed that tears performed a sort of physical catharsis, expelling toxins from the body.”

    So guys, go ahead and cry when you feel a need. You might even improve your health by doing so.
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    Feb 06, 2008 9:53 PM GMT
    I very rarely cry, even when my Dad died I did not cry (I cried a bit when I realized there was no hope left). I also cried very little when I found out I was HIV+. The only thing that can sometimes get me going is a song that brings back painful memories from a prior period of my life. Like GHoSTa when I was severely depressed I would go beyond crying into gut-wrenching sobbing but that fortunately did not last more than a few months icon_sad.gif

    Alexander7 was right, crying is actually good for you that is why we do it! I am not sure why I don't cry much, I have always been like that even as a kid. On the other hand my straight older brother and his son can really turn the waterworks on! Very strange.
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    Feb 07, 2008 8:05 PM GMT

    Well...except for movies. With animals in them. Especially cartoon animals. Or people. Or animals AND people. Or any sort of sappy scene. Or really good stories about love. Or loss. I read a book that an ex gave me called "Random Acts of Heroic Love" and had to close it a bunch of times because I couldn't read through the tears. So...yeah, I'm pretty much a complete softie.

    I can move from anger to tears to happiness to quiet contemplation pretty easily, depending on what's going on.

    Unless I'm in "hard-ass" mode, in which case pretty much nothing changes my outward demeanor.

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    Feb 07, 2008 8:47 PM GMT
    Right before I came out, I was crying constantly. Daily. It sucked. People thought I was nuts, and I guess I was. Cried myself to sleep almost weekly.
    Sobbed uncontrollably as I came out to my folks.
    And once I started coming out, that all stopped. I'll mist up once in a while with a movie, but not too much.
    I agree with you Sedative. There's something hot about a guy that can show his emotions. I don't want a guy that acts like a child but, if he's truly sad about something, I have no problems with him crying.
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    Feb 08, 2008 7:30 AM GMT
    I realized I hadn't posted my greatest cry ever. heh.

    I'm still too young (knock on wood) to have ever experienced death of anyone close. My last two grandparents passed away in the past couple of years, and though I loved them, we weren't that close and it was kinda expected.

    My greatest cry was over a boy. icon_razz.gif I know! Corny. It was when I was in my sophomore college I think. My high school first love, came home and showed us a pic of his GIRLfriend on his cellphone. He didn't have a girl in HS like me, and was the thoughtful touchy-feely kind of guy, so I always hoped he was gay too. Anyway, we were already drunk and when he showed us the pic, I remember breaking into this great big fake smile and congratulating him.

    Inside I was screaming! LOL

    I remembered just wanting to go home and cry my heart out. Needless to say, I got absolutely riproaring drunk that night. When the party ended, another friend accompanied me on the bus ride home (he lived a bit farther, but we had the same bus routes), he commented on how quiet I was. LOL. I was holding back tears (literally biting my lower lip to keep it from trembling, heh). When I got home, I didn't even bother to take off my shoes, just ran up to my room, plopped on the bed and sobbed like a baby.

    I remembered having to bury my face on the pillow, coz I didn't want anyone else to hear me. Heh. I was blaming God, blaming myself, blaming my gayness, etc. That was the beginning of a three year depression that I only managed to break two years ago. Asides from the earlier incident I mention, I was like GHoSTa, I cried in private. Depression, anger, feeling lost and alone. Ah! Teenage angst and first love! icon_razz.gif I'm over him now. But yeah, that was my worst crying episode.

    I'm happier now (at least I like to think so. LOL), but if a situation demands that the only outlet for emotion is crying, I wouldn't hesitate. icon_razz.gif

    And by 'situation', I don't mean every time I stub my toe. LOL
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    Feb 08, 2008 7:37 AM GMT
    Speaking of crybabies, I sure am glad Ricky finally got kicked off Project Runway!

    Not many things are able to incite public tears, but man Brokeback Mountain sure put me to the test icon_wink.gif