What were you like in high school and how have you changed?

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    Jun 26, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    For me, high school was a rollercoaster of emotions. I was aggressive and difficult: I would smash windows, damage school property, swear at teachers and would end up in detention every week. At one point I clocked up 7 hours of detention.

    Absolutely hated the popular crowd and did everything to rebel against conformity. Didn't have many friends, wasn't concerned about making any. But the twist in my situation was that I wasn't a hopeless case: I was an academic and music scholar so teachers tried to see through the phase I was going through and they tried to help me out. In my last year I was an angel, did a complete 360, got the top grades and made school history on the music front. Talk about a turnaround!

    So describe what you were like in high school. Are you a completely different person now to how you used to be? Spew your life story.
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    Jun 26, 2010 4:41 PM GMT
    some of us are too fucking old to remember icon_lol.gif-

    -the one thing I do remember was that we had shop class first thing in the morning---we'd go out and get stoned before class and then we'd sit on our shop stools and giggle like a bunch of school girls and then we'd go and use the table saw or something equally as dangerous-we weren't the brightest bunch-but we had fun. I've changed in that I haven't smoked pot in a very long time---
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    Jun 26, 2010 5:36 PM GMT
    I was rebellious and a non-conformist, too, yet also nerdy, shy, creative, and obviously queer to everyone, yet dismissive of that possibility myself.

    - only one of 450 Seniors who refused to have his picture taken for the school yearbook
    - also the only student who refused to attend his graduation ceremony (the school withheld my diploma over it, didn't release it for months afterwards)
    - school chess champion
    - not only about the only student who wrote with a fancy fountain pen, but I filled it with either bright turquoise or brown ink, depending on my mood
    - rode a motorcycle to school in my senior year
    - would also ride a bicycle from dawn to dusk on weekends and in the summer
    - refused to participate in school sports, but was our country club tennis champion for my age group
    - when a bully kept messing with me in the cafeteria, I invited him outside, and promptly decked him, earning me a visit to the Principal and threats of suspension, which I successfully avoided using legal counter-threats of my own
    - prone to gym shower hardons that made me dread that mandatory routine, since back then getting shower stiffies could ruin a boy's reputation throughout the entire school
    - could legally drink at 18 and got drunk a lot, and drove drunk at times, but never drank at home nor in front of my parents anywhere else

    Not too much has changed since then. Learned to better control the unwanted woodies while in the Army, and it actually got even easier AFTER I came out. I think giving free rein to my desires in gay bathhouses took the pressure off me in non-gay locker rooms, showers, saunas and hot tubs. Now I hardly pay any attention to the guys around me in there, because I can get so much better willing action elsewhere.

    Still write with a fountain pen, though no longer with strange & flamboyant ink colors, still hate to have my photo taken, still enjoy motorcycling though my health has forced me to cut way back. And remain shy underneath the assertive social exterior I had to construct to be successful in the Army. But my natural combativeness that got me hauled before the Principal later served me well in the military.

    Continue to drink like a fish, why I still have a liver is a medical mystery. But never did drink in front of my parents all my life, who never saw me drunk or even tipsy. Which reminds me, I should see if hubby wants to go out for lunch & drinks right now... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 26, 2010 5:52 PM GMT
    Arrogant, nerd, temperamental and sensitive, and angry could best describe me in high school.

    Less arrogant, still a nerd to a certain degree, less temperamental, still sensitive (people know exactly what they are saying and doing to push your buttons and get a reaction), and less angry.

    There has been growth, but I still have some ways to go.
  • rnch

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    Jun 26, 2010 6:17 PM GMT
    i was a clean cut,conservative, prim, proper, southern baptist church goer saving his virginity for the honeymoon night.

    obviously NOT an issue today!
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    Jun 26, 2010 6:31 PM GMT
    Eh, I swore a lot, had a mohawk, gave myself my first piercings, started getting tattoos, was a geeky computer programmer, and listened to a lot of Tool and Dead Kennedys.

    What's changed since then?

    ... I started letting other people pierce me instead of doing it myself. icon_twisted.gif
  • rnch

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    Jun 26, 2010 6:41 PM GMT
    Wilton said.. But never did drink in front of my parents all my life, who never saw me drunk or even tipsy. Which reminds me, I should see if hubby wants to go out for lunch & drinks right now... icon_biggrin.gif
    even as an adult, i was/am uncomfortable abou drinking in front of parents..some kind of mixed up respect issue goin' on there i guess....but, as the bf (and others) will agree, i have NO problem drinking and swallowing around them! icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 26, 2010 7:44 PM GMT
    In the sixties here in the UK there were two types of "High School"
    The brightest of students (pupils) who passed the 11-Plus exams went to the Grammar school. There they excelled academically, and ended up going to University. 11-Plus failures like myself ended up in the academic trash can, then officially known as Secondary Modern schools, today known as Comprehensives.
    The undercurrent feeling in all of us was fear. There were at least three male teachers who would wield the cane (corporal punishment) too easily.
    Back then I lacked confidence, I was fearful, introverted and crap at games. Wearing a tie as school uniform was compulsory - several pupils were punished for breaking this rule (in warm weather). The sports master once thrust his finger down my neck and demanded,
    "Why aren't you wearing your tie?"
    Of course now I can understand it all. Being failures academically, we were being prepared to join the Army to fight and defend the glorious British Empire. In other words, since we did not have the brains, we were dispensable!
    It took several years after leaving school in 1968 to gradually gain self-confidence. That's where my passion for solo world travel began (the first time in 1973 then aged 20, I backpacked Italy, then went further as I gained experience and confidence). Academically, I attended college and attained the exam passes I should have gotten at school. Also in 1972 I joined a Life Saving club where I qualified as a full time Lifeguard, which involved study of Human Anatomy.
    Also as a social rebel, I began to grow my hair long in 1970, and I had it long ever since.
    And where I failed in school games, I made up for that in taking up running, bodybuilding, then later - triathlons.
    Today I'm back in the gym, this time working out to lose weight.
    Adult life has more than compensated for my wasted years at school!
  • jgymnast733

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    Jun 26, 2010 8:55 PM GMT
    Once i entered high school i was singled out by the dean in assembly and told to stop talking,,he asked me my name and when i told him GAUGUIN he said,,,OH NO , NOT ANOTHER ONEicon_eek.gif I guess my brothers left their mark, as the faculty let out a sigh of UGGG...
    I was rather a loner at first but once i made the gymnastics team i became a fuckin God in that school [no shit], fan club and all....it being an all boy school the fan club was a way for the DL dudes to let you know there interested in you...icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 26, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    awkward ( still am)
    self conscious ( not anymore)
    racially conscious (not anymore)
    skinny ( not anymore)
    shy ( still somewhat)
    afraid to speak up ( not anymore)
    stutter if i have a crush on you ( sometimes it still happens icon_smile.gif )
    wears thick lenses ( not anymore)
    had zero sex ( still happening)
    Short ( not anymore)


    icon_rolleyes.gifi think ive changed for the better and with each day i find out new stuff about myself.
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    Jun 27, 2010 2:10 AM GMT


    I'm still the same gregarious, funny, outgoing smart-ass I was way back when but just all grown up.icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 27, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    I was a loner waste-of-skin.
  • bmw0

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    Jun 27, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    Oh i was a big boy, band nerd and had a girlfriend...
    Now im in the best shape i've ever been in, i'm still a bit of a nerd.. icon_smile.gif I just can't give up on star trek and wraslin. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 27, 2010 2:24 AM GMT
    I was FAAAAAAAAAAT and thus low self confidence. Now am fit, can run more than any of my high school classmates and doing much better in confidence department. Oh yes am no longer a Virgin as well icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 27, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    I was the worse little dorky uber-Christian boy in the world who even felt bad about saying "darn." Srsly. I was really that fucking bad. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 27, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    As Aerosmith put it, I was "F.I.N.E. fine..."

    Much better now.
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    Jun 27, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    I was and remain somewhat of a perfectionist, but I try harder now to relax, lol
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    Jun 27, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
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    Wilton said.. But never did drink in front of my parents all my life, who never saw me drunk or even tipsy. Which reminds me, I should see if hubby wants to go out for lunch & drinks right now... icon_biggrin.gif
    even as an adult, i was/am uncomfortable abou drinking in front of parents..some kind of mixed up respect issue goin' on there i guess....but, as the bf (and others) will agree, i have NO problem drinking and swallowing around them! icon_wink.gif

    ::: PERK ::: Swallowing?

    And we did go out for lunch shortly after I wrote that, and had a nice white wine with my meal.

    As for not drinking in front of my parents, I don't know what that was about. They certainly drank in front of me, and would order Shirley Temples for my sister & me at restaurants when we were mere children, so that we all sat there with cocktail glasses in front of us, before we were even teenagers. It was sort of the same thinking, I suppose, that produced the chocolate cigarettes in white paper wrappers we also had as kids in the 1950s.

    But drink alcohol in front of my parents? Never, ever, ever, even into my late 40s, when my father passed away, 5 years after my mother. That was totally taboo, though they themselves never said a word about it. I just knew. I was already a retired Army Colonel by then, but I guess in my mind I was always a child in their presence, and governed by the old rules.
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    Jun 27, 2010 3:26 AM GMT
    Oh my gosh. I was a total outsider. Think about a gay male version of Ally Sheedy's character in Breakfast Club, and you're close. I was perfectly happy in all black, except for the three silver watches on one wrist...lol. I knew I was gay, but couldn't bring myself to say it. I was in a fight at least every other week, because some jackass thought it would be cool to try to pick on me or call me a fag or whatever.

    Actually, I ran into a schoolmate a couple of years ago (she was a receptionist somewhere) and she says, "Didn't we go to highschool together"? "Yeah, I remember you. We had several classes together," I replied. Then she says, "Yeah. You were the one who liked to fight all the time."

    At least I was remembered for something...lol. icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 27, 2010 3:57 AM GMT
    Oh lord, please tell me I am not answering this thread.

    I was different things in different places.

    grade 8: just moved to Toronto for the final year of middle school, Vice President of Student Council (I campaigned on promises of getting a candy machine, and reversing bans on water bottles and white out in class rooms). Uber-nerd, all my time doing homework, A's in everything, I had no life, and friends I came to resent.

    grade 9: first year of HS at a school of 3500 people from everywhere in the world, still a nerd, obsessed with Lord of the Rings (I know).

    grade 10: left that ghetto school to go to an art school, where I became an 'art nerd', met one of my best friends in my life to this day, and hung out with the 'goth girls', but I was like a little prep kid, so it always looked so odd. oh, and i was chubby, haha. but because of my best friend and friends, I was figuring out my own self a little more back then.

    grade 11: moved back to vancouver, deeply repressed my sexuality, became a film geek with a few close guy friends, always watching and making movies. also a theatre geek, writing, acting and directing my own play (about the war in Afghanistan), and doing all things theatre.

    grade 12: made a new best friend, got into trouble (but never 'caught'), developed a 'problem', very angry, resentful person, totally spiteful and full of hate. I really don't like who I was at this point in my life, probably more than at any other time thus far.

    but five years later.... jesus... five years?... hmm.... well, here I am. Looking back, all I can say is, "thank god I'm not in high school anymore."
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    Jun 27, 2010 4:12 AM GMT
    I was kind of a perfectionist. Straight A's, National Honor Society, Ran track and cross country, didn't drink, didn't smoke, didn't party. Basically, trying to be the model student. I had a core group of friends that didn't really have a cliq.

    Noticing a pattern? I was not me in high school I was who I thought everyone else wanted me to be in high school. I was also pretty shy.

    Today, I'm so much more outgoing, confident, and have a better sense of who I am. I'm not (as) afraid to voice what I'm interested in and take a stand. Still a tiny bit of a perfectionist, but I'm slowly letting that go.
  • beaujangle

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    Jun 27, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    I was skinny, shy and blushed a lot ...
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    Jun 27, 2010 5:38 AM GMT
    I hate to do this but i must... this thread is good

    Highschool-- I looked terrible

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    College 5 years Later

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    and Now.

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    Dont laugh!! if i see it on tmz. I will sue...lol
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    Jun 27, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    I was a fat loser, had no friends, absolute bottom of the totem pole. Endured daily ridicule and consistently made excuses to not have to go to that torturous place on a daily basis.

    I guess I'm not fat anymore, though I'll always see myself as fat in some ways. I still have no friends but I had a stint during college where I did have friends and went out regularly. I don't get ridiculed anymore, which is nice. It's really nice.
  • Midas426

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    Jun 27, 2010 5:55 AM GMT
    High school...
    Skinny...check.
    Nerd.....check.
    Was teased mercilessly.....check.
    Because of said teasing...denied my gay side (didn't want my tormenters to be right.)

    Now...
    Skinny...with a little gay fat....check.
    Nerd....smaller check.
    Not teased much these days.
    Accept that I'm gay...check.
    Like my looks much better now than back then....check.