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    Jun 28, 2010 1:37 AM GMT
    Ok so I don't know what to do I've been talking to this really hot guy online (haven't met him yet) he's really nice and dreamy and blah blah blah . I asked him if he had a facebook and he gave me his email address and I googled it (normally when u google an email their facebook and myspace come up. Well they didn't this time, but his bareback.com account did... I asked him about it and he said he was emberassed and I told him he should watch it in case a future job he's interested in googles him. Only word left in my head is ... What?! I didn't even know bareback.com existed!!! Do I completely forget about him or what?
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    Jun 28, 2010 2:41 AM GMT
    Forget about him? Why? Because he has a bareback.com account? I have a realjock account and I'm not a jock.icon_wink.gif
    If you're planning to get to the stage where you would have sex with him, then well.....that's up to you. Insist he wear a condom with you if you are comfortable with it. If not, then it's best to be 'friends without benefits' and move on.
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    Jun 28, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    As long as he knows you want to use protection and agrees with it, there shouldn't be a problem. If he's barebacked recently, he should at least get tested before you poke him (or vice versa).
  • HOTWEILLER

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    Jun 28, 2010 8:09 AM GMT
    I think you cannot judge for that.... I am member of a bear website and i`m not a bear.... U don`t know the interests he had when he created his account.
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    Jun 28, 2010 8:20 AM GMT
    Well....how do you feel about it??? If you're ok with it then go for it, if not then move on. A guy like you will have no trouble finding someone. But from what i gather (just by the name of the site and nothing more), i'd be wary...but it only really matters if you think its a big deal.

    So, my dear, the first thing you need to do is decide what you think about it and go with your gut....remember to ALWAYS trust your gut.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 28, 2010 10:22 AM GMT
    I wouldn't discount him
    but I'd still keep it in the back of my mind
  • neosyllogy

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    Jun 28, 2010 12:58 PM GMT
    Personally, I wouldn't play with a guy with a history_of/tendency_to barebacking. I think that's just ridiculous and unnecessary risk on your part.
    Safe sex is a lifestyle baby! icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 28, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    ok so i had never heard of bareback.com either. so i looked it up.

    hmm interesting... it seems like manhunt only more honest.

    but anyway as far as ur situation goes. i woudlnt close the deal on him or anything. he can still be a really cool guy. i know ive created profiles on odd gay sites before, sometimes jsut to check em out. and then forgot what they were called and never got on it again or never deleted my profile or whatever. and besides... as of right now hes a single guy. he can do what he wants.

    IF
    u guys start something and get into a relationship, u guys shoudl talk about those kinds of things and if its something that makes you uncomfortable, he should delet it. AND by the same token if hes uncomfortable with you being on, say Realjock, then you should delete urs.

    (but then again... is any guy worth cutting off ur connection to us?)
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    Jun 28, 2010 2:10 PM GMT
    but heres the thing...

    and i appriciate all ur answers....

    this is realjock, a social networking site for gay men who enjoy sports/ working out. and to the guy who said hes on a bear website but hes not a bear and to the guy who said hes on realjock but not a jock. those sites are ok with me. Its a way to meet guys of certain interest...

    but bareback .com? i mean theres a section there specificly for "do u take loads? do u give loads?" and they both said yes. I'm all about being healthy and not just with diet and exercise but with my sex life too.

    I dont wanna be an ass and just throw him to the curb but i'm very wary of it
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    Jun 28, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    if it concerns you that much you should drop him.

    given, i would give him the benifit of the doubt. see where it goes and if you guys are compatable. i mean. if hes a single dude on that site doing whatever, thats his bussiness. if you guys end up becomeing serrious then thats something u should look into and talk about

    but as of right now u havnt even meet the guy. your really not in a position to bring up his personal lifestyle and ask for him to alter it.

    But when it comes down to it, if your not comfortable talking to him because of his personal life, then your not comfortable and move on.

    I'd say still give him a shot if he seems liek a good guy other than this one thing u found. if u guys hit it off and get serrious then it really doesnt matter what he does in his single life. Right?
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    Jun 28, 2010 2:58 PM GMT
    waxon saidbut heres the thing...

    and i appriciate all ur answers....

    this is realjock, a social networking site for gay men who enjoy sports/ working out. and to the guy who said hes on a bear website but hes not a bear and to the guy who said hes on realjock but not a jock. those sites are ok with me. Its a way to meet guys of certain interest...

    but bareback .com? i mean theres a section there specificly for "do u take loads? do u give loads?" and they both said yes. I'm all about being healthy and not just with diet and exercise but with my sex life too.

    I dont wanna be an ass and just throw him to the curb but i'm very wary of it


    "Dont wanna be an ass"... nice pun..
  • dannyboy1101

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    Jun 28, 2010 3:53 PM GMT
    Just because someone gets turned on looking at something does not mean that that is what they expect in their everyday lives. Some people use internet porn to satisfy their fantasies rather than doing it in real life.

    I think you need to relax and put that out of your mind unless it becomes an expectation in real life. Judging him on the basis of this without any other deal-breakers would be a bit too conservative IMO in this case, and let's face it, we're all really good at picking out other flaws to dump guys over. I say do the date and use this as the tipping point (if you have a large pile of negatives but you're still on the fence, this can be the last straw). If there are no negatives besides this, let it go. Most gays are quick enough to dismiss over stupid shit and perhaps that's why so many are in the "there are no good guys out there" mentality.
  • EricLA

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    Jun 28, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    Depends what you're looking for. If you're looking for something long-term, this is a big red flag and I'd move on if I were you. If you're just looking for something physical, then as long as you use protection and engage in safer sex (good time to read up on how HIV is transmitted if you're not exactly sure), then it's probably okay.
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    Jun 28, 2010 6:06 PM GMT
    dannyboy1101 saidJust because someone gets turned on looking at something does not mean that that is what they expect in their everyday lives. Some people use internet porn to satisfy their fantasies rather than doing it in real life.

    I think you need to relax and put that out of your mind unless it becomes an expectation in real life. Judging him on the basis of this without any other deal-breakers would be a bit too conservative IMO in this case, and let's face it, we're all really good at picking out other flaws to dump guys over. I say do the date and use this as the tipping point (if you have a large pile of negatives but you're still on the fence, this can be the last straw). If there are no negatives besides this, let it go. Most gays are quick enough to dismiss over stupid shit and perhaps that's why so many are in the "there are no good guys out there" mentality.


    it doesnt bother me if he looked at bareback porn, but this is not a bareback porn website this is a website where guys meet that are wanting to bareback, his profile specificly states hes fine with taking cum wads up the ass and giving them.
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    Jun 28, 2010 6:26 PM GMT
    Explain to him that you're not into the bareback scene and see where it goes from there.