How Do You Feel After A Hookup?

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    Jun 28, 2010 8:20 PM GMT
    So I recently posted a topic about hooking up with someone and we had dinner befor but he came over to my place and we had sex and he stayed the night but then after he left and I have not heard from him anymore,I knew that's all he wanted but you kinda do feel bad after wards at least I did and I really liked him do you guys think I should send him a message he's on my yahoo just has not been on or just leave it and move on.icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif
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    Jun 28, 2010 8:59 PM GMT
    If you haven't sent him a message before, do it now. What do you have to lose? Maybe he's waiting on his end for you to send him a message....

    But don't be to disappointed if you don't hear back from him within 24 hours. If he doesn't reply, it means he's moved on and he's a prick who doesn't know how to let someone down gently.
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    Jun 28, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    yeah send him a message....what if he is waiting for a message from you?
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    Jun 28, 2010 9:30 PM GMT
    Ok I will message him ans see what happens
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    Jun 28, 2010 9:48 PM GMT
    When I was a virgin I read online that hook ups made you feel miserable afterwards but now that I've hooked up some times LOL, I never feel that way, I feel normal.

    Although, sometimes I've hooked up with guys that I met online and that I liked them in pictures but they were kinda ugly in person, and I had pity sex with them I felt kinda bad afterwards cuz I hooked up with them even if I didn't want to. I felt bad for them cuz when we met in person they were like- Wow! You're hot, and I felt sorry for them so I had sex with them.

    But the last guy I was gonna hook up with was so ugly in person that when he went to WalMart to buy lube I left hahahaicon_lol.gif That's what he gets for lying
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    Jun 28, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    I think how one feels after a hook up depends on how enjoyable said hook up was.
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    Jun 28, 2010 10:01 PM GMT
    LatinTwink saidWhen I was a virgin I read online that hook ups made you feel miserable afterwards but now that I've hooked up some times LOL, I never feel that way, I feel normal.

    Although, sometimes I've hooked up with guys that I met online and that I liked them in pictures but they were kinda ugly in person, and I had pity sex with them I felt kinda bad afterwards cuz I hooked up with them even if I didn't want to. I felt bad for them cuz when we met in person they were like- Wow! You're hot, and I felt sorry for them so I had sex with them.

    But the last guy I was gonna hook up with was so ugly in person that when he went to WalMart to buy lube I left hahahaicon_lol.gif That's what he gets for lying


    That's why it's better to meet in public so you can just up and leave without saying anything if you've met, yes it maybe rude, but if you lie you deserve what you have coming which is nothing.
  • EricLA

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    Jun 28, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    It's tough being a guy. We have these physical urges and needs, and those need to be satisfied sometimes. But, we're human, and we want the emotional, long-term connection, too.

    It's a debate I have with myself all the time. And, for me, dating options don't come around often enough. I think you have to pick your path and go with it. If you want just the physical, you have to put the emotional connection out of your mind. If you want to go with the long-term emotional connection, you have to accept that your sex life might go unfulfilled for a while.

    I suppose some people are better are juggling between the two than others, but if you can't easily switch between the two, this would be my advice.
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    Jun 28, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    LatinTwink saidWhen I was a virgin I read online that hook ups made you feel miserable afterwards but now that I've hooked up some times LOL, I never feel that way, I feel normal.

    Although, sometimes I've hooked up with guys that I met online and that I liked them in pictures but they were kinda ugly in person, and I had pity sex with them I felt kinda bad afterwards cuz I hooked up with them even if I didn't want to. I felt bad for them cuz when we met in person they were like- Wow! You're hot, and I felt sorry for them so I had sex with them.

    But the last guy I was gonna hook up with was so ugly in person that when he went to WalMart to buy lube I left hahahaicon_lol.gif That's what he gets for lying


    Has anyone ever told you you're a very shallow person?icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 28, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    i hooked up once - accidentally about 20 years ago.


    I felt dirty, unclean, disgusted, contaminated,filthy, soiled, polluted,smutty.
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    Jun 28, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    wrightguys said
    LatinTwink saidWhen I was a virgin I read online that hook ups made you feel miserable afterwards but now that I've hooked up some times LOL, I never feel that way, I feel normal.

    Although, sometimes I've hooked up with guys that I met online and that I liked them in pictures but they were kinda ugly in person, and I had pity sex with them I felt kinda bad afterwards cuz I hooked up with them even if I didn't want to. I felt bad for them cuz when we met in person they were like- Wow! You're hot, and I felt sorry for them so I had sex with them.

    But the last guy I was gonna hook up with was so ugly in person that when he went to WalMart to buy lube I left hahahaicon_lol.gif That's what he gets for lying


    Has anyone ever told you you're a very shallow person?icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yes, some people have, but why do you think I'm shallow? Just because I find some guys attractive and some guys not so attractive? I thought everyone was like that, or do you find every single guy you meet attractive?
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    Jun 28, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    tonylover saidSo I recently posted a topic about hooking up with someone and we had dinner befor but he came over to my place and we had sex and he stayed the night but then after he left and I have not heard from him anymore,I knew that's all he wanted but you kinda do feel bad after wards at least I did and I really liked him do you guys think I should send him a message he's on my yahoo just has not been on or just leave it and move on.icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif


    Send him a message once so you will stop wondering 'what if...' If it works out, great. If he doesn't reply then move on. If you are looking to be in a relationship then don't waste your time on chasing after something that is never going to happen. The guy that it could have worked out with might pass you by while you are hung up on someone you really didn't know that well anyway.
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    Jun 29, 2010 12:40 AM GMT
    [b]lmfao no way omg when and fuck that shit dont message him its like your begging ughhhhhhhhhhhh[/b]
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    Jun 29, 2010 12:45 AM GMT
    satisfied. I used to get devastated and hope that the guy would want to text/ call back. Then I had to remind myself... it's just sex .. JUST sex that's it. The other guy doesn't care about me. JUST sex. So now I constantly remind myself of this and get over how hot he was and/or how good the sex was.
  • jgymnast733

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    Jun 29, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    I'v never hooked up,icon_exclaim.gif
    I'm saving it for my wedding night.icon_redface.gif
  • jperfit

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    Jun 29, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    LatinTwink said
    wrightguys said
    LatinTwink saidWhen I was a virgin I read online that hook ups made you feel miserable afterwards but now that I've hooked up some times LOL, I never feel that way, I feel normal.

    Although, sometimes I've hooked up with guys that I met online and that I liked them in pictures but they were kinda ugly in person, and I had pity sex with them I felt kinda bad afterwards cuz I hooked up with them even if I didn't want to. I felt bad for them cuz when we met in person they were like- Wow! You're hot, and I felt sorry for them so I had sex with them.

    But the last guy I was gonna hook up with was so ugly in person that when he went to WalMart to buy lube I left hahahaicon_lol.gif That's what he gets for lying


    Has anyone ever told you you're a very shallow person?icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yes, some people have, but why do you think I'm shallow? Just because I find some guys attractive and some guys not so attractive? I thought everyone was like that, or do you find every single guy you meet attractive?



    One day very soon, u2 will be considered Ugly by someone you may have liked and the same thing will happen to you, just wait
  • oursirpeace

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    Jun 29, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    numb
  • Crucializer

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    Jun 29, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    jgymnast733 saidI'v never hooked up,icon_exclaim.gif
    I'm saving it for my wedding night.icon_redface.gif



    Im kinda the same way - I havent 'hooked up' becuase I know I would feel bad afterwards. I wear my heart on my sleeve and thats prolly the problem. .... not that I get a lot of invites, but a few ... haha! Keeping my brain out of the sex is hard for me . . .
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:00 AM GMT
    jperfit said
    LatinTwink said
    wrightguys said
    LatinTwink saidWhen I was a virgin I read online that hook ups made you feel miserable afterwards but now that I've hooked up some times LOL, I never feel that way, I feel normal.

    Although, sometimes I've hooked up with guys that I met online and that I liked them in pictures but they were kinda ugly in person, and I had pity sex with them I felt kinda bad afterwards cuz I hooked up with them even if I didn't want to. I felt bad for them cuz when we met in person they were like- Wow! You're hot, and I felt sorry for them so I had sex with them.

    But the last guy I was gonna hook up with was so ugly in person that when he went to WalMart to buy lube I left hahahaicon_lol.gif That's what he gets for lying


    Has anyone ever told you you're a very shallow person?icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yes, some people have, but why do you think I'm shallow? Just because I find some guys attractive and some guys not so attractive? I thought everyone was like that, or do you find every single guy you meet attractive?



    One day very soon, u2 will be considered Ugly by someone you may have liked and the same thing will happen to you, just wait


    And it won't be the end of the world... you know, it's really curious that you find all the guys you meet attractive, I've never met someone like that.

    The other poster who quoted what I said didn't get the point and understood what he wanted to understand, I checked his other two posts and they were just like that, confronting someone just for confronting someone.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • NashRugger

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    Jun 29, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    BELLO said[b]lmfao no way omg when and fuck that shit dont message him its like your begging ughhhhhhhhhhhh[/b]

    really, big letters and red?

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    Jun 29, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
    BELLO said[b]lmfao no way omg when and fuck that shit dont message him its like your begging ughhhhhhhhhhhh[/b]


    What he Said!!!
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    I know it sounds craven but when I hook up with someone who is a complete stranger, I don't ever want or expect to see or hear from them again.

    If it's someone I know or am friends with, they're made aware it'll most likely only be a one time thing.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jun 29, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    Why are you bothering us with your little domestic drama? Ask him if he wants to hear from you again. You have the means to communicate with him. Stop being a dumbass.
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    Usually all sticky from the cum thats been sprayed on my body.

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    Jun 29, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidWhy are you bothering us with your little domestic drama? Ask him if he wants to hear from you again. You have the means to communicate with him. Stop being a dumbass.


    It's not like you're being forced to read it and respond. If the guy wants to vent/ask for advice on the internet, then he should be allowed to.


    Sheesh