Tried bottoming and it didnt work

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    Jun 29, 2010 3:53 AM GMT
    So my partner and i tried having anal sex today and it just DIDNT work icon_redface.gif. we tried missionary and i tried sitting on his penis but after countless efforts it didnt work. we are both virgins and very new to this but we have fooled around. he LOVES fingering my ass but him being 6 feet something and me being 5 foot two. let alone his penis is pretty...girthyicon_redface.gif. well the major thing is that we didnt have lube but we wanted to try anyway, next time we are gonna use lube but do any bottoms or tops have any advice for first timers like us ?icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 3:59 AM GMT
    Djrizzy14 said well the major thing is that we didnt have lube?icon_confused.gif


    That's the only issue here...that and you needing to relax. A virgin bottoming for the first time without lube is bound to fail.
  • rnch

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    Jun 29, 2010 4:25 AM GMT
    NO LUBE?? arrrghhhhhhh! icon_cry.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 7:13 AM GMT
    bobbyboy724 said
    Djrizzy14 said well the major thing is that we didnt have lube?icon_confused.gif


    That's the only issue here...that and you needing to relax. A virgin bottoming for the first time without lube is bound to fail.


    Well i was trying to relax as much as possible but we are both too...shy to get lube at a store (its a townie town so alot of people know each other) i think ill order it online or something.
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    Jun 29, 2010 7:14 AM GMT
    but is it really that much of a difference with lube rofl?icon_eek.gif
  • rnch

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    Jun 29, 2010 1:55 PM GMT
    Djrizzy14 saidbut is it really that much of a difference with lube rofl?icon_eek.gif
    YESS!!!

    order some silicone lube and some poppers online if you are worried about small town exposure. try www.forttroff.com for both of these needed for anal sex items.

    PM me if you need advice or help on what to order.

    there is NO WAY your anal deflowering should be done without these items.
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    Jun 29, 2010 1:58 PM GMT
    Djrizzy14 saidbut is it really that much of a difference with lube rofl?icon_eek.gif


    ........Really? Lube makes the experience bearable. WTF did he use, spit?

    Go spend $10 and get a giant bottle of lube, slather his dick in it, slather your asshole in it. Profit.
  • NashRugger

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    Jun 29, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    Unless you produce enough precum, like I do, to use as lube, then you should've had some.

    You may live in a small town, but why should you care what others think?
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:01 PM GMT
    RamWX saidUnless you produce enough precum, like I do, to use as lube, then you should've had some.

    You may live in a small town, but why should you care what others think?


    you've never lived in a really small town, have you? icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:02 PM GMT
    lube....thats the missing factor to this...lol make sure you have that..and use lots of it the first time around.
  • NashRugger

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    Jun 29, 2010 2:05 PM GMT
    rnch said
    RamWX saidUnless you produce enough precum, like I do, to use as lube, then you should've had some.

    You may live in a small town, but why should you care what others think?


    you've never lived in a really small town, have you? icon_lol.gif

    actually I have, several.

    I used to care, but now I don't, think what you want it what I tel everybody.
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:13 PM GMT
    No lube... no loss (of the V-card)
  • JimJim

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    Jun 29, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    rnch said
    Djrizzy14 saidbut is it really that much of a difference with lube rofl?icon_eek.gif
    YESS!!!

    order some silicone lube and some poppers...
    there is NO WAY your anal deflowering should be done without these items.



    Um...I'm pretty sure he can do this without resorting to poppers...He should be fully in his own state of mind during this experience.
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:45 PM GMT
    You GOTTA have lube!
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:52 PM GMT
    RamWX saidUnless you produce enough precum, like I do, to use as lube, then you should've had some.

    You may live in a small town, but why should you care what others think?



    Yikes! That means you're barebacking, and we don't think it's great to advise anyone to do that.
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    Jun 29, 2010 2:56 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    RamWX saidUnless you produce enough precum, like I do, to use as lube, then you should've had some.

    You may live in a small town, but why should you care what others think?



    Yikes! That means you're barebacking, and we don't think it's great to advise anyone to do that.
    once he got out of the small town, he went wild. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    NO LUBE???!!! No shit it didn't take. Do as the man said and order some online and get busy.

    Although I have no personal experience with them if you're real hard up there are plant based options. Crisco/shortening. You know, the stuff that you use to make pie crusts and fist your buddies with.
    I have been told by several old cock whores that back in the day when you entered a bathhouse you were given a little tub of shortening. Not necessarily water based but not petroleum based either. Not sure how well a rubber holds up to Crisco. You are playing safe, right?

    I understand the small town thing a little bit but chicks playing w/toys, straight dudes w/big dicks and straight couples where the women is past menopause all use lube bud. It's really no biggie. You're buying rubbers already, right? Rubbers and lube are a natural combo gay or straight. Who's going to know except the check out person at the drug store or grocery store? Anyone expecting a 19 year old man not to be sexually active isn't living in reality.
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    Jun 29, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    Eden saidHow about we take it back to the fact that you're a guy and cannot, therefore, lose your virginity through your butt? A butt is no vagina. As such, your butt shouldn't "play pussy" to please a guy.

    If you argue that it's for your own satisfaction, let's say your body is a factory and your butt the pipe through which waste is expelled. Would it be healthy to have someone push those toxins back up the pipe?

    If you think it is still clean and healthy to do so, then enjoy.


    G0y alert everyone. To the battle stations.
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    Jun 29, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    RamWX saidUnless you produce enough precum, like I do, to use as lube, then you should've had some.

    You may live in a small town, but why should you care what others think?



    Yikes! That means you're barebacking, and we don't think it's great to advise anyone to do that.

    Of course that was when I was with my bf and after we'd been tested and all. If I do hookup while I'm single, it is gloved, always.
  • Geoedward

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    Jun 29, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    Yes, Fucking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Jun 29, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    Djrizzy14 saidSo my partner and i tried having anal sex today and it just DIDNT work icon_redface.gif. we tried missionary and i tried sitting on his penis but after countless efforts it didnt work. we are both virgins and very new to this but we have fooled around. he LOVES fingering my ass but him being 6 feet something and me being 5 foot two. let alone his penis is pretty...girthyicon_redface.gif. well the major thing is that we didnt have lube but we wanted to try anyway, next time we are gonna use lube but do any bottoms or tops have any advice for first timers like us ?icon_confused.gif

    USE LUBE! And a slippery one meant for sex, not for cooking or babies' bottoms. I find those that contain glycerin to be the best.

    I couldn't bottom with my first BF, either. But he was very understanding, plus versatile, so topping him and blowing him kept him happy.

    About 5 years later I thought I'd try it again and finally bust my cherry, after I met a guy who was very small. Not a BF, but a guy I thought I could trust to use a condom, stop when I said stop, and take it easy.

    He did that, and I had a great time, pounding right back at him during my first fuck, which kinda surprised him for a butt virgin. His small size was the key for me. So here's my suggestion for you, since your BF is well hung:

    - USE LUBE!
    - Get a slender dildo smaller than him, and practice with lube.
    - When you can comfortably handle that dildo, get a bigger one. If it takes a few more steps to work your way up to his size, fine, nothing wrong with that.
    - When you finally master his size with a comparable dildo, drop to all fours and enjoy him! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    Eden said
    JimJim saidG0y alert everyone. To the battle stations.

    No g0y alert whatsoever. Just a guy who knows what a butt is naturally for.


    WOW.
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    Jun 29, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    Eden saidHow about we take it back to the fact that you're a guy and cannot, therefore, lose your virginity through your butt? A butt is no vagina. As such, your butt shouldn't "play pussy" to please a guy.

    If you argue that it's for your own satisfaction, let's say your body is a factory and your butt the pipe through which waste is expelled. Would it be healthy to have someone push those toxins back up the pipe?

    If you think it is still clean and healthy to do so, then enjoy.


    What's the old joke? If God really wanted men to fuck, then he would have put a little hole where the anus is. . . .
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    Jun 29, 2010 3:41 PM GMT
    RamWX said
    meninlove said
    RamWX saidUnless you produce enough precum, like I do, to use as lube, then you should've had some.

    You may live in a small town, but why should you care what others think?



    Yikes! That means you're barebacking, and we don't think it's great to advise anyone to do that.

    Of course that was when I was with my bf and after we'd been tested and all. If I do hookup while I'm single, it is gloved, always.



    lol Thanks, that extra info is very helpful to virgins like the OP. I'm wondering now, if the OP is so worried about buying lube, what about buying condoms?

    Djrizzy14 I hope you guys are using condoms!

    -Doug
  • JimJim

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    Jun 29, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    Eden said
    JimJim saidG0y alert everyone. To the battle stations.

    No g0y alert whatsoever. Just a guy who knows what a butt is naturally for.



    So I guess you also shun oral sex, as the mouth was not designed to pleasure other people's genitals. And if you thought people's butts were dirty...