Another Faceless Profile Complaint.......Ugh

  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 29, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    Yep, yet another complaint about the faceless profiles....but this is happening on Manhunt. Someone without any pictures available has sent me three messages indicating interest, without even giving the slightest indication that he will send a face pic. Who would be stupid and ignorant enough in this day and age to meet someone without a face pic? Also, what faceless profile guy would be stupid enough to think someone is going to fall for it? I guess maybe a few ignorant guys will fall for it after you try a few hundred times....I would call these fellows VICTIMS.

    Here's what he wrote on his THIRD email to me:

    "hello lift 4 5 times a wek at powerhouse in n canton looking for friends or more to hang with likes fun laughter dinner cooking rerlaxing kissing landscape and working out. saw u in cleve one time and thought you were hot but you were busy with friends. would at least like to meet for a chat or coffee? btw your very nice looking and i saw you had a good personality"

    Here is how I responded:

    "No face pic = no chat:

    You don't have pictures so its obvious you have me at a disadvantage. I am not going to ask for pictures because that would indicate interest and i can't have interest because I don't know what you look like. I'm sorry to state it this way, but it really is quite concerning and perhaps alarming when someone knows you by what you look like and they are able to stay anonymous. "

    I am not trying to be offensive, but jeez......it really does creep me out that someone can stalk me and know about me and I don't even know what they look like.

    Thoughts?

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    Jun 29, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    ewww I hate that. i always tihnk its some old guy =_=
    notice they always try to change the subject when you ask for a pic in chat lol!
    I wonder what makes them think talking to a empty profile is hot...
    I dunno its annoying.
    makes me feel like im being spied on.
    creeps
  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 29, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
    To Melly, define old, lol. But yeah, how could anyone get interested in a blank profile.....
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    Jun 29, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    I find they always deflect and change the subject. I notice that 95% of the unsolicited RJ chat requests I receive are from the pictureless.
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:36 PM GMT
    I can see not having a public face pic because of the specific occupation (my situation) but in any email I almost always attach one.

    When someone sends me an email with no pic or face pic, if there is any reason for interest, I just ask for one. IMO does not necessarily show interest, just a request for courtesy.
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    That's the worst! You totally had the right to write him that message. And as far as not being totally out/concerned about your job or whatever, if you're on manhunt, I don't necessarily think you need to worry about being spotted by someone who cares... icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:50 PM GMT
    First can't blame the guys faceless or not sending you emails...your one hot guy.

    But if they are communicating directly they should at least have something to unlock to give you a better idea.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:51 PM GMT
    aww meet with me I'm real icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    When I had an account on a4a a guy emailed me and of course, he had no pix, and when I asked him for one, he was like- You're shallow because you're asking me for a pic and you care about looks and that's not the type of person I'm looking 4

    Okaaaaaaaay icon_rolleyes.gif

  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:55 PM GMT
    I'm with you Celt.

    Manhunt, Plenty Of Fish, Match I simply say "hey, any pics? Gotta' take that chemistry test." Inevitably there is no response.

    I'm sorry if it's offensive, truly. And it's sometimes a risk to say 'no' to all the other ideal attributes, but they're getting full disclosure with me, so why am I supposed to navigate an un-level playing field? People have attractions, and all you're looking for is some confirmation that they're not a doppelganger for Anne Ramsey or Voldemort.

    Click and go.
  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:00 AM GMT
    socalfitness saidI can see not having a public face pic because of the specific occupation (my situation) but in any email I almost always attach one.

    When someone sends me an email with no pic or face pic, if there is any reason for interest, I just ask for one. IMO does not necessarily show interest, just a request for courtesy.




    Ok, so I ask for a photo....another email

    he sends me a photo...another email...or he says he can txt me one if i send him my cell phone number...another email and exchange of numbers, etc.

    im not interested...he might look great but not my type, etc....i gotta let him down....another email.

    he sends me one back upset that i am playing him...another email.


    But to socalfitness, you're right, attaching a pic in the first place would avoid all issues.
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    This guys tells you he saw you, yet don't feel how inapropriate it is to message you without showing his own face ?

    I would have been a lot less nicer than you, because at best, it's incredibly rude and inconsiderate, and at worst it's creepy.

    PS : it's not a faceless profile issue, it's a behavior issue, hope you don't put in the same bucket guys who don't want face pic in profile and guys who try to date without even showing face.

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    I know what you mean. I think its rude and ridiculous. Obviously they are either hiding the fact of what they look like and they already know you won't be attracted to them, or they are so far deep down in the "closet" that I wouldn't want to have anything to do with them anyway....

    grow up, be a man and put a damn pic or something....atleast like one poster said, have something to unlock for someone and then you can lock it back, all these stupid games are juvenile and a waste of time.
  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    minox saidThis guys tells you he saw you, yet don't feel how inapropriate it is to message you without showing his own face ?

    I would have been a lot less nicer than you, because at best, it's incredibly rude and inconsiderate, and at worst it's creepy.

    PS : it's not a faceless profile issue, it's a behavior issue, hope you don't put in the same bucket guys who don't want face pic in profile and guys who try to date without even showing face.



    Exactly, there is a difference and I understand that.
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    Look,

    How many times have you been out, seen a guy you thought "whoa, that is HOT".. managed to meet him and then within five seconds be looking for a way to get away... and that's when you get to meet in person.

    There are too many reasons NOT to like someone to go into it without even knowing what they look like. Everyone has a type. I'm not offended when someone isn't into me, lord knows that happens enough I would be suicidal if I was. You gotta put yourself out there to meet people.
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    you could always accept to have coffee on the condition he comes with no face.
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    xassantex saidyou could always accept to have coffee on the condition he comes with no face.


    Been there, done that, but people stared at us too much, well, at him icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    I don't blame you at all. I've had the same conversation so many times...and heard so many excuses...I'm inclined to give the guy a single chance to deliver a photo without any work on my part--and then to ignore the sender if he can't deliver.

    If I'm on a hookup website, I'm interested in finding a playmate who will be attractive to me. If an individual won't post a photo or include one in an email, why should I do anything to accomodate this person? There's obviously a reason that his photo isn't there and it's rarely rational.

    Right now on A4A I have this included in my profile:

    Chat me up...but don't expect a response OR any playtime if you won't post your face or unlock your pics...and it's not up for discussion.

    Of course then you have to hope that the chap will actually READ it...
  • trl_

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    Melly said
    makes me feel like im being spied on.
    creeps


    This was cute and I agree
  • SFNavigator

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    Why are you even bothering to respond to faceless profiles? Such a waste of time. When enough guys stop responing to them, they will get a pic and post it.
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:36 AM GMT
    gregador said

    Chat me up...but don't expect a response OR any playtime if you won't post your face or unlock your pics...and it's not up for discussion.

    Of course then you have to hope that the chap will actually READ it...


    and 9 out of 10 guys don't read it, it's so frustrating cuz I also wrote in my profile NO PIC= NO CHAT and that didn't stop them either
  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 30, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    SFNavigator saidWhy are you even bothering to respond to faceless profiles? Such a waste of time. When enough guys stop responing to them, they will get a pic and post it.


    Good point.

    He said he saw me somewhere so I just felt like I had to tell him how I feel about him knowing what I look like but that I don't know what he looks like.
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    Jun 30, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    LatinTwink said
    gregador said

    Chat me up...but don't expect a response OR any playtime if you won't post your face or unlock your pics...and it's not up for discussion.

    Of course then you have to hope that the chap will actually READ it...


    and 9 out of 10 guys don't read it, it's so frustrating cuz I also wrote in my profile NO PIC= NO CHAT and that didn't stop them either


    you can also write : monogamous, not looking for sex, and then count the offers for sweaty sex. ;-)

  • creature

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    Jun 30, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    I'm surprised you let it go as far as you did. You should have said "no face pic = no chat" as a response to the first e-mail. If you didn't get it from the second e-mail, you should have moved on.

    We'll discuss your manhunt membership another time...
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    Jun 30, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    Faceless profiles are normally one of the following:

    a) creepers
    b) people who aren't who they say they are
    c) trolls who are too lazy to fill out a full profile