Are You Better Looking In Person?

  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:12 PM GMT
    Okay, please note - not bragging, truly this is out and out complaining. For the fourth time in two weeks and as many(4) dates I get the following comment nearly word from word every time: "Wow, you are so much better looking in person than in your pictures." Well, thanks....I think.
    WTF? Really? Shit...what am I supposed to do with that information?
    I'm flattered (?) but wouldn't it be better to just say "You're even nicer looking in person" ? Or maybe that's exactly the point - I'm not much to look at until I'm in 3D. icon_eek.gif
    I'm not offended (unless I should be...somebody fill me in) but it does seem as if the message is "photograph better". Okay, let me work on that.
    In fact, one guy I met was even more attractive to me in person than in pictures (thank God...huh? Go figure!) but I'd never have imagined saying so. It just doesn't sound so flattering, somehow, (plus, frankly, I'd rather he didn't photograph as well, as I feel like it lowers the pool of competitors...LOL)
    Seriously, though, part of me is grateful but the more paranoid part of me then panics. I look at my pics and see...well, me. Take it or leave it, not everybody's cup-o-tea. (never much like pictures of me anyway, but c'mon. Do most of us?) It's just that I start to worry if I'm the victim of my own unflattering and faltering features that seem to lose something in pixelated translation. Entering the dating pool again at 51 - an already Im-fucking-possible to navigate minefield as it is - I figure first impressions mean a lot so now I'm thinking, what to do? I'm not going to go get professional pictures done. That's insane. But really...WTF
    Just wondering if anybody else ever hears this, or just my grizzled old mug?
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:15 PM GMT
    Yes - I get it all the time since I'm very unphotogenic. I always just figured it was because people are so used to being misled that they forget to edit themselves. Why panic if they liked how you look in pictures enough to date you in the first place?
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:34 PM GMT
    Yea ive heard that before, but then again I cant manage a natural looking smile if I know my picture is being taken to save my life. LOL
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:36 PM GMT
    yeah I get the same thing its like I'm a different person and they're like Oh WOW you're WAY hotter I even get that after I've cammed with some guys icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:37 PM GMT
    Same. I don't photograph well. icon_sad.gif

  • bobcatman

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:38 PM GMT
    Yes, every guy I meet says I look way better in person and my pictures don't do me justice. I need to have a friend take some pictures of me.
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:40 PM GMT
    No, I never get that they always tell me I'm hot when they look at my pictures LOL cuz I take like hundreds and then pick the ones I look the best in icon_lol.gif

    Hey, it's better than if they told you when they met you in person- You were better looking in your pics icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:40 PM GMT
    Nah in person I look awkward and my face has roughly sharp angles (my chin can slice cheese). It's bizarre and translates better in photos.
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidNah in person I look awkward and my face has roughly sharp angles (my chin can slice cheese). It's bizarre and translates better in photos.


    LOL
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:43 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidNah in person I look awkward and my face has roughly sharp angles (my chin can slice cheese). It's bizarre and translates better in photos.


    That's supposed to be the perfect chin, hundreds of men pay thousands of dollars to get what you naturally have (or maybe you bough it too j/k j/k icon_razz.gif)
  • hdbu

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:49 PM GMT
    yup
  • Regina_Guy

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:51 PM GMT
    Nope
  • Sanlara

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    Lol! I do get that too. Even though I get many compliments on my pics, but yes, somehow You're right. It does not really bother me to the point of letting it spoil the moment...Usually when I'm told that I look so much better in person, I detect a mixed feeling of admiration/confirmation from the person I hear it from. Does that make sense?...I know who I am and aware of what I can accomplish or should I say who...
  • creature

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    Jun 29, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    No.

    le sigh...
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    Jun 29, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    After getting a verbatim statement like that from four different guys in as many dates, I wouldn't turn off the clodhopper meter anytime soon. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    I can't control the lighting or focus in person, so no.
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    Yeah, but I think it's more the fact that I use certain lighting to hide things and such. I don't consider my self particularly photogenic, but I know what lighting to use and i correct a few colour and lighting issues in Photoshop although i never physically alter my self using Photoshop.
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    I think I take a bad pic... but I ain't ugly so I don't worry about it.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:23 AM GMT
    sdgman saidI think I take a bad pic... but I ain't ugly so I don't worry about it.



    you're quite hot actually icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:24 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidYeah, but I think it's more the fact that I use certain lighting to hide things and such. I don't consider my self particularly photogenic, but I know what lighting to use and i correct a few colour and lighting issues in Photoshop although i never physically alter my self using Photoshop.


    so you're even more good looking in person? You know, that's just not fair
  • trl_

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:24 AM GMT
    Cameras ruin how light hits my face with their flash.

    I'm always disappointed at the discrepancy between what's in the mirror and what's on "film" (read: memory card).
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    I know i'm personally attractive, whenever i'm getting pictures taken of me I always angle my face on side where the hair bang starts, just to show off some skin you know :winkicon_confused.gif
  • Lozzano

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    Yep, Im better looking in person! Definitely!
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    sdgman saidI think I take a bad pic... but I ain't ugly so I don't worry about it.

    Who would know, darlin'? You're hiding that puss behind a camera.


    I've seen his face, I'll vouch for him ;)
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    Jun 30, 2010 12:32 AM GMT
    fizzle saidCameras ruin how light hits my face with their flash.

    I'm always disappointed at the discrepancy between what's in the mirror and what's on "film" (read: memory card).


    I hate that 2, I don't know how actors look so hot when they're on the red carpet with all those horrible flashes. icon_mad.gif Turn off the flash and take them with natural lighting or outdoors, that's what I do.