Are you happy? Really think about this one... if you're not, is there something that can make you truly happy?

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    Jun 30, 2010 5:12 AM GMT
    I like to think that I'm happy most of the time. I don't go around screaming it to the world, but it's a happy I keep to myself. Sure, being single at the moment I would be happier finding a partner in crime, but until that happens, my friends and family are something that make me really happy.
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    Jun 30, 2010 7:59 AM GMT
    Finding what makes me happy would already make me sort of happy...icon_razz.gif
  • mynyun

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    Jun 30, 2010 8:05 AM GMT
    I go around screaming at the world. Well..... Ok let me re phrase that. I go around screaming at this dumb ass traffic here in the south (Tennessee). These dumb asses do NOT know how to drive. So no, I'm not happy. icon_mad.gif
    At THIS moment, however, I am content. Or simply in a neutral state. Idling and ready to snap. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 30, 2010 8:16 AM GMT
    I'm happy I have my health.
    I'm happy I have a great, loving family and the best friends ever.
    I'd be a bit happier if I could find a job though!!! icon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 30, 2010 8:30 AM GMT
    I want kids. Seriously, I want little joeyveras' running all around, between my legs and shit........... with the widows peak, nappy hair and knock-kneed just like me as a kid.

    That would make my life complete.

    Other than that, yeah I'm cool.
  • hectorjack

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    Jun 30, 2010 9:05 AM GMT
    I am happy that I am taking gym seriously for last 45 days.
    I am happy to look at me and visibly experience the change..

    I am happy that my Job sucks less than many other at my office…
    I am happy that even though I don't have much money yet I am not bank corrupt….

    I am happy that I recently found some one who makes me happy….
    I will be happy to have him as my Boy Friend …….

    I am happy 4 what I am today and I am happy that I don't worry about tomorrow …….
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    Jun 30, 2010 10:33 AM GMT
    Im not happy when Im alone... not to say physically, but mentally alone, as in not having one around you can share your thoughts with, crazy as they may be
  • Sayrnas

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    Jun 30, 2010 11:32 AM GMT
    amar_m saidIm not happy when Im alone... not to say physically, but mentally alone, as in not having one around you can share your thoughts with, crazy as they may be


    Ditto. My place of zen is in the middle of a 100 people.
  • fitartistsf

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    Jun 30, 2010 12:28 PM GMT
    Same thought here, Amar...
  • rafiki87

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    Jun 30, 2010 1:18 PM GMT
    All around, I think I can say that I'm happy. I'm still working on being impossible to get into a foul mood.

    I'm fine sitting alone and being quiet, because I loose myself in my thoughts. Lots of people think that being alone and quiet is the worse thing that can happen to you - think solitary confinement.

    I'm fine being with a ton of people, because I am genuinely interested in everybody. Each person has a different story to tell.

    I have a hakuna matata (yes, I grew up with the Lion King, lol) approach to life. The way I see it, if you have no control over something, then there's no point worrying because there's absolutely nothing you can do about it; if you have control over something, then again there's no point worrying because you've done all that you can; therefore, hakuna matata - no worries!

    I've found what I want to do in life and I'm doing it, working on my education degree and coaching boys volleyball.

    I don't see the point to harbouring any negativity within me. That means being angry at someone, holding grudges, etc.

    I don't see the point in judging people and putting them into categories. You're just putting the label on yourself as someone who needs to judge.

    I try to appreciate everything, no matter how simple.

    I have a smile on my face all the time and laugh at anything and everything (in a good way).

    I guess I can say that I'm happy. lol.
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    Jun 30, 2010 1:21 PM GMT
    No I'm not happy... but I'm trying to change things in my life so that some day I will be.

    Plus, I'm still looking for Jesus.
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    Jun 30, 2010 1:23 PM GMT
    I could not be happier! Life is good.
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    Jun 30, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    I believe happiness is a choice. Like when you choose to smile when you're in a bad mood around friends/family sometimes it helps you get closer to being happy. It's also a matter of controlling your thoughts, emotions, actions and reactions. If you let them all go south then you'll find how hard it is to get out of it. This is just my perspective. I believe it's true for everyone though. It's not easy to swallow that you have a hand in how you feel; though there are cases when no matter what internal strength you have; the external will have an an effect that can tare you down. Hope this makes sense... tell me if it doesn't please. I'm working on taking control of my own happiness right now. It's happiness that hopefully help the air around me and not bring others down.
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    Jun 30, 2010 6:56 PM GMT
    no im not currently happy, and i know what could make me happy...but i wont post it here :d
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    Jun 30, 2010 7:44 PM GMT
    Despite being hungry at work at the moment. My life is grand! Awesome family and friends. Live an interesting life up to this moment. Got my health and enough sense to stay out of trouble and take care of myself.

    Though i wouldn't be here if it wasn't for Mom, Dad and God.
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    Jun 30, 2010 7:51 PM GMT
    Nah I don't want or need anything. Fuck happy, I have realistically and contextually stable! Come save me prince charming =(
  • OptimusMatt

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    Jun 30, 2010 8:09 PM GMT
    I'm happy I'm confronting my condition instead of hiding from it.

    I'm excited because I want to, and am going to, get better - I want to go back to being that beautiful, happy-go-lucky guy I used to be.

    Right now there's 2 sides to me and they flip pretty damn quickly:

    1 - sees the good in my life, good roommates, nice house, kept WAY better than most guys our age, decent desk-jockey job with full benefits, 144 IQ, the exploration of life, the infatuation with those heart-breakingly beautiful moments.

    2 - disconnected from reality - like I'm there, I'm participating, but my life is so absurdly mundane it's like I'm just going through the motions, watching my life slip by...night after night spent sitting on my patio alone, in the dark, contemplating life in general and wishing I was anywhere but here....distant, removed from friendships, relationships, all the things I cared about...a dark lethargy that has me turning all 6 of my alarms off in my sleep (They are scattered around my room out of arms reach), sleeping through classes, being late for work, piss-poor performance because I can't stand the banality of my existence....

    I fluctuate through these two states almost daily....
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    Jul 01, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    Amazing answers guys... It's interesting to hear what other guys "happiness" levels are compared to mine. But also seeing how we all want the same things sometimes to be happy: love, health, a job, etc.
  • bryjeepguy

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    Jul 01, 2010 3:35 AM GMT
    No I am not happy, I am seldom really happy, I am in a good mood and look happy when I am at work but when I leave and its just me, when I driving in my car or when I am at home, I am sad and upset. But I can't, for the life of me, figure out what would make me happy truly happy. The times when I am somewhat happy is when I am with friends but that is only when I don't feel bad about something I did or said etc. But once I leave then I am often sadder than I was before I saw them icon_confused.gif
  • NashRugger

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    Jul 01, 2010 3:40 AM GMT
    No, not really. My relationship has recently ended and I'm getting ready to move back in with my parents. I don't really have an option because every job interview I've had ends with nothing, even with my military background, security clearances, letters of recommendation, etc. I'll be going to school up there for only the fall semester, then if everything falls into place, I'll be moving to Colorado early next year. Due to being unemployed and such, I suffered deep depression during the winter and am doing a bit better, dropped 50lbs and am almost to the point where I can start bulking, and fast.

    This is a very rough patch in my life, but I know that if I can make it through this, I'll be an even stronger man.
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    Jul 01, 2010 3:58 AM GMT
    I'm engaged with and interested in my life. That seems more important than whether or not I'm happy . . . I'm not really sure what happiness means or doesn't mean.
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    Jul 01, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    Im constantly asking what happiness is. Is it the feeling i get from eating a great meal? Is it when i watch a beautiful sunset on the beach? Or when Im out with friends? Or am I just content for that moment?
    For me the first thing is to love yourself, be happy with what you've got and then things will fall in place. I guess im in the stage of figuring that out. What used to make me happy(when younger) doesn't cut it any more. I think a few kids and someone to share those responsibilities with would bring the ultimate happiness. As much as a headache those little tykes can be..... Its definitely not something money can buy.
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    Jul 01, 2010 8:48 AM GMT
    I can honestly say that for once I am happy, happy without having to be in a relationship, happy without having love/money, material things. After my last relationship ended I looked back and realized all the mistakes I made along the way, (trying to find someone else to make me happy doesn't work in the long run) in the process I found myself, found who I am, and I'm happy icon_smile.gif. my friends, family make me the happiest, I've no idea where I'd be without them.
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    Jul 06, 2010 2:41 AM GMT
    amar_m saidIm not happy when Im alone... not to say physically, but mentally alone, as in not having one around you can share your thoughts with, crazy as they may be


    Amar I love your answer, it seems the most sincere! while I have a great support system from a family who always keep my moods in check and my emotions well balanced, I can personally say being emotionally grounded and happy with life in general.

    But there is always those Kodak moments that every once in awhile flashes in front my eyes, that reminds me of how much colorful my life could be if only I stop over-analyzing the not so perfect snapshots my heart have photographed throughout the years.

    We gays are much like a professional photographer: while our eyes are always looking for the perfect symmetry in a subject, most of the time we always miss capturing its true essence.

    The deceptive thing about happiness is that most people today associate it with personal goals, when in fact we tend to forget that as social beings that we are, the true test of happiness is when we allow ourselves to share our lives with another human being.


    Leandro ♥
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    Finding unconditional love and the ability to be understood.