Was the waiter interested in me.

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    Jun 30, 2010 6:20 PM GMT
    I went to a new restaurant the other day and out waiter was really friendly towards me, more so then with the other person I was with (although she was a middle aged woman, and my supervisor). Right away he was chatty with me, which I found more flirtatious than anything. I have had chatty waiters before, but you can tell when they are flirting or not, and he seemed interested in me, at least, I'd like to think so.

    He started calling me by name just from reading my ID. And then told me how he also shared the same first name. We talked about how unfortunately, that meant we were the first to get pocket calls and stuff like that and he laughed. I admit, I'd check him out whenever he'd walk by and I'm pretty sure he noticed. It was my belated birthday lunch, so my firend/surpervisor was paying and left a lousy tip, but after all of that he still called me by name and asked for me to come back. Earlier on he said if I enjoyed what I had, that I should come back. I think i blushed. There was a guy he was serving at the bar, he was talking with, but didn't seem as friendly with.

    What do you think? Was he really interested, or just playing me like a violin for a good tip, thinking that gays give better tips than anyone. I am not sure which it was and how and when I should make my next move properly.
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    Jun 30, 2010 6:32 PM GMT
    All waiters are flaming gay guys, and only have their job to cruise the hot patrons for hookups. It's proven science. You should know this by now. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 30, 2010 6:45 PM GMT
    he was pretty str8 acting otherwise if you ask me.
  • rnch

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    Jun 30, 2010 7:29 PM GMT
    he could could go either way...you should find out which way! icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 30, 2010 7:34 PM GMT
    So this was in Alaska right? This probably won't work over there (unless it's a hot day) but you should come back and then do the "it's so hot in here icon_wink.gif don't you think?" routine
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    Jun 30, 2010 9:30 PM GMT
    Go back and ask him out for a drink after his shift, if he says yes then he is interested. If you're too shy to ask out right, then leave a note on your check . Be sure to leave your number.
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    Jun 30, 2010 11:04 PM GMT
    Waiters flirt to get better tips. Don't read much into it.
  • rnch

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    Jun 30, 2010 11:13 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidWaiters flirt to get better tips. Don't read much into it.
    gay bartenders have this down to an art form.
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    Jun 30, 2010 11:18 PM GMT
    rnch said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidWaiters flirt to get better tips. Don't read much into it.
    gay bartenders have this down to an art form.


    i flirt, gay or not, only way you'll know is if you ask him out lol.
  • rnch

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    Jun 30, 2010 11:22 PM GMT
    sublstyley said
    rnch said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidWaiters flirt to get better tips. Don't read much into it.
    gay bartenders have this down to an art form.


    i flirt, gay or not, only way you'll know is if you ask him out lol.
    i agree! my flirty bartender brought me home after work..lasted for 4 months! we still occassionally get together when neither one of us is seeing anyone and are horny. icon_cool.gif
  • swimbikerun

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    Jun 30, 2010 11:24 PM GMT
    Sounds like he was was just doing his job. Although if you are curious tell him he should call you sometime if he wants to hang out. Give him your number. Don't expect him to call.

    Even if was gay AND single AND was attracted to you AND was emotionally available he might not want any extra trouble by dating guys that know where he works.
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    Jul 01, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    I just got back from an Argentina steak house.
    Yes, the waiter was flirting with me. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    I thought about that, and you're right, he may just realize he could get big tips if he sweet talks me, still have never had quite that experience tho, and you might think after the lousy tip my friend left, he wouldn't have said anything at all as I left. Paul, how do you know he was flirting with you?

    And to answer one of your questions, yes I live in Alaska, and believe it or not, it gets over 100 degree in some areas of the state. We are more than frozen igloos, polar bears, and Sarah Palin. :p

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    Jul 01, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    I'd say return if u were interested. If it turns out otherwise you'd still have a nice lunch. Or a dinner date. It's a win - win situation!
  • rnch

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    Jul 01, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    Falaskan said... Paul, how do you know he was flirting with you? ...


    paul thinks every cute guy is flirting with him. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 03, 2010 8:50 PM GMT
    Well I went back, and it was a disastor! the place was very full (it was friday after all, but at the same time on Monday, it was empty). I sat by the window instead of the bar and was too nervous to make any obvious moves. Had I sat at the bar I may have been able to have mad conversations easier. Well, He ended up not being my waiter, and I tried to observe him with other customers. He seemed more rushed and not as chatty as before but he was still friendly as before and I noticed that one of the waiters say goodbye to the customers whenever they leave, so it must be company policy. He was near my area once in a blue moon, but I didn't want to seem desperate and make a scene so i tried to play it cool, and not make it obvious that i liked him. Once he noticed, and I got the guts to do the whole smile and half nod thing. He did it too and then asked me what I had planned for the weekend as I was in the middle of stuffing my face with food. As i swallowed I said I was getting a root canal (which is true lol) and not much beyond that was said because he was not my waiter. I totally dropped the ball!!! Either he is not interested like I thought, or just as nervous about making a scene as I was. He may have looked in my direction a few times, but only because he was walking in that direction. I am starting to think the flirting was all in my head (as it ususally is) which really depresses me. I always let me nerves get the best of me and it is pathetic! What do you think? Should I try again or is it now a lost cause, even if he was interested. The whole thing was kind of awkward because I didn't get the balls to make a good impression. If I try again, how soon is "too soon?"
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    Jul 03, 2010 8:59 PM GMT
    There is no too soon. Tomorrow would be fine, but you know what? Go when it's slow. Tomorrow is the 4th and it will likely be nuts because it's also Sunday. Monday sounds about right.

    Take something to read, like a newspaper.,. it gives you something to remark on, and chat about.

    Fingers crossed! Now go have fun, tiger!

    ...and report back on Tuesday, lol.

    -Doug

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    Jul 03, 2010 9:10 PM GMT
    lol, just reading this makes me smile
    i,m a waiter/bartender and we can flirt with anybody, not just for the tip but its part of your dining experience
    a waiter will flirt with men or women regardless whether your male or female old or young
    whther we are gay or not
    its part of the job
    now there are exeptions to the rule ( u might be one of em,lol)
    but even then there is only so much extra flirting a waiter will do, to get your attencion
    remember after u leave we are tryin gto get that same table filled another couple times during lunch
    so its in and out as fast as poss
    prefferably with a good tip, makes us feel good

    now as far as your experience , could be he,s interested in u
    could be he,s just playing u like he would play any costumer
    how soon to go back its up to u
    make sure when u go back u sit in his section, and then see what happens and be a bit obvious and he will let u know , or completly ignore u
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    Jul 03, 2010 10:56 PM GMT
    Falaskan saidPaul, how do you know he was flirting with you?
    Um, it could be the fact that I got his number and already have a date set. Or the fact that I saw him earlier that day when he eye'd me on the sidewalk, and I recognized his uniform so I knew where to eat out that night. Or any other number of things. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 03, 2010 11:07 PM GMT
    its tough with Europeans as well... the other say I got a "look" from an english pro soccer player and when I sat next to him, he leaned in and pressed himself onto me trhoughout the conversation... big turn-on... problem is, we didnt talk much after we parted ways at the table, ... Im thinking even if e would be he coulnt possibley like me anyway cause he is bigger and taller (well yeah, pro-athlete, what do you expect) .... and European straight men do get physically closer and more "touchy" with one another in conversation... so yeah, you just dont really know sometimes...

    and about waiters flirting with everyone.. true that when I was a waiter and bartender, I would generally be extra nice to and involved with everyone... its part of the job too
  • coastguy90814

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    Jul 03, 2010 11:39 PM GMT
    Falaskan saidI went to a new restaurant the other day and out waiter was really friendly towards me, more so then with the other person I was with (although she was a middle aged woman, and my supervisor). Right away he was chatty with me, which I found more flirtatious than anything. I have had chatty waiters before, but you can tell when they are flirting or not, and he seemed interested in me, at least, I'd like to think so.

    He started calling me by name just from reading my ID. And then told me how he also shared the same first name. We talked about how unfortunately, that meant we were the first to get pocket calls and stuff like that and he laughed. I admit, I'd check him out whenever he'd walk by and I'm pretty sure he noticed. It was my belated birthday lunch, so my firend/surpervisor was paying and left a lousy tip, but after all of that he still called me by name and asked for me to come back. Earlier on he said if I enjoyed what I had, that I should come back. I think i blushed. There was a guy he was serving at the bar, he was talking with, but didn't seem as friendly with.

    What do you think? Was he really interested, or just playing me like a violin for a good tip, thinking that gays give better tips than anyone. I am not sure which it was and how and when I should make my next move properly.


    I think you are making more of this than you should and it sounds like you don't get hit on a lot so it stands out enough for you to post it here on RJ...ha ha, hey man I'm just messing with you ;-) But honestly he just sounds like a really friendly waiter and was just doing his job for a good tip. I say move on and don't let it keep you up awake at night :-)
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 04, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    Sounds promising, but I'd probably go back in there and get a second "chapter" just to make sure. I think by then you will have your answer.
  • mybud

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    Jul 04, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    He wanted a tip alright.....THE TIP OF YOUR COCK
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    Jul 04, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    coastguy90814 saidI think you are making more of this than you should and it sounds like you don't get hit on a lot so it stands out enough for you to post it here on RJ...ha ha, hey man I'm just messing with you ;-) But honestly he just sounds like a really friendly waiter and was just doing his job for a good tip. I say move on and don't let it keep you up awake at night :-)


    That would actually be true. I have never gone on a date with a guy before ever. I have had a few sexual encounters before but have grown out of that stage, and obviously knew they were into me because that is what we planned to do. So this is actually the first time, in a normal life setting I have thought I was being hit on by a guy. pretty sad, I know.

    I think I am going to give up on this guy tho. I need to work through some stuff before I jump into anything serious.
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    Jul 04, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    He wasn't.

    But he told me you were, after I picked him up for our date.

    ^_~