Relationships: how do they start?

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    Jun 30, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    Ive been wondering this for a while ever since I jumped on the internet-dating bandwagon....I've always been told that as far as relationships go, it happenes "unexpectedly" and its usually with somebody that you know as a friend of a friend or from work, or anyway through someone else. I've heard that rarely you meet people in clubs and alot of people I know dont believe in meeting people on the websites. So I listened to that advice..... and its true most of the guys I dated were in school with me, or at work or were somehow friends with someone I knew (exception: I met my first and only boyfriend in a club)

    What do you guys think, whats your experience? I know theres a few couples on RJ and I hear good things about the dating sites (compatiblepartners.com)..... How many of you are in relationships with people you met online, or have had em, and are they less likely than relationships with people you meet in person??
  • Sayrnas

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    Jun 30, 2010 8:38 PM GMT
    In my experience...it just happens. My first was a friend of a friend. My second was a friend that worked at the club I went to every week. My most recent, I met on here.

    As much as I or other may want a relationship...ya can't rush art and it'll happen when it happens.

    To cover the unlikeliness of meeting someone online...it can totally happen if both of you feel something in your conversations online. It's not impossible but it might be harder considering you aren't talking face to face.

    I hope I made some kinda point (I just woke up xD )
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    Jun 30, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    Yeah, they usually happen when you're least expecting it. Met my current bf at a wedding.
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    Jun 30, 2010 9:35 PM GMT
    Wasn't looking when my partner and I met, however I had done a lot of personal work and was definitely in a place where I was mature enough and open to a relationship. I wasn't actively looking though, just enjoying being young.
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    Jun 30, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    usually with a bang
  • EricLA

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    Jun 30, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    Marry me? Hey, it was worth a shot. Stranger things have happened.
  • benarw

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    Jun 30, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    It happens when you stop looking for it. And it can be someone from any walk of life. Which is why you should always keep your options open.
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    Jun 30, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    Hmmm, see I believe the "it happens when your not looking for it" is mainly a myth.. the relationship I did have did indeed happened when I wasnt looking... On the flip side... Now Im single, Im constantly told, Im not putting in the effort to meet anyone. (Not to mention the last guy I dated I met on a website)

    Also, I've been told about scores of people that met specifically through dating sites...

    Anyways, I just wonder what the proportions are