Is a gay man with a lot of stretch marks undateable?

  • automaton

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    Jul 01, 2010 4:22 AM GMT
    I'm in decent shape but my body (stomach, biceps, thighs, shoulders,back, chest) is covered in large and small stretch marks (I used to be heavier, though not obese, and it took an extremely large toll on my body for some reason.)

    I know gay men are very image conscious and will definitely find this unattractive. It really looks awful. Does this mean I am destined to remain alone forever? None of my friends understand why I am always single (I'm fairly attractive with my clothes on). I feel like if I was straight, I would probably be able to find someone who could look past this. Is there really no hope for me? I know stretch marks can fade slightly but they are impossible to get rid of. What can I do? I feel really depressed and hopeless.
  • NyRuinz

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    Jul 01, 2010 4:25 AM GMT
    Get you some Palmer's cocoa butter use it religiously and all will be well icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    Apparently the best way to keep your stretch marks unnoticeable is to have a no-pic profile. icon_razz.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Jul 01, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    Everyone's skin looks the same in the dark. If you have other redeeming characteristics, I think most guys would look past stretch marks.
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    Jul 01, 2010 5:58 AM GMT
    Have you tried a body tan?
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    Jul 01, 2010 6:03 AM GMT
    Everyone has their problems,so don't worry to much about it. icon_smile.gif
  • Webster666

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    Jul 01, 2010 6:11 AM GMT
    So many times, the faults we see (and dwell on) in ourselves are not even noticed by other people.
    Gay guys with semi-perfect bodies are a dime a dozen.
    Finding a guy with good qualities is much more difficult.
    Give me the guy with the good qualities.
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    Jul 01, 2010 7:56 AM GMT
    I really wouldnt care babe icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 7:58 AM GMT
    And trust me, attractiveness has little to do with being single... people tell me I'm beautiful (I never hear attractive though) and Ive been single pretty much my whole life, so dont fret about it icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 8:36 AM GMT

    "...destined to remain alone forever"


    Being that dramaitic, you're at least bound to attract the queens
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    Jul 01, 2010 8:40 AM GMT
    I think this is probably may be my most favorite forum topic ever icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 8:46 AM GMT
    It really does hammer home the gay stereotype.

    On a gay fitness website, its members priding themselves on their masculinity, we're still talking about stretchmarks.

    Excuse me while I just touch up my mascara, it's gone gloopy
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    Jul 01, 2010 8:56 AM GMT
    back2nyc saidWork on your grooming.. way of dressing.. self-confidence... if u are able to carry yourself nicely and have a decent enough body then don't think stretch marks would make any difference. You sound stupid if you think your stretch marks will keep you lonely forever.. the reason most gay men are single or lonely is because they have too many hangups and are looking for someone better than god... which they can never find so stretch marks or no... if u are 3 out of 10 and u want a guy who is 10 out of 10.. then forget it.


    but you never know what type of guy the 10 out of 10 guy likes. icon_smile.gif
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jul 01, 2010 8:59 AM GMT
    BITCH I got extra skin from losing 160 lbs you aint got shit to worry about I pull in ass like no one business. confidence is key. *nods*
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    Jul 01, 2010 9:09 AM GMT
    back2nyc said10 out of 10 likes only other 10 out of 10 guys.... unless they are after money or some other motive which does not really count.


    Lenoxx said
    back2nyc saidWork on your grooming.. way of dressing.. self-confidence... if u are able to carry yourself nicely and have a decent enough body then don't think stretch marks would make any difference. You sound stupid if you think your stretch marks will keep you lonely forever.. the reason most gay men are single or lonely is because they have too many hangups and are looking for someone better than god... which they can never find so stretch marks or no... if u are 3 out of 10 and u want a guy who is 10 out of 10.. then forget it.


    but you never know what type of guy the 10 out of 10 guy likes. icon_smile.gif


    you just had to rain on my parade.icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 9:11 AM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidBITCH I got extra skin from losing 160 lbs you aint got shit to worry about I pull in ass like no one business. confidence is key. *nods*


    like nobodies business *snap* *snap*
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    Jul 01, 2010 9:17 AM GMT
    Lenoxx said
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidBITCH I got extra skin from losing 160 lbs you aint got shit to worry about I pull in ass like no one business. confidence is key. *nods*


    like nobodies business *snap* *snap*


    haha word icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 9:38 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Thisuserexists saidIt really does hammer home the gay stereotype.

    On a gay fitness website, its members priding themselves on their masculinity, we're still talking about stretchmarks.

    Excuse me while I just touch up my mascara, it's gone gloopy


    After reading both of your unnecessary comments I decided to view your profile. The first sentence in your profile says something along the lines of....

    Normal "friendly" guy.....


    So...by your remarks here it is apparent that you were not all that honest because you do not come off as friendly at all.



    I was joking! Sorry, more punctuation next time.
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    Jul 01, 2010 9:50 AM GMT
    Thisuserexists said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Thisuserexists saidIt really does hammer home the gay stereotype.

    On a gay fitness website, its members priding themselves on their masculinity, we're still talking about stretchmarks.

    Excuse me while I just touch up my mascara, it's gone gloopy


    After reading both of your unnecessary comments I decided to view your profile. The first sentence in your profile says something along the lines of....

    Normal "friendly" guy.....


    So...by your remarks here it is apparent that you were not all that honest because you do not come off as friendly at all.



    I was joking! Sorry, more punctuation next time.


    Don't apologize...nice catch...bwahahahahahaha
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    Jul 01, 2010 10:18 AM GMT
    knightrider2009 saidYES, it means you are ugly and will die alone...

    MORONIC! There are people missing limbs, wearing surplus dozens of kilograms (pounds) or visually unattractive in any other way and you are whinning about SCARS ON THE SKIN? icon_rolleyes.gif

    stop thinking too much and start doing something useful. (I'm being nice)


    What on earth does the existence of those other people have to do with his chances of finding a boyfriend? ...unless you're suggesting he seeks out people missing limbs, etc., because they're sufficiently desperate they'd date him, in which case you're just being rude.

    Actually, you're just being rude regardless.
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    Jul 01, 2010 10:31 AM GMT
    As a black man , I know that they are more noticeable. when I started lifting weights they appeared in my arms and I was very conscious when wearing tank tops and stuff. but after a while they fade to barely noticeable and if they are bad get tattoos. they seem to keep the attention off them, icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 10:42 AM GMT
    knightrider2009 saidI am being misunderstood once again (which I'm used to by the way, so this is no surprise for me)... Trust me, slapping the fact that he should get his shit together, stop worrying about things that are completely unimportant in life and start concentrating on things that matter against his forehead, that's something he should be thankful for.

    I know this is about his self-confidence and maybe it matters to him, but to me it's simply stupid. Just my point of view. If I'm viewed as rude, well that's just sad I guess, but that doesn't change my opinion on that matter.


    Yes, your lack of empathy is sad. It does not help a person who has acute psychological stressors to say there are other people who have worse problems than he or she does. It trivializes the person's feelings, which increases their sense of alienation. Trust me, slapping the fact that you should get your shit together, stop approaching people immaturely and start treating the emotionally vulnerable with some responsibility and even compassion against your forehead, that's something you should be thankful for.
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    Jul 01, 2010 10:51 AM GMT
    Ask Alan07:
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/998593/
    "I'm 5'11, weigh 170 lbs, and am in really good shape, and have a low body fat percentage, but I am COVERED in stretch marks. They go all the way down my arms to my elbows, and are all over my stomach. I have no idea why I have them, and they started to come in about 2 years ago. What do you think has caused them, and what can I do to get rid of them?"

    You could commiserate!

    "I know gay men are very image conscious and will definitely find this unattractive.”

    That is bullshit! I would rather date fat than moronic.
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    Jul 01, 2010 11:09 AM GMT
    automaton said
    I know gay men are very image conscious and will definitely find this unattractive.


    I feel like if I was straight, I would probably be able to find someone who could look past this.


    I don’t believe your stretch marks are what make you un-datable in the gay world.

    Just an observation.
  • nicelyproport...

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    Jul 01, 2010 11:59 AM GMT
    We all have flaws. And if someone doesn't want you for yours, fuck 'em. You wouldn't really want him, anyway.