Being the 'man' or 'woman' in the relationship.

  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 6:24 AM GMT
    I don't know if I like that.
    Because as I think (I haven't had sex yet, so I wouldn't know) that I'm a bottom; But I'm not a completely submissive person, and I have a quite a dominant personality.
    I don't like the idea of being the 'girl' in the relationship... and let's be realistic.. look at me; No way I'd be the man either.
    Can't there just both be men, on equal ground?
    That sounds much better to me.
    Thoughts?
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    Jul 01, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    if youre the 'woman' in the relationship, youre either a woman trapped in a man's body or/and transexual/gender.
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 6:30 AM GMT
    charlitos saidif youre the 'woman' in the relationship, youre either a woman trapped in a man's body or/and transexual/gender.

    So not true! LOL. icon_razz.gif
    I've heard people talk about it all the time, gay men taking on "gender roles".
    I'm totally uncomfortable with the idea.
    Because I'm a man. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 6:37 AM GMT
    brycetippe said
    charlitos saidif youre the 'woman' in the relationship, youre either a woman trapped in a man's body or/and transexual/gender.

    So not true! LOL. icon_razz.gif
    I've heard people talk about it all the time, gay men taking on "gender roles".
    I'm totally uncomfortable with the idea.
    Because I'm a man. icon_biggrin.gif


    Ive heard people talking about UFO abductions
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 6:41 AM GMT
    charlitos said
    brycetippe said
    charlitos saidif youre the 'woman' in the relationship, youre either a woman trapped in a man's body or/and transexual/gender.

    So not true! LOL. icon_razz.gif
    I've heard people talk about it all the time, gay men taking on "gender roles".
    I'm totally uncomfortable with the idea.
    Because I'm a man. icon_biggrin.gif


    Ive heard people talking about UFO abductions

    LOL.
    Wow,
    The wit of the people on here is plentiful.
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    Jul 01, 2010 6:51 AM GMT
    brycetippe said
    The wit of the people on here is plentiful.


    When you say "wit" you mean sexy, half naked pics? icon_rolleyes.gif

    Hi Charlitos icon_wink.gif
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 6:54 AM GMT
    Lostboy said
    brycetippe said
    The wit of the people on here is plentiful.


    When you say "wit" you mean sexy, half naked pics? icon_rolleyes.gif

    Hi Charlitos icon_wink.gif

    SEE WHAT I MEAN!?!?
    That was just so witty and funny.
    I haven't laughed so much when on a forum as I have today.
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    Jul 01, 2010 7:10 AM GMT
    Lostboy said
    brycetippe said
    The wit of the people on here is plentiful.


    When you say "wit" you mean sexy, half naked pics? icon_rolleyes.gif

    Hi Charlitos icon_wink.gif



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  • coastguy90814

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    Jul 01, 2010 7:29 AM GMT
    brycetippe saidI don't know if I like that.
    Because as I think (I haven't had sex yet, so I wouldn't know) that I'm a bottom; But I'm not a completely submissive person, and I have a quite a dominant personality.
    I don't like the idea of being the 'girl' in the relationship... and let's be realistic.. look at me; No way I'd be the man either.
    Can't there just both be men, on equal ground?
    That sounds much better to me.
    Thoughts?


    Being the 'man' or 'woman' in the relationship?? Okay, I'll boil down your comment to your immaturity and age...LOL
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    Jul 01, 2010 7:30 AM GMT
    While it is true that as a community, we previously did not have the Couple Role Models to look up to-i.e. male-male, female-female-Everyone knows how to be a man or a woman. Being a top or being a bottom does not mean being a man or woman, overall. There are some guys that do believe that, but that is their perspective. It just means what you like to be in sex. As for as "chores", a conversation will know who can do chores-cleaning, cooking, mowing the lawn, etc. All of us know that.


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  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 7:47 AM GMT
    coastguy90814 said
    brycetippe saidI don't know if I like that.
    Because as I think (I haven't had sex yet, so I wouldn't know) that I'm a bottom; But I'm not a completely submissive person, and I have a quite a dominant personality.
    I don't like the idea of being the 'girl' in the relationship... and let's be realistic.. look at me; No way I'd be the man either.
    Can't there just both be men, on equal ground?
    That sounds much better to me.
    Thoughts?


    Being the 'man' or 'woman' in the relationship?? Okay, I'll boil down your comment to your immaturity and age...LOL

    Or my lack of experience?
    I've never really been in a relationship.
    But I hear people talk about homosexual relationships all the time and how people have gender roles.
    But I guess me talking about this totally makes me immature. lol.
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 7:48 AM GMT
    ErikTaurean saidWhile it is true that as a community, we previously did not have the Couple Role Models to look up to-i.e. male-male, female-female-Everyone knows how to be a man or a woman. Being a top or being a bottom does not mean being a man or woman, overall. There are some guys that do believe that, but that is their perspective. It just means what you like to be in sex. As for as "chores", a conversation will know who can do chores-cleaning, cooking, mowing the lawn, etc. All of us know that.


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    And it's just I've talked to guys who take on the role of the masculine definitive and it's kind of a turn off.
    "I'll protect you" blah blah blah, almost treat me like I'm a girl.
    and I'm like yano. LOL.
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    Jul 01, 2010 7:49 AM GMT
    It's all a load of bullshit dear, there is no male/female dynamic crap in a relationship, what there is however is two people filling in each others gaps, working together to have a successful, healthy and strong relationship, the idea that some how to have that you need one person to act as a women and another to act as a man is absolute bullshit. What you do need is two people who understand and accept each other for who they are and more importantly all that they are.

    And this concept, that bottoms are somehow submissive, I mean fucking seriously people, grow the hell up you dim witted fools, being a bottom has absolutely no baring what so ever to submission, I can tell you, when I bottom and yes, I bottom, i am not submitting anything, i am bottoming because i bloody well wanna, if the guy topping me thinks that makes him some how more of a man then me, well, he's got another thing coming when i correct his ideas in that one. Bottoming feels good, i enjoy it, topping feels good i enjoy that too, it doesn't make me more or less submissive, it just means I enjoy having a cock in me or having my cock in another guy.

    So no, you being a bottom doesn't mean shit, you could like playing inn S&M and being the sub, but that still don't mean crap, it just means thats what you enjoy, outside of the bedroom it doesn't mean a damned thing!!
  • trl_

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    Jul 01, 2010 7:53 AM GMT
    I think if it's a relationship based on mutual companionship and respect that this issue probably won't even enter the picture and both men will feel comfortable in their relationship positions regardless of what an outside party might label their function as (ie he's always cleaning, he's the woman, or even worse b!&ch of the relationship)
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 7:56 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidIt's all a load of bullshit dear, there is no male/female dynamic crap in a relationship, what there is however is two people filling in each others gaps, working together to have a successful, healthy and strong relationship, the idea that some how to have that you need one person to act as a women and another to act as a man is absolute bullshit. What you do need is two people who understand and accept each other for who they are and more importantly all that they are.

    And this concept, that bottoms are somehow submissive, I mean fucking seriously people, grow the hell up you dim witted fools, being a bottom has absolutely no baring what so ever to submission, I can tell you, when I bottom and yes, I bottom, i am not submitting anything, i am bottoming because i bloody well wanna, if the guy topping me thinks that makes him some how more of a man then me, well, he's got another thing coming when i correct his ideas in that one. Bottoming feels good, i enjoy it, topping feels good i enjoy that too, it doesn't make me more or less submissive, it just means I enjoy having a cock in me or having my cock in another guy.

    So no, you being a bottom doesn't mean shit, you could like playing inn S&M and being the sub, but that still don't mean crap, it just means thats what you enjoy, outside of the bedroom it doesn't mean a damned thing!!

    Good to know.
    It's just I've had guys treat me like I'm feeble and just helpless.
    And it's like... uhhhhhh.
    Now I feel like I've come off as an idiot. LOL.
    Oh well.
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    Jul 01, 2010 7:58 AM GMT
    brycetippe said
    Good to know.
    It's just I've had guys treat me like I'm feeble and just helpless.
    And it's like... uhhhhhh.
    Now I feel like I've come off as an idiot. LOL.
    Oh well.


    u kinda came off as a closeted lesbian rather icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 01, 2010 8:04 AM GMT
    LOL Charlitos,

    To Brycetipp, you need to take iinto account that your having a relationship with a male, and a male will talk like one... even straight male friends wil say to one another: "YO MAN, IF YOUR IN A FIGHT, YOU GOT MY BACK DOG!!!"

    Its protective mate- (mating icon_razz.gif) instinct

    OK, that last pun was kind of ahem, not clean.. but you get the idea: its the male instinct to protect his loved ones from harm (see my profile), so whether the male in question is straight or gay or the object of his protectivity (is that a word) is male or female is not important... it is a male characteristic, so either accept it and be happy with or get ready to date... well, girls! icon_razz.gif
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 8:12 AM GMT
    charlitos said
    brycetippe said
    Good to know.
    It's just I've had guys treat me like I'm feeble and just helpless.
    And it's like... uhhhhhh.
    Now I feel like I've come off as an idiot. LOL.
    Oh well.


    u kinda came off as a closeted lesbian rather icon_twisted.gif

    LOL.
    Maybe I am and I don't even know it.
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 8:12 AM GMT
    amar_m saidLOL Charlitos,

    To Brycetipp, you need to take iinto account that your having a relationship with a male, and a male will talk like one... even straight male friends wil say to one another: "YO MAN, IF YOUR IN A FIGHT, YOU GOT MY BACK DOG!!!"

    Its protective mate- (mating icon_razz.gif) instinct

    OK, that last pun was kind of ahem, not clean.. but you get the idea: its the male instinct to protect his loved ones from harm (see my profile), so whether the male in question is straight or gay or the object of his protectivity (is that a word) is male or female is not important... it is a male characteristic, so either accept it and be happy with or get ready to date... well, girls! icon_razz.gif

    Yeah I guess, I feel retarded now.
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    Jul 01, 2010 8:16 AM GMT
    And remember Bryce...if you realize this after a few dates and you stay with him along with what you feel, keep this in mind: It is your choice not to vocalize your feelings about how you are treated and most importantly, you picked him.
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 01, 2010 8:21 AM GMT
    ErikTaurean saidAnd remember Bryce...if you realize this after a few dates and you stay with him along with what you feel, keep this in mind: It is your choice not to vocalize your feelings about how you are treated and most importantly, you picked him.

    Good advice, I'll keep that in mind.
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    Jul 01, 2010 12:10 PM GMT
    You are confusing gender and sex.

    A woman is a woman by sex.

    Gender is characteristics people use to differentiate between sex are social constructs that change through history and by culture.


    So, charlitos is correct.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 01, 2010 12:16 PM GMT
    It is amazing how even we get bound up by roles of gender. My partner is my partner. I'm more assertive in areas and he is as well, mostly due to personality. I really don't like even referring to my bf or partner as my "wife" or "husband". He isn't that. He's my partner.
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    Jul 01, 2010 12:18 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    brycetippe said
    charlitos saidif youre the 'woman' in the relationship, youre either a woman trapped in a man's body or/and transexual/gender.

    So not true! LOL. icon_razz.gif
    I've heard people talk about it all the time, gay men taking on "gender roles".
    I'm totally uncomfortable with the idea.
    Because I'm a man. icon_biggrin.gif


    Ive heard people talking about UFO abductions
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    Jul 01, 2010 12:18 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidIt is amazing how even we get bound up by roles of gender. My partner is my partner. I'm more assertive in areas and he is as well, mostly due to personality. I really don't like even referring to my bf or partner as my "wife" or "husband". He isn't that. He's my partner.


    i like that alot. thats a really good way to put it