Your sex advice to a guy just coming out. Condoms, safe sex, and oral?

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    Jul 03, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    Hey guys I just recently came out and want to be sexually active with a guy but with all the talk about STDs and other diseases I'm really concerned about practicing safe sex. Is there such thing as being too safe? What about oral sex, is there a high risk of getting an STD? Is wearing a condom for oral ridiculous?
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    Jul 03, 2010 4:22 AM GMT
    Oral is safer than bareback.
    Mutual masturbation is safer than both.
    But the safest sex is a padded headboard.
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    Jul 03, 2010 12:51 PM GMT
    Padded headboard?

    I guess the ultimate in safe sex is self-masturbating with a condom
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    Jul 03, 2010 12:53 PM GMT
    football122 saidHey guys I just recently came out and want to be sexually active with a guy but with all the talk about STDs and other diseases I'm really concerned about practicing safe sex. Is there such thing as being too safe? What about oral sex, is there a high risk of getting an STD? Is wearing a condom for oral ridiculous?


    YES, you can get an STD with oral, chance s are less likely though... Its all up to you what do you think you will prefer as your own limits
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    Jul 03, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    Dude, are you 12? Do a little research and always be safe.
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    Jul 03, 2010 1:54 PM GMT
    football122 saidHey guys I just recently came out and want to be sexually active with a guy but with all the talk about STDs and other diseases I'm really concerned about practicing safe sex. Is there such thing as being too safe? What about oral sex, is there a high risk of getting an STD? Is wearing a condom for oral ridiculous?


    There isnt technically such as thing as being too safe. Wearing a condom for oral....... I've never met anyone who does... I cant imagine that I would feel much, lol. You CAN get an STD from oral sex, but its more likely to be an STD that is easily curable, than it is to be HIV or something. With HIV, your odds are 1 in 10,000.... assuming you are having oral sex with an infected partner each time. So yeah, not really a big likelihood.

    in any case...

    here are the safe sex rules that most people I know live by:

    1. Always always always use condoms for anal sex.

    2. Oral sex is fine... provided that you do a little mouth exploration and make sure you dont have any sores or abrasions.

    I think the most important safe sex rule is to COMMUNICATE with your sex partners. ASK them if they are positive or negative. Some guys will just not say anything. ASK them if they practice safe sex ... if they have been tested recently.... etc. it might feel awkward, but its YOUR body and you are the only one who can protect it. Finally, choose your partners carefully... if you arent going out and whoring around with every guy you meet, you'll be less likely to pick up an STD, etc. Use your intuition and common sense. Live your life, be careful, and have fun.... its all possible.
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    Jul 03, 2010 2:15 PM GMT
    Ditto on what ZbmwM5 said.

    Sex is a fun and very enjoyable thing but like all things it comes with responsibilities and consequences. It's a common sense thing really when it comes to sex and it all boils down to how you, the individual, wanna go about doing it

    Common Sense dictates that if you wanna be safe while having sex then you should practice it by wearing a condom and knowing your status as well as your partner or whoever you are having sex with. Take precautions like getting tested and having your partner tested and be open to communicate. That right there is a big step in the right direction to having enjoyable safe sex.

    If you don't feel comfortable doing something then don't do it and let it be known. Don't get pressured into not wearing a condom and always make sure your partner is wearing one if you go that route. It's your body and if you aren't gonna respect it and take care of it then you'd be a fool to think someone else is. That will be the quickest way to doctors office or possibly the grave.

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    Jul 03, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    Assume everyone is HIV positive. Remember you can have sex with HIV pos people and not get infected.

    (1) don´t brush your teeth just before sex... do it several hours before and then use mouthwash for fresh breath. Brushing creates micro tears in the gums
    (2) NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER have anal sex as a top or a bottom without a condom. NEVER make exceptions. NEVER. NEVER. Get it?
    (3) Be aware that the HIV virus is also found in anal mucus, so don´t finger someone and then lick your fingers.
    (4) you are much more likely to die in a car crash than get HIV from oral sex. Do you drive?
    (5) be very careful if you have open wounds, cuts etc. Cover them or don´t do any thing where blood, semen or anal mucus is likely to be involved.
    (6) For extra safety, avoid cumming inside someone or have them cum inside you, even with a condom.

    HIV is not the only STI.

    Genital warts are much more likely than HIV. Only genital to genital contact transfers them: you cannot get them on your hands or in your mouth. Before you play with another guy´s ass or cock look at it. If it looks diseased it probably is.

    Get tested for all the biggies every 6 months. Get immunized for Hep A and B.

    Learn about this stuff: go to your health care provider, talk to the counsellors, get the tests and shots. Keep your anxieties in proportion. Life lived without calculated risk is a living death.

    Also, from the look of your profile, you can come and practice with me icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 03, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    Also, from the look of your profile, you can come and practice with me icon_lol.gif
    Slut!

    ...In fact, you're almost as slutty as me...
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    Jul 04, 2010 9:05 PM GMT
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    Lostboy said
    Also, from the look of your profile, you can come and practice with me icon_lol.gif
    Slut!

    ...In fact, you're almost as slutty as me...


    I reject the label slut as it implies a Judeo-christian morality which I repudiate. We do not call rabbits or pigeons sluts. They are just doing what comes naturally. Jesus doesn´t care what pigeons do. And since he died 2000 years ago he doesn´t care what we do either.
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    Jul 04, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    No glove, no love
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    Jul 05, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    People say they never saw any one use a condom for oral sex I have.!!. I see nothing wrong with using a condom for oral sex.. better safe than sorry... yes i agree oral sex is safer than anal sex.....

    Has any one ever heard of flavored Condom they are made for oral sex Duh!!!! i heard people say its harder to get HIV from oral but they know you can get other STD's easier.. but it cureable... i mean who wants to go through sucking a dick to catch herpes gonoraha syphillis and to have the doctor ask you how did you get ? to pop pills and shot up with meds... some guys would say well i rather catch syphillis etc... and go get meds for it... than not to suck a dick raw...

    the funny thing guys say "oh i can't feel any thing if your sucking me with condom.. but these same guys will screw with a condom on ... i mean what is the damn difference? i mean can you feel it if your screwing with a condom?

    Me personal i can't suck a random guys dick without protection.. i would have to be in relationship with you to suck with out condom on... and know that your not letting everybody mess with you... i would never do anal without condom on relationship or no relationship hell no.....