WHY DO I...?!!

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    Jul 03, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    So long story short I left my ex in January. Then we talked about getting back together in May and I was all for it. I had realized what I lost, and the love I had for him. Now I can't help but miss him and think about him... when I'm drinking! What is up with that? I don't care or think about him when I'm sober, but get a couple drinks in me and the only person I think about is him... Whats going on here RJers?
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    Jul 03, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    Sounds as if you are in recovery from “grass-greener/next-best-thing” syndrome; we all must go through it at one time or another—some never recover.

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    Jul 03, 2010 8:19 PM GMT
    Sounds like the alcohol is bringing out some repressed feelings of regret you may have over dumping your ex. Maybe deep inside you are having trouble admitting you made a mistake.

    Bottom line: Your relationship has come to an end. The damage is done. Learn from the past. Time to move on.
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    Jul 03, 2010 8:31 PM GMT
    Yeah this relationship is screwed. I don't believe that you really love him. I have heard this "I only think about him when I'm drunk" many times before. I don't believe it any more...
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    Jul 03, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    I think you already know...
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    Jul 03, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    you miss him deep down, and like many here have already said, better to move on.
    nothing worse than a guy that calls to say "i love you, and i miss you" and doesnt remember the next day, or denies he said it and blames it on the alcohol lol.

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    Jul 03, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    Alcohol is bad, mmkay?
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    Jul 03, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidSounds like the alcohol is bringing out some repressed feelings of regret you may have over dumping your ex. Maybe deep inside you are having trouble admitting you made a mistake.

    Bottom line: Your relationship has come to an end. The damage is done. Learn from the past. Time to move on.



    ... pay attention to the bottom line .. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 03, 2010 10:54 PM GMT
    The thing is I want to move on. And in a lot of ways I feel I have moved on. I don't want to hold onto these feelings anymore, I don't want to feel that I miss him.