gay men with a.d.d.

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    Jul 04, 2010 11:36 PM GMT
    i was wondering,do most gay men with a.d.d. or a.d.h.d. hypersensitive
    to loud noises and lound sounds or not?i'm a gay man with a.d.d. who
    is hypersensitive to loud sounds and loud noises.i get annoyed by loud
    sounds and loud noises alot.please give me advice on dealing with this
    as a gay single man with a.d.d.
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    Jul 05, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    meditation??

    Diet change??
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    Jul 05, 2010 1:54 AM GMT
    I'm on a vegetarian diet.i'm on a suger free diet.i'm on a caffeine free diet.
    i'm on a meat free diet.i use drug free treats to deal with my a.d.d.
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    Jul 05, 2010 2:20 AM GMT
    I'm not a doctor, but I'm not sure your sensitivity to loud sounds has anything to do with ADD.

    Could be you are just a little more "wired" than most people. . . i.e., hyper, high-strung. . .

    Or maybe you have a little "hyperacusis". . . lots and lots of people have that. . . it's a sensitivity to loud sounds. Doesn't mean anything's wrong with you. . . just that sudden sounds, or very loud sounds bother you more than most.

    Whatever the reason, I am the same way. Hate sirens. . . screaming. . . idiots who do that loud whistle, like at football games. . . and fire alarms, those really loud ones drive me crazy.

    Re: rock concerts, or going to a club, or anyplace where the music is loud. . . absolutely everyone, no matter your age, EVERYONE should wear ear plugs. Exposure to very loud sounds for even a short period of time can permanently damage your hearing.

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    Jul 05, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    Nope...just you
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    Jul 05, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    i watch football games at home only and never in public places.i'm not into
    live music at at all.i don't care to go sporting events at all.i hate fireworks.
    i hate the 4 th of july.
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    Jul 05, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    bigbubba1972 saidi was wondering,do most gay men with a.d.d. or a.d.h.d. hypersensitive
    to loud noises and lound sounds or not?i'm a gay man with a.d.d. who
    is hypersensitive to loud sounds and loud noises.i get annoyed by loud
    sounds and loud noises alot.please give me advice on dealing with this
    as a gay single man with a.d.d.


    We live in a noisy world and have to learn to deal with it because it is not going to change anytime soon. Maybe your case manager can give you some advice with these issues.
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    Jul 05, 2010 3:14 AM GMT
    I had something I wanted to post here, but then I saw this bird on the tree outside my window, and I remembered I needed to clean the window and.... what were we talking about?
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    Jul 05, 2010 3:42 AM GMT
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    DCEric saidI had something I wanted to post here, but then I saw this bird on the tree outside my window, and I remembered I needed to clean the window and.... what were we talking about?

    Stop stealing my material, douchebag. And get off my lawn.


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    Jul 07, 2010 6:56 PM GMT
    Do most gay men with a.d.d. have depression and other mental health
    problems?
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    Jul 07, 2010 7:00 PM GMT
    are most gay men with a.d.d. emotional guys or hypersensitive guys?i have
    got straight male relatives with a.d.h.d. and they both emotional guys and
    hypersensitive guys.i'm a gay single guy who is both an emotional guy &
    a hypersensitive guy.that's why i'm asking.
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    Jul 09, 2010 12:34 AM GMT
    DCEric saidI had something I wanted to post here, but then I saw this bird on the tree outside my window, and I remembered I needed to clean the window and.... what were we talking about?
    Good question. I though the thread was about ...

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    Jul 17, 2010 10:59 AM GMT
    I really don't know about the “most gay men” thing; but I can answer based on what I have learned over the last couple of years (yeah, I was diagnosed at around 30 years old... and I am apparently more that “just a bit” ADD). I don't mean to be critical, but there is no difference between a gay man with ADD and a straight man (at least not that I can see.) You may consider leaving orientation out of this while you figure out how to deal with ADD- you will be dealing with the same effects and the same challenges as well as reaping the same benefits of ADD as every other person who has this interesting “condition.”

    I have chose to take Ritalin; it really is a personal choice to deal with it drug free or to use drugs. For me, I have discovered that I can make it through a meeting and I can deal with a group of people if I take my medication; without it... well, it's been an ugly three decades. I do not always take it (hell, imagine somebody saying here is a pill to help you focus and remember- now just remember to take it!) I really think that you need to figure out why you are avoiding medication if it could help you. Is it because you don't consider ADD to be an actual, physical, treatable condition- do you think it is all in your head and believe what you have been told your whole life- that you just need to “try harder”?

    Please do not get me wrong- I am not knocking the decision to not take medication. It is a personal choice- I just want to be certain that you are making the choice for the right reasons (one would be if you have high blood pressure- the last thing you need is a stimulant running through your system..)

    Having said that, there is a book called “delivered from distraction” that I have found to be a huge help with everything from how I view my ADD to different strategies to deal with it. It contains information on medications but also has a section dedicated to nutritional treatments. I would list them here, but I am afraid that I misplaced the book when I took it to the doctors office with me two weeks ago when I stabbed myself (yes, it could easily be considered ADD related.) The book is missing and it has to be somewhere as I did take it back from the doctors office.

    To answer your questions, yes- ADD often goes hand in hand with depression (and if you get the ADD under control it can cause the depression to intensify as you are able to concentrate on what a disaster your life has become.) Again, this is true of gay men, straight men, women and children. It often is associated with dyslexia and many other “conditions” as well. Quite likely you are hypersensitive to loud noises because you “hyper focus” on them and lack the ability to tune it out. One of the problems with ADD is that while you can not focus on what you want to you do hyper focus on certain things...

    I do not think that I have read about any correlation between ADD and being emotional. So far as I can tell it has nothing to do with that unless you have depression or anxiety from ADD. Often, apparently, people who have ADD suffer from post traumatic stress disorder from being able to change their focus from hurtful events to other things and never deal with the “hurt” (at least this is what the “good book” tells me.)

    Well, there it is- a post that is far too revealing (I'm living safe in the promise that I can just delete my profile...) Best of luck dealing with the negative effects while keeping the positive aspects intact- do pick up the book I had mentioned; it is not a “cure all” but it does have lots of strategies and will likely help you to understand your reactions and decisions better.
  • Nayro

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    Jul 17, 2010 9:35 PM GMT
    amar_m saidmeditation??

    Diet change??


    diet change? for add? i dont think that'll work
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    Jul 17, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
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    DCEric saidI had something I wanted to post here, but then I saw this bird on the tree outside my window, and I remembered I needed to clean the window and.... what were we talking about?
    Good question. I though the thread was about ...

    ...

    OMG look at that hot guy over there! icon_eek.gif

    Sorry...GayDD moment.


    Huh? You have a nice smile...
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    Jul 17, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
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    Jul 17, 2010 9:53 PM GMT
    Zoom12010 saidSQUIRREL!!!!!


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    Jul 18, 2010 5:02 AM GMT
    Found it! A couple of the ideas from the book. Exercise. Likely the #1 thing you can do to help ADD and it is good for depression as well. Considering the site you are on I will assume that is covered. Most of the other advice for diet were the usual “avoid trans-fats” and “don't binge on carbohydrates” all of the things that we all know already. Likely the #1 supplement the book recommended (and there are studies to support) would be omega-3 fatty acids.

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