When do you know it's time for you to settle down or not?

  • bluecrow

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    Jul 05, 2010 7:55 AM GMT
    I always have a thing for western boys. Unfortunately I didn't have much choice at where I grow up. I finally moved my ass to Sydney last year when I was 34 yo.

    I know I always look much younger than my real age. I can get away with it if I say I am in my 20s'. I have met quite a few good people and we became friends. However, I am always attracted to guys in their 20s'.

    I know there were many times that I could have already settled with someone who has a nice heart and I feel less attracted to, most of them are older than me.

    This is really only my second year in OZ. Should I be more realistic? Or hanging there? Gee, I can't believe I am already 35 yo and still hanging there. icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 05, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    Hang in there.

    I think gay men are just like straight men. Some are the settle down marrying type and some are the 'sow the seed in every field' type. I think that more gay men are honest about wanting to sleep around because it's more accepted; and I think gay men are more in touch with their sexuality and more honest about it to themselves than most straight men.
    I think the best policy is to be up front and honest when you meet guys. Let 'em know that you are interested in a longer term relationship and you'll know a lot about them by how they react.

    Good luck.
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    Jul 05, 2010 4:25 PM GMT
    When you're six feet under.

    Seriously though, I like my own space and not having to accommodate someone else's whims and idiosyncrasies 24/7. For me, that's the key thing, rather than any desire to play the field. The right time to 'settle down' is when you feel comfortable doing so, I suppose.
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    Jul 05, 2010 4:59 PM GMT
    When do you know it's time for you to settle down or not?

    A: When you're told old & tired to successfully run away any more.

    And actually I'm only semi-joking, in my choice of words, but not entirely in concept. For some guys, but not all, there comes a time when you can just get tired of playing the chasing & running games.

    You've done it all plenty of times, and one day you just know you're ready for something else. And if you don't feel that way, then it's not time to settle down.

    It's how do you know you're hungry - you just feel it. And how you also know when you've had enough of one kind of food, that you'd like to taste something different for once. At least for me these things have always been that easy to know. Simplistic, perhaps, but it works for me, no need for further complications.

    And speaking of food analogies, when I start using those it's a sure sign I'm hungry myself, so time to grab something, or maybe go out. icon_cool.gif
  • bluecrow

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    Jul 06, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    Thanks guys for your responses.

    I guess I just have to concentrate on sorting my own life first. With amount of spare money, it should be able to support myself cruising constantly for the right guy! Money first, then guys follow. icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 06, 2010 3:35 AM GMT
    Whoever started this myth that we're all going to find someone to settle down with? I think that he/she was quite a prankster!