How did you meet?

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    Feb 08, 2008 3:46 AM GMT
    In the spirit of the month of love, it's time to tell how you met your man.

    What is it that drew you to him? How did you meet? Was it love at first sight or did it develope over time?

    Since my only man right now is my left hand, those answers are kinda obvious. We really connect, it's like he is part of me. icon_wink.gif
  • ShawnTX

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    Feb 08, 2008 3:48 AM GMT
    Freakyninjamonkey saidIn the spirit of the month of love, it's time to tell how you met your man.

    What is it that drew you to him? How did you meet? Was it love at first sight or did it develope over time?

    Since my only man right now is my left hand, those answers are kinda obvious. We really connect, it's like he is part of me. icon_wink.gif


    Funny, I've always pictured you as a right-hand kinda guy.
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    Feb 08, 2008 4:51 AM GMT
    We met on a chat site.

    We were just acquaintances for the first year. He tended to the political forums, I didnt. And his pics were god-awful...except for one.

    Attracted the second year. We did overlap in some forums.

    Committed the third year. We found that we had a lot of intellectual interests in common. In all my years of looking, he is the only guy I can have conversations with about stuff that interests me and he is equally excited. We inspire and invigorate each other.

    In our fourth year now. I noticed the other day how I just the sight of the top of his head made me happy. That's the top of my sweetie's head! tee hee hee ... icon_biggrin.gif

  • zakariahzol

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    Feb 08, 2008 5:15 AM GMT
    I dont have a bf now, but I can told you when I first meet my ex bf , Joe. I was in this notorious gay pick up park cruising for sex. Suddenly a stunning , muscular younger guys wearing a black leather jacket start smiling at me. I was like come on, he certainly not smiling at me. He keep smiling and I was really confuse what to do. Latter on another guy start hitting on him and following him, and he pretty much ignoring his advance. I take some courage and just say a simple. How long you been here?, are you by youself?.First I was very careful , I mean he could be a hooker , undercover policemen or some thug looking for some victim to blackmail.


    Turn out he into cub chaser (I was 111kg then), and really sexually attracted to me. He riding a motorbike so he follow my car back to my apartment. The next day I have 3 missed call from him and when I answer he like, have you forgotten me? can I see you again?.

    A few week latter he move into my house and was my lover until he leave me for another guy last years
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    Feb 08, 2008 5:57 AM GMT
    icon_cool.gif I walked into a small pub in the Scottish Isles.

    Ours eyes kept meeting for just a moment too long.

    I thought he looked incredible, that kind of tall lanky muscularity I have always loved, like some ancient highland warrior (which he in fact turned out to be).

    I walked up and asked him about the local distilleries (the bartender had said he was the knowledgeable person to ask) and offered to buy him a pint.

    We ended up talking all afternoon, through dinner, and into the evening.

    The friends I was with say it was truly embarrassing how we ignored almost everything around us.

    We made arrangements to meet later in the week so he could guide 'us' around several of the distillers.

    I remember it was incredible - it was like he was made out of pure testosterone - I was drawn like a moth to a flame. icon_redface.gif

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    Feb 08, 2008 6:21 AM GMT
    I actually met my boyfriend on manhunt (go figure). I was just cruising and saw his profile. I emailed him and found out we lived a couple of blocks away from each other. He came over to my place and we chatted and watched the Red Sox game. Then we just made out for about 4 hours....I missed the Sorpronos Finale. I asked him if he wanted to spend the night and he did...No sex at all. Just talking and kissing. We dated for about 1 month before making it official.
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    Feb 08, 2008 1:16 PM GMT
    At 44 I was overweight and in cardiac care (stay with me here - I have to tell the whole story). When I got out, I started a crash diet thing which worked for a while, but by the age of 46 I'd ballooned back up bigger than before, and very much afraid I was headed right back into cardiac care again - or worse.
    I knew I had to find a better solution than the crash diet - so I started chatting on AOL in the MuscleM4M room - but the guys in there weren't interested in talking with a fat 46 year old. I noticed a new chat room, OlderMuscleM4M, and found in there a guy named Qtrback. (Hot, I thought - some gay ex-football player...) He was willing to chat with me about workouts & diet & stuff. Eventually, he sent me his picture, which knocked me out - he looked like a Colt model. Waaaay to hot to talk to me. As sexy as he looked, I got a pretty clear idea that if I took the conversation in a sexual direction, he'd be out of there. He did want to help me with my weight problem, though. So we kept talking.
    All this time I was in the declining months of an 8 year relationship that had not been working well for years. I just didn't have the balls to end it, and didn't relish the idea of being alone.
    Qtrback & I talked off & on for 9 months. I lost weight, and started to pull it together. I also finally ended it with my partner, who moved into the guest bedroom in our house. The atmosphere was not pleasant.
    My friends encouraged me to take a vacation down to LA. I had moved up to SF from LA 2 years earlier, while I was crash dieting, and still had friends down there. I figured I could take a long weekend, fly down, get a room at the Ramada in West Hollywood, and get laid. I needed it - bad!
    One day I mentioned the trip to Qtrback, and he said "Why not fly here (DC) instead? I could take you to the gym, help you with your workout, work on your diet. It's easier to show you things in person than talk about it online."
    It sounded nice, but way too expensive. But for the hell of it, I surfed over to United Airlines while we chatted, and they were running a sale -- $249 Round-Trip SF to DC, if I went the next weekend. I figured if I went, and he was nice in person, I'd learn some stuff and come home the better for it. If he was a jerk in person, I'd go to DuPont Circle, get a hotel room, and get laid. I'd do OK either way. I couldn't fly to LA and rent a car for the weekend for the same money anyway. So I took a chance.
    Memorial Day weekend of '99 I flew to DC. Dulles airport has satellite terminals, and you take this elevated bus thing to the main terminal. The doors opened to the concourse, and I saw him standing by a kiosk. I went over an introduced myself.
    He acted kinda wierd. He wouldn't look me in the eye when he spoke to me - which is a little disconcerting. He babbled about airport construction and diplomatic license plates and all kinds of stuff as we went to his car and drove away.
    Now, understand that I was incredibly worn out. Worn out physically from working and an all-day flight, mentally from my job, and emotionally from living with my ex-. All I wanted to do was get some decent food and unwind. He took me to this Italian restaurant full of smokers and crying babies, and then, finally, to his condo.
    I put my bags down and sat on the L-shaped sofa in the living room while he messed around in the kitchen getting water. He returned, sitting on the other end of the sofa.
    He said, "You look exhausted. Why don't you put your head on my shoulder and take a load off?"
    I thought " 'put your head on my shoulder'? I don't have the energy for some kind of come-on. But then, I AM tired, I could use a shoulder to lean on - what the hell."
    So I sort of scooted over, around the corner of the L, until I was next to him.
    I leaned over against him, and it felt strangely good.
    I kept leaning more & more, until I was lying, face up, my head in his lap. I closed my eyes, and at that precise moment, all the problems of my life drained from my body. It was the strangest, most amazing feeling I've ever felt. A transfiguration of sorts.
    Nine months later, in the late evening on Christmas Day of '99, I waited at a gate at SFO as the last flight of the day dumped out into a cold and empty terminal. Almost the last man off was Qtrback - coming to live with me.
    It turns out the reason that he acted so strangely in the terminal is that he knew the moment he saw me. He didn't want a relationship. His live was all in order, under control. But he figured it out when I stepped off the tram. It just took me a little longer, that's all.
    And to this day I can rest my head in his lap and feel that magic all over again. I think I always will.
    And he was never a football quarterback - but that's another story.
    Joey
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    Feb 08, 2008 1:26 PM GMT
    I saw my man from across the bar. He was wearing a shirt that made me laugh and of coarse he is very good looking. So i said to my friends, "Check that guy out. I going to meet him" So i said "see ya" to my friends and went over to talk to you him. We hit it off. 2 days later i invited him over for dinner and we have been together for over 2 years now.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 08, 2008 1:28 PM GMT
    Excellent Joey... thanks for taking the time and effort to share that with us. I glad you are finally in a situation in which you find empowering.....
    very important.

    So how have things gone since the move?
    Best wishes for a great Valentines Day.
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    Feb 08, 2008 1:34 PM GMT
    Thanks, Kansan. That was just over 8 years ago, and we continue to grow as a couple.
    We have our bumps - it's not a sitcom, it's real life - but they are just that, bumps. We get past them pretty quickly.
    Our relationship has been tested in several ways - for example, when we met, I was a systems analyst/consultant with a good income and a beautiful home. Three months later, I was an early casualty of the dot-bomp high-tech collapse. My company closed everything west of Denver with an email.
    Within 60 days, Dave & I had opened our own business, relying upon his background - floristry. We worked it for 3 years, sold it at a nice profit, and moved to the desert to take up personal training.
    Now, 5 years into that escapade, we're adding floristry back into the mix - but with a twist. We're opening a wholesale floral brokerage.
    Living together, playing together, working together - it can be intense sometimes, but we cannot imagine our lives without each other at this point.
  • cacti

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    Feb 08, 2008 1:38 PM GMT
    I'm not seeing anyone right now so I have nothing to contribute except compliments towards Joey for that beautiful story. Thanks for sharing. icon_smile.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 08, 2008 1:47 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]PSBigJoey said[/cite]

    Now, 5 years into that escapade, we're adding floristry back into the mix - but with a twist. We're opening a wholesale floral brokerage.


    Sounds great... so if we want to order flowers from Big Joey's floral, how do we do so? Or as a wholesaler.... is retail not a part of the mix?
  • zakariahzol

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    Feb 08, 2008 1:53 PM GMT
    Big Joey,

    Your love story is so romantic and sweet , that is really melt the heart just hearing it. How I wish I find the same level of closeness and love just like you. I saw your bf photo in one of this forum. His really good looking , the two of you really belong together .
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    Feb 08, 2008 1:54 PM GMT
    Wow, PSBigJoey!

    I think I'm jealous icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 08, 2008 2:03 PM GMT
    We met at a small support group for gays and lesbians. He sat next to me on the couch. During our group discussion he patted my leg a few times. I was so naive. I just thought he was missing his own leg and getting mine. After the group we all were standing around talking and he would seem to show up next to me and join in with the people I was talking with. I saw him at the next group meeting a week later and he asked me out this time. I said sure. We went out to dinner and back to his place. We talked a lot and I kissed him good night and left. I had a trip to go on the next morning. When I returned from my trip there was one message from him and that he would like to see me again. I called him and we made plans. I went back to his home and this time he didn't let me leave before seducing me. He was only my second guy I had been with. Well, let's just say it was so GOOD we both called in sick for a couple of days because we couldn't get out of bed. I was totally blown away by this guy.

    For some strange reason I always thought little guys would have little penises and big guys would have big penises. My theory was absolutely, positively shattered when I met this fellow. (He was a little guy)icon_lol.gif We have been together going on 16 years this May. Yummy!! icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 08, 2008 4:01 PM GMT
    Well.....I was just walking by, and there he was, sleeping on top of seven other identical puppies. I couldn't decide which one to take home, so I knelt next to the kennel to wait and see which one noticed me first. He woke up, turned towards me, and gave me a sleepy grin. Then I knew it was love.

    Oh, men? Sorry, done with all that. I prefer pups.
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    Feb 08, 2008 4:08 PM GMT
    First PSBigJoey, you're story should be a movie, very romantic and inspiring all in one.

    After years of wondering if I would ever meet Mr. Right and a torrent of Mr. Right Nows, I met my partner on gay.com. He IM'd me and the moment I saw his picture I swooned (it was a very manly swoon!). The most beautiful smile and eyes I had ever seen.

    We chatted for a while, but I could tell he was not paying as much attention to me as I was to him. He says he was looking for an apartment while talking to me (he was moving to Brooklyn from Florida in a week to start his residency) but I think he was hedging his bets on line. icon_evil.gif
    Pfft, as if anyone else could compare to me.. icon_wink.gif

    2 weeks later he was in NY and rented an apartment in Brooklyn which he never stayed a night in. We've been together for almost 5 years now and I still swoon when I look into his eyes.

    I still laugh when I read some of the more jaded posts from the younger guys who think it will never happen for them. Patience is a virtue guys!
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    Feb 08, 2008 5:11 PM GMT
    Right now I'm "talking" to a guy, mostly waiting for him to decide what he wants to do. We "met" on HotorNot, via his ex-GIRLfriend. lol. She was apparently trying to be vindictive, but that kinda backfired. I actually e-mailed him through Myspace and we have been chatting on-line since and have managed to go out for drinks with friends on occassion. As of now, we are just friends, seeing as he classifies himself as straight. But I was thinking about asking him to go to a movie with me on Thursday. icon_wink.gif I want to get him semi-alone/away from friends, and see what happens...icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 08, 2008 5:23 PM GMT
    Amazingly, I met my boyfriend on gay.com (though after reading some of these posts, I guess it's not all that surprising). I saw his profile, thought he was the hottest little latino i'd ever seen and decided to send him a message. We exchanged emails a few times but lost touch for a few months. In that time I went on dates with a few guys from the Culinary Institute of America (I lived nearby). Both of those ended up being huge mistakes, much like most of the guys I met on gay.com. So when he sent me a message again I decided I would give it one last shot. If it didn't work out, that was it for the CIA. I didn't want to become that townie guy who makes his way across campus.

    When we met my first impression was that he was a little dorky because of his glasses and clothes. Still I decided to give him a chance and we went out for drinks. We had great conversation with lots of laughs and I figured, if nothing else, he'd be a great friend, maybe even a best friend. Then, he took off his glasses and looked me straight in the eye. I gasped as my heart began to race. His gaze was awe-inspiring. Those eyes told me all I needed to know about him, his complexity, his determination and, above all, they told me he was someone I could not let slip away.

    Later, we sat on a park bench talking and holding hands. As a drizzle began, we leaned in and had one of the best kisses of my life. The intensity of the rain increased and we headed for my car. As I drove back to his campus the tension between us built until I had to pull off the main road and parked on a deserted street. In one swift motion he pulled the release on the back of my seat and straddled me planting a deliciously passionate kiss on my lips. As the rain poured down we tore off each other's clothes. The glass of my moonroof was revealed allowing the thunder and lightning to fill the car. We clawed at each other intensifying the heat of the moment. A huge bolt of lightning raced across the sky illuminating the entire car, allowing us to lock eyes. The heat and desire I saw in those eyes drove me over the edge and we exploded with screams that echoed in the steamy car. We collapsed, watching the thunderstorm continue around us.

    After that, there was no doubt he'd be the love of my life. It's been 3 1/2 years and we're still going strong. I was right when I met him, he really is my best friend.
  • jarhead5536

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    Feb 08, 2008 5:29 PM GMT
    I met my husband the weekend I moved to Montana (July 2006). I was moving into my apartment, and it wasn't until late Saturday night that got around to setting up my stereo speakers. I turned everything on and started playing "Ride of the Valkyries" full volume with the windows open. I went outside to see if you could hear it from the street. There was a busy house party going on across the street, and some loud drunk guy started catcalling me in the dark. For reasons I will never fully comprehend, I crossed the street and met him. One of his friends took my phone number, and as I was leaving, drunk guy grabbed me and gave me a kiss I have never forgotten.

    We are going to Canada this summer to get married...
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    Feb 09, 2008 1:02 PM GMT
    To those who commented on my post - thank you.
    To those of you who are just getting started, or about to get started, we wish you the very, very best.

    - Joey
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    Feb 09, 2008 1:49 PM GMT
    aw Big Joey I have gone all teary eyed now that is so damned sweet !

    Mines nowhere near as romantic as that kinda embarrassing really!

    Our local bar has a front bar and a back bar and I was talking to my mate and this guy walked in round the other side. I went to put my pint down and as my mate reminds me to this day, I never removed my eyes from this guy and I totally missed the bar! everyone laughed and it caused alot of mess, and I kinda thought shit I cant approach him now as I was covered in Diet coke and looked like I had wet myself!

    Seriously tho this guy didnt just make my heart skip a beat it almost lept out of my chest!!!! But alas I didnt go over and he left with some other guy.

    Well I didnt approach him for a while but did see him occasionaly but he was never on his own, was always with a group of mates. if I did catch his eye, or rather he caught mine he would flash a cheeky grin and I would end up beetroot!

    It was February 2006 day before Valentines day, Id just ended a disastrous short term relationship with a total loser, Was in the pub and chatting with my mates and another mate of mine Henry who is so sweet but not my type saw me looking over at Alan (the stunning sexy smiled blue eyed gorgeous guy).

    Henry is camper than Christmas at times and he went into a right episode about how he couldnt believe I hadnt asked the guy out yet, next thing he stopped dead in the conversation and after a few seconds he asked me what my phone number was again as he had a new mobile. I foolishly, or not as the case maybe, obliged at which point Henry shot across the bar in Alans direction with me running over having a squeeling hissy fit!

    Next thing I know I heard those dreadful awful words "my mate fancies you, and here's his number, second thoughts come with me" and he dragged him over. I stumbled over my words and for once in my life was actually speechless. we chatted a bit and he promissed to call me late. Well neither of us had left the pub 5 minutes and we were on the phone! Two days later was my birthday and a group of us went out, and Alan came, it was the best birthday present ever.

    It'll be 2 years next Friday and I love him as much as the day I first met him, he makes me tingle all over from the flash of a smile. As for Henry bless him I only found out last week that Henry had fancied the pants off me since the day he met me, bless him thats a true mate!
  • MichaelG

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    Feb 09, 2008 2:08 PM GMT
    I was sitting at a bar and noticed him on the dance floor. I couldn't take my eyes off him!! After a good amount of time I left the bar to use the mens room and asked the bartender to hold my drink. When I returned HE was sitting at the seat next to me drinking the drink that was sitting there since I sat down earlier.

    After 6 months of phone calls and flights I left my job, moved to another state to be with him and never looked back. That was 16 years ago, I am a firm believer in love at first sight.
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    Feb 09, 2008 5:26 PM GMT
    I met my husband to be on a chat site, (not this one) and it was attraction at first site. We communicated for 6 months for at least 2 hours a day. We then met and now the rest is history. I am selling my home to move in with him in his city and I am very excited, we plan on Marrying within the next year.

    Life is really grand!

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    Feb 09, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    We met at opening night of gay recreation volleyball in September 1996. He was kind of nervous because that was the first time he had ever gone to a gay sports league before. I initially thought he was Chinese because of his looks, but when I saw his last name I realized he was Filipino.

    There was a physical attraction to him on my part right away, I didn't realize he also found me attractive (I was nearly 36 at the time). We played on the same softball team the next year, slowly becoming friends. It was not until New Year's Eve 1997 at a gay bar that I realized that he was really interested in me. We went on our first date January 3rd, 1998 and we have been together ever since.