averagegayguy saidhi good ppl of realjock i recently told my mum and sister that im gay and even though they said that they will love me no matter what there is a hell of a lot of tension in the house the other day they cornered me and told me to be abstinent from being with guys and to start going to church plus a lot of abuse was thrown at me stuff like this has been going on since i told them i feel like i should just move out what should i do?
I kinda remember a story that my BF told me about his EX. His ex told his mother that he was gay and the mom did not freak out instead gave him a bible. I didn't know whether to laugh or what.
You're only 20. And it's really brave that you came out as early as you did, that takes a lot of balls and you have my total respect. I didn't come out until I was 27. So you have a head start to show what kind of person you are and I'm sure you are a good one.
Moving out might be an option. But take a step back first, and see the bigger picture. I would try to understand your family's reaction. They probably weren't expecting this. This issue must go both ways. Meaning, you have to understand them and give them a break and vice versa.
You might want to be straight forward with your family that being gay is not something you chose and that you know what it entails and if you are active sexually, you practice safe sex.
But sex aside, feel out your family, give them time and since you still live with them you are the one who needs to bend. Unless of course you are in the position to move out.
But moving might have two possible outcome: you might end up alienating yourself to your family, or to learn as early as now how it is to be gay in an independently.
But as for me, better wait it out, feel it out first. If your family is very uncomfortable about talking about the reality of homosexuality, I would suggest not to push it just yet. Just wait.
If you think your family can give you the support you need by waiting, I think in the end, it'll be worth it.