Are you a gay social butterfly?

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    Jul 06, 2010 2:30 PM GMT
    Especially in big cities, it can become really easy to become a gay social butterfly. Here in Houston, the gays designate a particular restaurant for every day of the week. They just invade that restaurant every week and it becomes to place to be if you wana mix and mingle with other gays. Yesterday I went to monday's "place to be" at a place called Cafe Adobe. It was a freakin sausage fest, lol... so much so that a straight couple with kids walked in and then walked straight out as soon as they got the picture....


    So are you a social butterfuly in your town? Do you partake in the sunday brunches, weekend pool parties, gay dinner venues and parties?
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    Jul 06, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    I'm the gay social outcast. No pool parties, no Sunday brunches, no weekend beach parties, loathe most gay bars (except a small few), and mostly hang out at a small "straight" (gay-friendly) sidewalk sports bar...if I even hang out.
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    Jul 06, 2010 3:51 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'm the gay social outcast. No pool parties, no Sunday brunches, no weekend beach parties, loathe most gay bars (except a small few), and mostly hang out at a small "straight" (gay-friendly) sidewalk sports bar...if I even hang out.


    That pretty much sums me up as well.
  • jgymnast733

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    Jul 06, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
    My buddys and i are all social butterflies thats actually how we all met, we usuallly hit a restaurant in chelsea then the bars in the east village.. We also network and send each other clients, which is great...
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    Jul 06, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    I'm not. Running with the "in" crowd is highly overrated.
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    Jul 06, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    My partner & I are both social butterflies. He's attending a power lunch at this very moment with local movers & shakers.

    I tend to shy away from many of these, but sometimes attend. I know my limitations, not by nature a social butterfly, not someone who easily mixes and does the glad-hand act.

    So I do what I always did in the Army: find the guy who excels at whatever it is that I do not excel at, and assign him that job. Time and again I've found the BF or partner who had the social skills I lack, and I ride on his coat tails.

    In return, I supply my own unique skills to the relationship, to make us a team. But social skills? No, there I fail miserably, and I need a helper to turn me into the social butterfly I've become. I recommend this tactic to others who likewise lack this ability to achieve social success on their own.
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    Jul 06, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI'm not. Running with the "in" crowd is highly overrated.


    +1 the "in" crowd tries to hang with me, albeit im sure some having different agendas.
  • rnch

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    Jul 06, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'm the gay social outcast. No pool parties, no Sunday brunches, no weekend beach parties, loathe most gay bars (except a small few), and mostly hang out at a small "straight" (gay-friendly) sidewalk sports bar...if I even hang out.
    yup! i'm turning into a "Hearth Hugger" in my middle age..... icon_eek.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 06, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    Not really. I try and be social, but I have found (at least in Wichita), things like "dedicated home ownership" with responsibilities along with serious fitness and focus (and not much drinking, etc) doesn't add up to being a social butterfly..LOL. I do have a nice group of friends and have some good participation.. and thats enough. It is interesting how I get occasional phone calls to attend parties by those who "sort of know me", but I'd call them acquaintances at best.
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    Jul 06, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    We used to.
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    Jul 06, 2010 6:42 PM GMT
    meninlove said We used to.


    Why not any more?
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    Jul 06, 2010 6:50 PM GMT
    Well, we're monogamous, which a great many found boring. No possibility of hooking up etc. Some called us cast-asides.

    We were at a club celebrating year seven, and were asked by a group of guys to go to an after hours party. One guy asked if we had met recently because we were rather affectionate with each other, Bill and I. When we said seven years another asked if we play. We said no and a third chimed in,
    "On no, what's wrong?" with a concerned look on his face that made Bill blush then laugh.

    We also had an unfortunate experience with a large group of couples we hung with. Their relationships ended when it was discovered they'd been cheating amongst each other. They turned on us, saying we were the only couple left and then began a discussion that we must be dysfunctional and /or co-dependent.

    No thanks.

    Now we live in a small seaside town about 40 minutes out of Vancouver. Not too many gay people here that we've met, but we understand there are a fair number, so we keep an eye out for them. Should the opportunity arise we'll jump in with both feet. Right now this site is it.