Has anyone given up on Plan A in their life?

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    Jul 06, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    ... and subsequently Plan B, C, and settled with D.. or some other variation due to lack of ambition, sheer will, or unforeseen circumstance?

    just had a heart to heart with my older brother who gave up on being the next steve jobs.. instead his side job as interior designer GREW CRAZILY this past year due to less people moving, staying home and redecorating.. he's in the process of opening a second studio and is grossing $$$ more than he could ever make with his full time job...

    i secretly wish i had his ambition as neither of us really need to work (supportive family) but he stuck his neck out despite that.. im still in my early 20's but im getting fat and maybe too comfy thinking what i want to do with my life.. despite not really having to.
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    Jul 06, 2010 4:59 PM GMT
    Wanna trade families?
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    Jul 06, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    I'm trying to transition out of Plan C and get into Plan D. But I might consider going back to Plan B, if nothing else works. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 06, 2010 7:24 PM GMT
    jduckj said... im still in my early 20's but im getting fat and maybe too comfy thinking what i want to do with my life.. despite not really having to.


    I was a little taken aback by your comments. What do you mean "despite not really having to". I assume you mean financially, but I'm a little stunned...


    You are an intelligent, unique person and most people want to do something that is uniquely theirs in their lives. Why are you here? Don't you want to achieve something in your life? Create something? Feel satisfaction and a sense of confidence based on achievement?

    For me that is living!

    Not to get in your face (scratch that, if I was there I'd be in your face). It doesn't mean at 20 or 22, you need to have your whole life planned.. but at 22, I already knew how important it was to feel the drive of achievement.
    Without it, I'd feel pretty... I don't even know.

    Think about where your life might go by doing something.. and take a page from your brother's book! With it.. you might have a very happy life and without.... you may not.
  • rnch

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    Jul 06, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    there's not enough letters in the alphabet to contain all my life plan's changes and modifications. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 06, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    jduckj said. im still in my early 20's


    vs

    Direct link: http://www.realjock.com/jduckj
    Age: 30
    Location: Miami, Florida, United States

    Get your story straight...
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    Jul 06, 2010 7:30 PM GMT
    This topic really hit a nerve for me. Plan A was to be successful, with a great husband, and we'd travel and run 5Ks and marathons together and be happy.

    Instead I'm almost 40, on the knife-edge of poverty due to two layoffs. My partner has a heart condition that made him gain a lot of weight (and he didn't like running to begin with). I have no friends and am desperately lonely. This has hit home lately because I met a nice couple at the gym who are everything I'm not - smart, funny, interesting, hot, in love with each other. So suddenly the life I lead is in stark contrast.

    I'm not sure what "Plan" this is - probably Plan Z because there's nowhere to go from here.
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    Jul 06, 2010 7:31 PM GMT
    it's good to have options.

    However; as a repetitive topic: do not be someone's option when you make them your priority.

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    Jul 06, 2010 7:34 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    Get your story straight...


    i have fat fingres sue me, plus family is known in town so keepin it hush for now before i get my life straight .. will update when ready
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    Jul 06, 2010 7:38 PM GMT
    Briefs29 saidThis topic really hit a nerve for me. Plan A was to be successful, with a great husband, and we'd travel and run 5Ks and marathons together and be happy.

    Instead I'm almost 40, on the knife-edge of poverty due to two layoffs. My partner has a heart condition that made him gain a lot of weight (and he didn't like running to begin with). I have no friends and am desperately lonely. This has hit home lately because I met a nice couple at the gym who are everything I'm not - smart, funny, interesting, hot, in love with each other. So suddenly the life I lead is in stark contrast.

    I'm not sure what "Plan" this is - probably Plan Z because there's nowhere to go from here.


    thsnks for sharing that puts things in perspective, im sure youre not the only one in that boat though, hopefully things turn
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    Jul 06, 2010 8:46 PM GMT
    currently on Plan 9 From Outer Space
  • dannyboy1101

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    Jul 06, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    Totally am pondering scrapping it all. I'm a teacher which in Illinois right now isn't such a hot thing with how crappy the state budget cuts are. I am in a building that is not a very good environment stuck a level below where I want to be with little opportunity for growth or advancement to the higher level. I will be tenured which provides me super job security but at what cost?

    Crazily enough, my plan one year from now is to resign and move to NYC if I don't move districts or buildings. This was my first job out of college and I know that as years pass it's a lot easier to just settle and float on by. I would rather take a risk, blow my savings while unemployed and possibly unable to find a job, and go to a different place to live in order to say I tried than to sit here until I'm 75 when I might be able to retire if I'm lucky with all the money and unhappiness I could gather. I don't like thinking of what-ifs and plans only go so far. Sometimes radical change is necessary in order for one to find happiness. Hopefully that's the case for all of us who have turned off the original path.
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    Jul 06, 2010 9:34 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidcurrently on Plan 9 From Outer Space

    OMG! THAT'S MY PLAN!!
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    Jul 06, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    if by plan A you mean the plan i had when i was 12 years old, then yes, i've given up that plan long ago. but if by plan A you mean finding my bliss, then no.

    i continue to look for the best possible work, (stuff that makes me happy and i enjoy doing), finding good, honest, and trustworthy friends, and being the best i can be top to bottom, inside and out.

    for that plan A, i have no plan B.
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    Jul 06, 2010 9:52 PM GMT
    ahahahahahahahahahahha... official awkward nancy post of the day... I will have to find a graphic for that... but seriously... Plan A was when I was 5 and wanted to be a robot ninja... cheer the fuck up emo kid.
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    Jul 06, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    your thigh must be the size of my wrist, you make billy elliot look like a linebacker and you wanna call me a nancy boy.. come finish my box of donuts, oh wait i already did.
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    Jul 06, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    jduckj saidyour thigh must be the size of my wrist, you make billy elliot look like a linebacker and you wanna call me a nancy boy.. come finish my box of donuts, oh wait i already did.


    Wow... I hit a nerve. Good. Now stop being a fatass troll and go make your own money like the rest of us.
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    Jul 06, 2010 10:04 PM GMT
    Still on Plan A icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 06, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    KyleAD said
    jduckj saidyour thigh must be the size of my wrist, you make billy elliot look like a linebacker and you wanna call me a nancy boy.. come finish my box of donuts, oh wait i already did.


    make your own money like the rest of us.


    you seem to be doing a good job of making me money, keep working billy.. my show's on, biggest loser. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 06, 2010 10:26 PM GMT
    That made no sense dumbass.
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    Jul 06, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    I think I'm on plan Q about now.
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    Jul 06, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    I'm too old to still be thinking about Plan A or Plan B, C, or D. Today when I use the word 'plan' I am probably talking about the choice of Traditional or PPO.
  • shirty

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    Jul 07, 2010 1:01 PM GMT
    wi2sd saidit's good to have options.

    However; as a repetitive topic: do not be someone's option when you make them your priority.



    I agree... thanks for reminding us!
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    Jul 07, 2010 1:13 PM GMT
    Never! icon_mad.gif I don't care how many times I fall down, I'm just going to keep moving forward. Because I don't see any point to living a life that I don't want to live.

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    Jul 07, 2010 1:21 PM GMT
    KyleAD saidahahahahahahahahahahha... official awkward nancy post of the day... I will have to find a graphic for that... but seriously... Plan A was when I was 5 and wanted to be a robot ninja... cheer the fuck up emo kid.



    hahaha---that was awesome. What you are looking for in life is almost always less relevant and less interesting than what you find. Here I was thinking that I want to find a nice middle aged boyfriend and as it turns out I want to marry Kyle. (although being a robot ninja would be SWEET.)