Creepy Incident Today

  • brycetippe

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    Jul 07, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    Well I have a youtube account with various of videos of me talking, or whatever.. and well there was this one older gay guy (Probably in his 60s) who found it (Who lived in my home town) and started commenting on my videos. He then messaged me and stuff. When I moved back to my hometown he talked about how he wanted to meet me a go out for coffee. The way he talked to me was creepy, and he mentioned that he saw a video of me singing from someone... Which means he was talking about me to people. which is kind of strange.icon_neutral.gif
    Well he`s gave me his phone number plenty of times and has messaged me even more so and I just started ignoring him.
    At work today he walked into the fucking store while I was ringing through a customer!
    So I got one of the girls to cover for me at cash while I hid in the stock room. LOL.
    Then I went back out because the girl was going on her break and he saw me and all creepily said "Hi Bryce" I was like dsojf;sjfms;djg.
    Well really I said hi back and turned away; I might have been creeped out, but I'm not going to be rude. xD
    Am I doing the right thing?
    Like in a way I feel bad because he seems to like me, but at the same time I feel uncomfortable with the situation and don't really have any need or want of being friends with someone in their 60s.
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    Jul 07, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    Tell him that you're not interested in being friends and to leave you alone. After that, call the cops and/or get a restraining order.

    Word to the wise: Don't be so easy to locate via your online identities. Guard your privacy.
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 07, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidTell him that you're not interested in being friends and to leave you alone. After that, call the cops and/or get a restraining order.

    Word to the wise: Don't be so easy to locate via your online identities. Guard your privacy.

    True I was stupid to do so.
    And thanks for the advice.
    I already have told him I'm not interested in being friends, he just won't leave it be.
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    Jul 07, 2010 3:14 AM GMT
    Next time he makes contact, reiterate that it is unwelcome contact and state that you are in process of obtaining a protective order. If that doesn't dissuade him, then keep copies of communications, and get the protective order.

    Also, at some point, if he does not leave you alone, you may have no choice but to inform your employer that you are receiving unwelcome and potentially harmful contact from a person who is coming into the store (do not call the person a "customer").

    Don't underestimate the danger that a stalker can pose. You're young, and you don't know how sick or twisted the stalker may be. Think personal protection and safety first. Second guess later when you are in a place of safety.

    I have a protective order in place against a person, and I have not seen this person in nearly 3 years...until today. I immediately left the area even though I was not 100% sure it was him, but he was scoping me out, and I wasn't going to take any chances. That old familiar (and unwelcome) feeling of being unsafe gave me the creeps...and I'm 45.

    Consult with a local "Domestic Abuse" outreach agency for additional guidance for your legal jurisdiction. And, don't let those words "Domestic Abuse" stigmatize you. This is an issue that is about personal safety no matter what your socio-economic-generational demographic may be.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 07, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    Apparently the dude thinks he has something on you and wants to be cutesy about it. That alone would make me follow the "ignore" course of action. I wouldn't be nicey about it, treat him professionally, nothing more...
    If he does something inappropriate, tell him to back off and if he doesn't, its time for a restraining order. In the meantime, do your best to keep at arms length... and take this as a lesson so there won't be a next time.
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 07, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidNext time he makes contact, reiterate that it is unwelcome contact and state that you are in process of obtaining a protective order. If that doesn't dissuade him, then keep copies of communications, and get the protective order.

    Also, at some point, if he does not leave you alone, you may have no choice but to inform your employer that you are receiving unwelcome and potentially harmful contact from a person who is coming into the store (do not call the person a "customer").

    Don't underestimate the danger that a stalker can pose. You're young, and you don't know how sick or twisted the stalker may be. Think personal protection and safety first. Second guess later when you are in a place of safety.

    I have a protective order in place against a person, and I have not seen this person in nearly 3 years...until today. I immediately left the area even though I was not 100% sure it was him, but he was scoping me out, and I wasn't going to take any chances. That old familiar (and unwelcome) feeling of being unsafe gave me the creeps...and I'm 45.

    Consult with a local "Domestic Abuse" outreach agency for additional guidance for your legal jurisdiction. And, don't let those words "Domestic Abuse" stigmatize you. This is an issue that is about personal safety no matter what your socio-economic-generational demographic may be.

    Thanks for the help.
    And I'm sorry you saw that person!
    That's got to be uncomfortable.
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 07, 2010 3:25 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidApparently the dude thinks he has something on you and wants to be cutesy about it. That alone would make me follow the "ignore" course of action. I wouldn't be nicey about it, treat him professionally, nothing more...
    If he does something inappropriate, tell him to back off and if he doesn't, its time for a restraining order. In the meantime, do your best to keep at arms length... and take this as a lesson so there won't be a next time.

    At this age getting a restraining order just seems ludacris.
    LOL.
    Hopefully he doesn't message me again; I don't need anymore drama than I already have. xD
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    Jul 07, 2010 3:32 AM GMT
    brycetippe said.

    Thanks for the help.
    And I'm sorry you saw that person!
    That's got to be uncomfortable.

    No more uncomfortable than hearing a fire alarm going off. I just thought, "Safety first", and calmly and quickly left the area.
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    Jul 07, 2010 3:35 AM GMT
    brycetippe said" I was like dsojf;sjfms;djg.
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    I haven't stopped laughing and I read this 20 mins agoicon_lol.gif
  • brycetippe

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    Jul 07, 2010 4:10 AM GMT
    Hillie said
    brycetippe said" I was like dsojf;sjfms;djg.
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    I haven't stopped laughing and I read this 20 mins agoicon_lol.gif

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    Happy to make you laugh.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 07, 2010 4:58 AM GMT
    I think that it's safe to say that the guy is interested in you, and he was stalking you at your workplace.
    You can't hide every time he shows up.
    If he's buying something, treat him as you would any other customer.
    If he's just hanging around, tell him to leave.
    If that doesn't work, tell your boss.