I got laid last night...

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    Jul 07, 2010 5:45 PM GMT
    And I'm feeling really weird about the whole thing..I have only had intercourse one other time (when I was 15), but in between I have fooled around, you know the usual " you go down on me I go down on you" blah blah blah bs. Normally I'm fine after it I mean it was never a whole lot, but I have my fun, we cuddle, we make plans to hang out later, that never happens, I move on with my life.

    But this time was different...I mean...I enjoyed it...but..It didn't feel.."right" I'm not saying every other time I've done anything its felt "right" but I have really only been with guys I have had touch and go possible relationships with, this was just some guy I talked with for a couple hours while getting plastered in a bar...

    I guess maybe more then anything I am a little disappointed in myself because I try to hold myself to my morals I guess..but I don't know. Anyone else ever feel this way?
  • rnch

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    Jul 07, 2010 5:58 PM GMT
    the best way to figure out these feelings is to meat the guy a couple of more times. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 07, 2010 6:08 PM GMT
    rnch saidthe best way to figure out these feelings is to meat the guy a couple of more times. icon_wink.gif


    LOL, well he really wants to um..."hang out" again, either I'm a natural or hes desperate. But I wouldn't really be against acutally just HANGING OUT, he was a really cool guy and was able to discuss issues with me on my level...I just don't know though.


    It doesn't help that every time I think about him I see someone elses face I guess.
  • Midas426

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    Jul 07, 2010 6:15 PM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca said
    rnch saidthe best way to figure out these feelings is to meat the guy a couple of more times. icon_wink.gif


    LOL, well he really wants to um..."hang out" again, either I'm a natural or hes desperate. But I wouldn't really be against acutally just HANGING OUT, he was a really cool guy and was able to discuss issues with me on my level...I just don't know though.


    It doesn't help that every time I think about him I see someone elses face I guess.
    Some of my best sex moments have been when I fantasized someone else actually doing me. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 07, 2010 6:22 PM GMT
    That's called a hook up and there's nothing wrong with it, it's not like you're gonna marry every guy you have sex with LOLicon_razz.gif
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    Jul 07, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
    devilish_intentions saidThat's called a hook up and there's nothing wrong with it, it's not like you're gonna marry every guy you have sex with LOLicon_razz.gif


    That would however make dating SO much easier.
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    Jul 07, 2010 7:01 PM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidAnd I'm feeling really weird about the whole thing..I have only had intercourse one other time (when I was 15), but in between I have fooled around, you know the usual " you go down on me I go down on you" blah blah blah bs. Normally I'm fine after it I mean it was never a whole lot, but I have my fun, we cuddle, we make plans to hang out later, that never happens, I move on with my life.

    But this time was different...I mean...I enjoyed it...but..It didn't feel.."right" I'm not saying every other time I've done anything its felt "right" but I have really only been with guys I have had touch and go possible relationships with, this was just some guy I talked with for a couple hours while getting plastered in a bar...

    I guess maybe more then anything I am a little disappointed in myself because I try to hold myself to my morals I guess..but I don't know. Anyone else ever feel this way?


    What are your "Morals" that you failed to live up to which caused you "a little disappointment"?
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    Jul 07, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidAnd I'm feeling really weird about the whole thing..I have only had intercourse one other time (when I was 15), but in between I have fooled around, you know the usual " you go down on me I go down on you" blah blah blah bs. Normally I'm fine after it I mean it was never a whole lot, but I have my fun, we cuddle, we make plans to hang out later, that never happens, I move on with my life.

    But this time was different...I mean...I enjoyed it...but..It didn't feel.."right" I'm not saying every other time I've done anything its felt "right" but I have really only been with guys I have had touch and go possible relationships with, this was just some guy I talked with for a couple hours while getting plastered in a bar...

    I guess maybe more then anything I am a little disappointed in myself because I try to hold myself to my morals I guess..but I don't know. Anyone else ever feel this way?


    What are your "Morals" that you failed to live up to which caused you "a little disappointment"?



    I'm one of those guys who can have a super hot guy sitting next to me telling me he wants to go back to his place and get nasty and I will just look at him and politely decline. I'm a little hard on myself, because I don't want to be "just another notch" on some guys head post
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    Jul 07, 2010 8:01 PM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca said
    BuddyinNYC said
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidAnd I'm feeling really weird about the whole thing..I have only had intercourse one other time (when I was 15), but in between I have fooled around, you know the usual " you go down on me I go down on you" blah blah blah bs. Normally I'm fine after it I mean it was never a whole lot, but I have my fun, we cuddle, we make plans to hang out later, that never happens, I move on with my life.

    But this time was different...I mean...I enjoyed it...but..It didn't feel.."right" I'm not saying every other time I've done anything its felt "right" but I have really only been with guys I have had touch and go possible relationships with, this was just some guy I talked with for a couple hours while getting plastered in a bar...

    I guess maybe more then anything I am a little disappointed in myself because I try to hold myself to my morals I guess..but I don't know. Anyone else ever feel this way?


    What are your "Morals" that you failed to live up to which caused you "a little disappointment"?



    I'm one of those guys who can have a super hot guy sitting next to me telling me he wants to go back to his place and get nasty and I will just look at him and politely decline. I'm a little hard on myself, because I don't want to be "just another notch" on some guys head post


    Sounds like you're looking for substance. That's very admirable and desirable. Are you able to (verbally) define (at least privately for yourself) what substance is for your moral satisfaction? Also, from your original post you seem ready to beat yourself up when you stray from your morals. Do you think that you can find reasonable, less extreme, 'forgiving' alternatives for those times?
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    Jul 07, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    Drama.jpg

    ZOMG! Are we gonna hear about everytime you get laid??? ... icon_eek.gif ... icon_rolleyes.gif

    P.S. tl;dr
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    Jul 08, 2010 6:44 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidDrama.jpg

    ZOMG! Are we gonna hear about everytime you get laid??? ... icon_eek.gif ... icon_rolleyes.gif

    P.S. tl;dr


    You mad bro?
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    Jul 08, 2010 6:48 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    DoomsDayAlpaca said
    BuddyinNYC said
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidAnd I'm feeling really weird about the whole thing..I have only had intercourse one other time (when I was 15), but in between I have fooled around, you know the usual " you go down on me I go down on you" blah blah blah bs. Normally I'm fine after it I mean it was never a whole lot, but I have my fun, we cuddle, we make plans to hang out later, that never happens, I move on with my life.

    But this time was different...I mean...I enjoyed it...but..It didn't feel.."right" I'm not saying every other time I've done anything its felt "right" but I have really only been with guys I have had touch and go possible relationships with, this was just some guy I talked with for a couple hours while getting plastered in a bar...

    I guess maybe more then anything I am a little disappointed in myself because I try to hold myself to my morals I guess..but I don't know. Anyone else ever feel this way?


    What are your "Morals" that you failed to live up to which caused you "a little disappointment"?



    I'm one of those guys who can have a super hot guy sitting next to me telling me he wants to go back to his place and get nasty and I will just look at him and politely decline. I'm a little hard on myself, because I don't want to be "just another notch" on some guys head post


    Sounds like you're looking for substance. That's very admirable and desirable. Are you able to (verbally) define (at least privately for yourself) what substance is for your moral satisfaction? Also, from your original post you seem ready to beat yourself up when you stray from your morals. Do you think that you can find reasonable, less extreme, 'forgiving' alternatives for those times?


    I keep it simple, all I really need in someone is a counterbalance. Of course the usual smart/funny/friendly combination but I would like someone more extroverted than myself.

    And I just don't ever want to become one of those guys that people can't take at his word, I do what I say and I present myself in a way that tells you who I am.
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    Jul 08, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidAnd I'm feeling really weird about the whole thing..I have only had intercourse one other time (when I was 15), but in between I have fooled around, you know the usual " you go down on me I go down on you" blah blah blah bs. Normally I'm fine after it I mean it was never a whole lot, but I have my fun, we cuddle, we make plans to hang out later, that never happens, I move on with my life.

    But this time was different...I mean...I enjoyed it...but..It didn't feel.."right" I'm not saying every other time I've done anything its felt "right" but I have really only been with guys I have had touch and go possible relationships with, this was just some guy I talked with for a couple hours while getting plastered in a bar...

    I guess maybe more then anything I am a little disappointed in myself because I try to hold myself to my morals I guess..but I don't know. Anyone else ever feel this way?



    I would get tested for STDs
  • Timbales

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    Jul 08, 2010 6:56 PM GMT
    You just need to be honest, do what you think is right for you and respect your partners.
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    Jul 08, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    What you've done is so disgusting and demoralizing I'll never be able to scrub the moral dirt from my being.

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    Jul 08, 2010 7:12 PM GMT
    sounds like you were drunk or under the influence.

    try it sober next time
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    Jul 08, 2010 7:18 PM GMT
    You do know that you can have sex and still have morals, don't you?

    Keep it up. Eventually your partner will be able to fuck all those years of religious upbringing right out of you. Who knows, you might even speak in tongues from time to time.
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    Jul 08, 2010 7:28 PM GMT
    reppaT saidYou do know that you can have sex and still have morals, don't you?

    Keep it up. Eventually your partner will be able to fuck all those years of religious upbringing right out of you. Who knows, you might even speak in tongues from time to time.


    I don't have a religious upbringing.