Pianist saidI have never once had anything even remotely resembling this happen. Therefore, I am hereby calling the gay bluff. Am I right, or just a hopeless prude?
I just don't know, my friend. I have in fact been hit on a lot right there in Omaha. And fucked like a bunny there (actually nearby in Council Bluffs).
And yet I'm no prize, trust me, even 15 years ago when I came out. But what I can do is watch, study, and learn from others.
So I studied the guys who were successful, and the guys who were not, and learned from them. One failing I quickly learned about myself was that I project a "do not touch" barrier around me, a vestige of my senior Army Officer days. It's still a good tool to have at my disposal, to use against the guys I DON'T want approaching me, but I also had to learn how to turn it off at other times.
That took some work, and I still have problems with it, even now; 25 years is hard to undo. I fear it will always be my "default" mode that I have to constantly remember to disable.
So what I did, when I wanted to be cruised (being rather inept at cruising others myself), was to copy what the cruised guys did. And sure enough, I got cruised like crazy.
Among my "tricks" was arriving on a motorcycle, and being dressed in authentic leather riding gear, not the faux-biker crap some guys attempt, as if it were Halloween. I have "old" eyes, no doubt from too much sun and a drawback to my appearance, so I tend to wear sunglasses indoors. But if you're just off a bike from outside, guys will accept that look as natural.
I realize you're unlikely to become a biker like me, but point is, exploit yourself, in whatever way works. Evaluate, make a plan, and execute. You don't simply drift along aimlessly with the current, but you set a course and follow it. I know, my military coming through, but hey, it does work, so that's my suggestion.
And so back to your original question: yeah, I still get hit on, at several times your age, and with only a fraction of your good looks, and, I suspect, totally lacking your winning personality. You got the goods; now put them to good use.