Deal Breakers

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    Jun 01, 2007 5:00 PM GMT
    I'm curious if you have, or a friend of yours has, anything that would be for the most part an instant deal breaker for a relationship.

    What is a thing or things that a guy could be into, have as a characteristic, habit, or desire, or anything about him that would make a relationship out of the question even if everything else were for the most part attractive?

    To give examples, a friend of mine refuses to even consider dating smokers, for another its drugs, for another it is being a stripper/dancer, for another it is being too tall, for another it is being to butch, for another it is not being skilled at bondage, etc. (BTW, the friend who doesn't like smokers is okay with drugs).

    Please don't comment on my examples, come up with your own and maybe a story to back it up.
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    Jun 01, 2007 5:18 PM GMT
    Smokers, drug takers, and anyone persistantly negative and putting others down. I'm also not a very materialistic guy (yup, missed the gay shopping gene,) so anyone who is more focused on things instead of people.
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    Jun 01, 2007 6:04 PM GMT
    White shoes after Labor Day.......just really pisses me off! :)
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    Jun 01, 2007 6:14 PM GMT
    Liars, haters, materialistic, shallow, moochers, immature, judgemental, negative, cheater and people with big egos.

    I don't really have examples or stories. I try and stay clear of people that have one or god forbid, more of the traits mentioned above.
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    Jun 01, 2007 6:22 PM GMT
    I was 23, 5' 8" and brand new in Denver. I met a good looking 28yo, 6' guy at the annual softball game between 2 gay bars held in a national park west of town. It was an instant hand holding and more attraction. It was a long time ago.

    We agreed to meet at my apartment the following week end.

    We were shirts off, kissing in the bedroom
    when I found out that was the limit of his reciprocity.

    I told him I wasn't doing anything that he wouldn't do, handed him his shirt, and showed him the way out.

    Strangely, he told his friends a reasonably accurate version of what had happened. In the next two months, 4 of his friends took me to diner and several of them bought me drinks in the bar.


  • duglyduckling

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    Jun 01, 2007 6:29 PM GMT
    I've been talking to a guy and we've had a really good connection. However, recently he went for a blood test and discovered that he is positive.

    I think for some people this could be a big deal breaker.

    For others, it might not make that big of a difference. Depends on the way you look at it.
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    Jun 01, 2007 7:10 PM GMT
    Taxodermy.

    Check, please!
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    Jun 01, 2007 7:20 PM GMT
    I'm sure there are all sorts of things that could spoil a relationship for me, but smoking is a definite deal breaker, as is heavy drinking (moderate drinking is ok). Occasional cannabis use wouldn't be a problem, but no go on total stoners or other druggies.
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    Jun 01, 2007 8:54 PM GMT
    I agree with paradox, Heavey Drinking, and Drugs( not weed), can ruin it for me. He can't be a stoner, but just some pot. However, what can be a deal breaker for me is some cheating, I don't get jealous of other guys if my guy look at them, but I get fucking pissed if I found my guy with another guy...I probaly go Ike Turner on that bitch...LOL!
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    Jun 01, 2007 8:59 PM GMT
    Only a few things will end it right away. One) wanting for one of us to but on a dress or women cloths. It is just wrong in my book. Two) very dumb people. I am not talk about people who do not know who Gregor Mendal was. (He was an Australian monk who developed the basic laws of genetics). But the people who do not know what a comet is. Three) sexual sadists.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 01, 2007 10:22 PM GMT
    LOL...I got so many of those it isn't funny

    mebbe that's why I'm single....hey!
  • SkyMiles

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    Jun 01, 2007 10:53 PM GMT
    Drug-users...and married guys.

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    Jun 02, 2007 12:46 AM GMT
    Instant deal breakers: Smoking, drugs, cheating, lying, obvious signs of communicable disease.

    Probably deal breakers: excess fat, excess stupidity, weirding out on the date (one guy started bringing out lots of guns to show me.)

    Maybe deal breaker: Obsessing over MY bad habits, dissing my dogs.
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    Jun 02, 2007 12:56 AM GMT
    Any sort of disrespectful behavior really (unless its a harmless joke). That mostly includes dishonesty and people who are controlling and/or manipulative. Also, disregard for my feelings; that sort of goes along with the fore-mentioned.
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    Jun 02, 2007 12:59 AM GMT
    Not a fan of smokers or crack-heads either. Its just gross not too mention scary. Although I don't mind being a fun gi every once in a blue moon (pun intended) or a little green.
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    Jun 02, 2007 2:13 AM GMT
    Stupidity...not that I haven't tried to tolerate it several times.

    Right-wing politics, although it is fun to fuck Republicans without lube.
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    Jun 02, 2007 3:36 AM GMT
    Oh, you are so mean obscenewish! I bet you give it to them good too. Personally I would move dissing the dog up to instant deal breaker. I know he's a dog, but he's my baby.
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    Jun 02, 2007 4:20 AM GMT
    yeah. i think im in line with the republicans, and people who abuse drugs(there is a difference between abuse and occasional use). Also, I'm gunna throw in....snobs, racists, and people who talk on their phone about work too much as in every ten seconds.
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    Jun 02, 2007 4:57 AM GMT
    Too effeminate behaviour, you know. Talking like a girls, move like one, dance like one, groaning like one. I have nothing against them just it a turn off when I am in bed with them. If I am into girls I look for one.

    I can tolerate taxordamy type, provided he is a real packages,100% mainly, big muscle , large dick, good looking. In this cases I am into muscle god and muscle worship. He is the god of course and I am his devoted subject.
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    Jun 02, 2007 6:07 AM GMT
    Drug addicts. Guys that are mean to service people just because they feel they can be.
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    Jun 02, 2007 7:22 AM GMT
    hmm, how can i say this without sounding like an ass? :)


    slobs, smokers, druggies, fakes, liars, abusive, fem, queen, overly vulgar, rude, stingy, possessive, clingy, assertive to the point their insecurities are as well disguised as a 500gal vat of turd tipped over in a ballroom filled with people. ...there isn't a single person that doesn't realize something stinks.

    i really need to stop :-X

    there are a lot of reasons to like a guy too.

    polite, funny, comical, romantic, strong, masculine, intelligent, sweet, handy with tools, handy with .. my tool ^_-, likes roller coasters, gives the waiter a few percent better of a tip, helps someone randomly at the grocery store, apologizes and makes good when he fucks up, likes to be the provider but doesn't squat out a mooing cow when you insist on paying for something.

    etc etc. :D

    ciao,
    -david
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    Jun 02, 2007 11:50 AM GMT
    TAXIDERMY!? Dang. Here I thought I was kinky.

    PM8


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    Jun 02, 2007 2:09 PM GMT
    I had a date with a REALLY hot guy, and then he told me he was a taxodermist. "Hmmmm...." I thought.

    There's a hilarious British comedy called "Goodness Gracious Me" that used to have a scene where the guy would say something dreadful to the girl he was dating, she would storm out and he would call "check, please".... that show was amazing! It's on YouTube, too! Check it out!

    Basically, I couldn't stop thinking throughout dinner about stuffed animals.... Major major turn off!

    (for me at least!)
  • SkyMiles

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    Jun 02, 2007 4:06 PM GMT
    Ok, ok...there needs to be a new thread here -- GAY TAXIDERMY JOKES!!!

    The possibilities are endless -- stuffing, mounting... Give it some thought.

    ^^,

    --Joe
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    Jun 02, 2007 5:26 PM GMT
    Im going to get hell for this but Bisexuals is a big deal breaker. also drugs and such. and a very possible deal breaker is being a WAM (Waiter-Actor-Model)