Should I ask him out?

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    Jul 09, 2010 7:48 PM GMT
    Okay, so I was hanging out with this guy and we both knew that the whole point of it was to hook up. We ended up talking for a while before and after, so we actually got to know each other pretty well and did the same thing the next day but we also went out for ice cream.

    I do kinda like him and would like to hang out with him more often/actually dating. He definitely seemed interested and found me attractive, but I'm not sure if it was just to hook up or for something more. We're going to the same school so we'll be living in the same city in about a month.

    We never really talked about anything developing, but we both agreed we would see each other in the summer and during the year. Would it be okay to just text him or something and tell him I like him and ask him out on a legit date?

    Thanks for your help!
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    Jul 09, 2010 7:57 PM GMT
    I'm not sure what to do icon_confused.gif

    If you like him, I don't see the harm
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    Jul 09, 2010 9:12 PM GMT
    I'm still not sure icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 09, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    I'd say just texting him to say "hey" and seeing what he's up to. Telling him you like him puts the pressure on. Keep it casual for now and see how it goes is my advice.
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    Jul 10, 2010 1:06 AM GMT
    Nothing ventured nothing gained.
    I once crushed on a hook-up, 10 years later I'm still crushing.
  • mybud

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    Jul 10, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    Dude....be honest with him....tell him you enjoy his company and you want to do more things together.....using the word "things" keeps it vague but he'll get the picture...you got nothing to lose....Good luck brah....BUD
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    Jul 10, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    I'm actually in a similar situation and unsure how to handle it. Any advice you guys have would be great.

    Part of me things there's no harm in following up with a casual text. What do you guys think?
  • MrXanderM

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    Jul 10, 2010 5:10 PM GMT
    hahaha... me and my ex met the same way.

    and hey, we were together for 2 years....not too shabby... lol..

    My advice is just to go for it. What is the worst thing that can happen... a no? seems like there is mutual attraction and interest. And, what legit hook up ends with ice cream?
  • mtneerman

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    Jul 10, 2010 5:13 PM GMT
    absolutely, do the casual text, invite him to do things with you. you'll find out soon enough if he's interested in being friends, if he is, take it slow and you'll be able to tell if he's interested in more.
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    Jul 10, 2010 5:28 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidNothing ventured nothing gained.
    I once crushed on a hook-up, 10 years later I'm still crushing.


    awwwww.. what a great story icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 10, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidNothing ventured nothing gained.
    I once crushed on a hook-up, 10 years later I'm still crushing.




    AWWWW Yep know the feeling. I was 13 he was 23 and a NCAA huddles champion and Handsome and Hot. He was a big brother for a summer.He would take me out to the school track and run with me as I was doing huddles in track. After the running he would wrestle me and always put me in a head lock with his legs, my face in his ass. icon_cool.gif I would grab it not to get out but so he wouldn't let go! icon_wink.gif

    47 yrs later still crushing!!!

    To OP go for it. It won't be the worst mistake you'll make in your life!
  • kew1

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    Jul 10, 2010 5:53 PM GMT
    MrXanderM said. And, what legit hook up ends with ice cream?


    Guilty, icon_redface.gif
  • Peteyboy583

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    Jul 10, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    I would ask him out. At the very least simply invite him to do something non-sexual (movie, hike, swimming, whatever) and see if you guys have fun. Work it slowly in that manner and see if you guys can be together and not have it centered around sex.

    Good luck man!
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    Jul 10, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    Well I ended up texting him and we're definitely going to hang out next time he's in town and I'm sure it'll be a lot more frequent when school starts! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 10, 2010 8:54 PM GMT
    spiritdude112 saidWell I ended up texting him and we're definitely going to hang out next time he's in town and I'm sure it'll be a lot more frequent when school starts! icon_biggrin.gif




    Another happy and satisfied customer....Good job team!....Next in line please... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 10, 2010 9:04 PM GMT
    Don't ask to date him. Date him.

    What do people do on dates? They go out. They eat. They drink. They fuck.
    You two are doing that, though not in that order.

    Hang out with him and enjoy each other's company. Let the dating question come up naturally. By then, you two will have been actually dating for so long that formally dating wont seem so different.