Date/Interview

  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 10, 2010 7:13 AM GMT
    Why does talking to some guys feel like an interview? You ask a question and they answer and that's it. I mean, if you are not interested in someone why play on and "act" polite.

    I feel like I am talking to walls with a lot of guys

    And after all this, they say that I AM the quiet one!!
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    Jul 10, 2010 7:31 AM GMT
    Hmmm. Maybe they are intimidated and afraid to say something wrong. Or maybe they are just dull. icon_mad.gif

    Hope you have better luck in the future.
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    Jul 10, 2010 12:28 PM GMT


    A date is a interview. Most ppl on first dates are racked by nerves and anxious. It takes a lot to breakthru and see the real person and a second date is usually required, Unless you have no patients and the guy is a complete jerk. Just for the record The "Interview" last for the duration of any relationship as ppl are constantly growing (hopefully) changing for the better.
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    Jul 10, 2010 12:34 PM GMT
    Hillie said

    A date is a interview. Most ppl on first dates are racked by nerves and anxious. It takes a lot to breakthru and see the real person and a second date is usually required, Unless you have no patients and the guy is a complete jerk. Just for the record The "Interview" last for the duration of any relationship as ppl are constantly growing (hopefully) changing for the better.


    it only is if you go into the date with expectations. get rid of the expectations. jerk off before u leave home. once u go with a clear head and no expectations it becomes just meeting a friend.

    the funny thing is though. we gay people make the determination on that very first date of whether we want to move forward or not
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    Jul 10, 2010 1:18 PM GMT
    Last time a guy told me I was boring an inattentive, I told him it's because he kept asking me why I thought he was attractive, because he didn't think he looked good. He was also asking me why I'm not into butt sex (yeah I go through that one a lot) and asking if I'd change my mind about it to be in a serious LTR. Needless to say, that "date" lasted all of a couple hours and I never saw him again. icon_lol.gif

    So I guess it depends on the questions you're asking. Interesting questions yield interesting answers. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 10, 2010 1:51 PM GMT
    I've found that most people can't take too much information up front. So I adopted a policy where I reveal very little on my profile, but they can ask me any question they want and I will answer honestly. I don't volunteer personal information (beyond what's on my profile) however.
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    Jul 10, 2010 2:01 PM GMT
    Isn't a date supposed to be a fun time just hanging together?

  • GQjock

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    Jul 10, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
    It's an interview when there's no interaction
    When you're on a date
    and you ask a question .... try following it up with .... Oh yeah? I like that too
    and Yaddah Yaddah Yaddah


    It becomes an interview when you ask question after question
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jul 10, 2010 2:10 PM GMT
    well be grateful you are having dates. ha ha ha there are plenty of guys who aren't dating at all these days. that being said, i think one of the other posters had a good idea. try and go into the date with no expectations. although, that can be hard when people tell you one thing and you go in see another one. i guess what i am saying to you is to be grateful and patient. Things will happen for you
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    Jul 10, 2010 2:30 PM GMT
    Gay men are weird. It's a damned if you do and damned if you don't

    How come it's not an interview when u are meeting someone to hook up?

    bottomline it depends on what your goal is and what u are taking into the meeting.

    The shit we do. it's a goodthing we don't breed amongst ourselves or we would be on the verge of extinction now

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    Jul 10, 2010 2:30 PM GMT
    Jmuscle33 saidWhy does talking to some guys feel like an interview? You ask a question and they answer and that's it. I mean, if you are not interested in someone why play on and "act" polite.

    I feel like I am talking to walls with a lot of guys

    And after all this, they say that I AM the quiet one!!



    This is precisely the reason why you should not go to dinner and movie. you have to do something creative and fun so that you'll relax. Dinner and a movie is just plain boring..
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    Jul 10, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    meninlove said Isn't a date supposed to be a fun time just hanging together?



    For me it is yeah... just hang out and have fun
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    Jul 10, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    So for you guys that treat it "just as a fun time" with no expectation, what makes you decide whether or not you'll hang out with them again? And more importantly, when do you cease being someone who is casually "dating" and move towards being something more serious/exclusive? Or does that not apply in your situation and you always keep it casual?
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    Jul 10, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    ShadyJ saidSo for you guys that treat it "just as a fun time" with no expectation, what makes you decide whether or not you'll hang out with them again? And more importantly, when do you cease being someone who is casually "dating" and move towards being something more serious/exclusive? Or does that not apply in your situation and you always keep it casual?


    If I had fun, Ill do it again, that simple

    And being serious is simply doing it every day
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    Jul 10, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]ShadyJ said[/cite]So for you guys that treat it "just as a fun time" with no expectation, what makes you decide whether or not you'll hang out with them again?

    If we got along great.


    And more importantly, when do you cease being someone who is casually "dating" and move towards being something more serious/exclusive?

    When we started missing each other and grinning foolishly to ourselves whenever we thought of each other, and our steps became lighter. There's so much to explain in regards to this question, so here, when we both feel what this video states.






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    Jul 10, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    So women do too. I hate iticon_mad.gif
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    Jul 10, 2010 8:36 PM GMT
    you know you are compatible with someone when you can talk and things come out free flowingly without much effort other than what to talk about next... now that's real chemistry=)
  • Webster666

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    Jul 10, 2010 8:45 PM GMT
    sokolowski saidyou know you are compatible with someone when you can talk and things come out free flowingly without much effort other than what to talk about next... now that's real chemistry=)



    Exactly.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 11, 2010 6:05 AM GMT
    sokolowski saidyou know you are compatible with someone when you can talk and things come out free flowingly without much effort other than what to talk about next... now that's real chemistry=)


    Yah that's very true but I have had dates like that and there was never a second :-( its so much more than having things in common
  • swimbikerun

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    Jul 11, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    It's a fine balance between knowing when to have fun and when to be grounded. Easy to think, hard to master

    bate
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    Jul 11, 2010 6:29 AM GMT
    Well, the interview questions keep them distracted until the roofies kick in.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 11, 2010 6:30 AM GMT
    --I have some friends with whom we never run out of things to talk about.
    --I have other friends with whom I don't enjoy being alone because we have almost nothing to talk about. We have to have something else going on, like playing pool or watching a football game.
    Everybody's different...