Long Term and life

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    Jul 12, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    Saturday my husband and I got into an arugement over nothing important and something that was totally stupid. We each hung out in other rooms in the house, until dinner and though we were nice to each other, when we went to bed there was silence and not the typical cuddle and talk time. This morning, we both got up and he did his stuff and I did mine. Neither of us were still mad and there wasnt a right or wrong to the stupid arguement.

    So...later in the afternoon my husband came up to me and put his arms around me and told me he love me. At that moment in his arms all was forgotten and we just hug and kissed. There was no need to discuss the arugement or work it out it really just didnt matter.

    It remind me of why I love him so much and why I want to spend the rest of my life with him. When I am in his arms and have him in mine I know the world will be allright for the two of us.

    The longer we are together the more I realize how did deep love is and how it grows beyond what we could have dreamed when we first met.
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    Jul 12, 2010 12:31 AM GMT
    LOL, ok thanks for sharing... kudos to you both... you lucky bastard ;)
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    Jul 12, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    We loved reading this, sfinboston, and wish we knew both of you well.

    Thanks for sharing. You guys are a binary star.


    Bill and I have a rule, that if we argue, we stay up til we resolve it, and if it involves no sleep and a day off work, so be it.

    admiring you -Doug and Bill
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    Jul 12, 2010 1:12 AM GMT
    Thanks for this post.....I loveeeeeeeeee hearing about guys who have found true love, and are commited, and monogomous, through the good and the bad.

    In the end, love is all that matters. icon_smile.gif

    cheers!
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    Jul 12, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    ehhh opppsss...guess you guys are open...oh well....cheers for being in love.
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    Jul 12, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    unless you have some weird problem with the guy you're in love with after two dates or slept with someone's father/pilates instructor/mailman in a public bathroom, rj is not the place to post this sort of thread. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 12, 2010 2:16 AM GMT


    May we all be blessed w/ such a union.
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    Jul 12, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    That is so wonderful!
    Thank you for sharing such a beautiful moment of being in love!
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    Jul 12, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    BILLY_1980 saidehhh opppsss...guess you guys are open...oh well....cheers for being in love.


    Yes they are BILLY_1980, and Bill and I are monogamous. True love is true love in whatever form it takes. Isn't life and love truly the most magnificent thing in its possibilities? We admire sfinboston and his partner greatly, and celebrate our differences.

    -Doug
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    Jul 12, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    Bill and I have a rule, that if we argue, we stay up til we resolve it, and if it involves no sleep and a day off work, so be it.

    admiring you -Doug and Bill


    If this works for you, go ahead, but I think sometimes it's good to take a step back from an argument and 'sleep on it'. I know about 'not going to bed angry', but some things can be left unsolved until the next day.
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    Jul 12, 2010 2:41 AM GMT
    That's exactly how I feel about my current bf. We've been together nearly 2 years and I'm trying to figure out if he really is the one for me or not.

    For now, suffice to say our relationship still feels like when we first started going out even though we've been together for a while.
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    Jul 12, 2010 2:48 AM GMT
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    meninlove said
    Bill and I have a rule, that if we argue, we stay up til we resolve it, and if it involves no sleep and a day off work, so be it.

    admiring you -Doug and Bill


    If this works for you, go ahead, but I think sometimes it's good to take a step back from an argument and 'sleep on it'. I know about 'not going to bed angry', but some things can be left unsolved until the next day.


    Absolutely bernd; it's all about whatever floats your boat. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 12, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
    calibro saidunless you have some weird problem with the guy you're in love with after two dates or slept with someone's father/pilates instructor/mailman in a public bathroom, rj is not the place to post this sort of thread. icon_wink.gif


    .... why not icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 12, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    I love these types of posts. Thanks for sharing.
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    Jul 12, 2010 3:53 AM GMT
    calibro saidunless you have some weird problem with the guy you're in love with after two dates or slept with someone's father/pilates instructor/mailman in a public bathroom, rj is not the place to post this sort of thread. icon_wink.gif


    Marry me Calibro.

    Then let's do some weird shit and post intarnet drama llamas.
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    Jul 12, 2010 4:00 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    bernd said
    meninlove said
    Bill and I have a rule, that if we argue, we stay up til we resolve it, and if it involves no sleep and a day off work, so be it.

    admiring you -Doug and Bill


    If this works for you, go ahead, but I think sometimes it's good to take a step back from an argument and 'sleep on it'. I know about 'not going to bed angry', but some things can be left unsolved until the next day.


    Absolutely bernd; it's all about whatever floats your boat. icon_wink.gif


    Maybe this belongs in it's own topic but I'm curious to your thoughts on this particular part of the issue. Never go to bed mad or learn to time lower the emotions and always sleep on it before making a bad argument that once you've had time to sleep on might seem to insignificant to even matter? If it's dependent on the personalities, what happens if one person believes in never going to bed mad and the other believes that sleeping on things usually brings a clearer head?
  • comical44

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    Jul 12, 2010 4:00 AM GMT
    Thats sweet. im happy for both of you. Things like this are exactly what i want....
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    Jul 12, 2010 4:11 AM GMT
    The thing is, that's true for any two people who love each other. Partners, boyfriends, lovers, deep friends.

    You can have stupid spats. And the basis of the stupidity might have been, simply, that you both need space.

    Ultimately, you know you need each other and the spat was superficial.

    I've been through this myself, recently.

    Of course, if you have fears of abandonment, the little voice inside of you is screaming in panic. But if it's a wonderful relationship, the fundamental basis of love will win out.
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    Jul 12, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo said
    calibro saidunless you have some weird problem with the guy you're in love with after two dates or slept with someone's father/pilates instructor/mailman in a public bathroom, rj is not the place to post this sort of thread. icon_wink.gif


    Marry me Calibro.

    Then let's do some weird shit and post intarnet drama llamas.


    only if the wedding is officiated in lolcat patois... do u has a married?

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    Jul 13, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    I just thought it would be good to post on the day and life of a long term couple. While we dont have arguements very often, we do get a lot of question of what keeps us together and how to make a relationship work, which I really dont have answers too. I only know what works for my husband and I.

    I do know he is the one I want to wake up with and who I want to go to sleep with. He is the one I want to share my day with, rather it be a quick txt about my day or a piece of information.

    For me personally it is that he loves me warts and all. He knows my flaws and still loves me.
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    Jul 13, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    YngHungSFSD said
    meninlove said
    bernd said
    meninlove said
    Bill and I have a rule, that if we argue, we stay up til we resolve it, and if it involves no sleep and a day off work, so be it.

    admiring you -Doug and Bill


    If this works for you, go ahead, but I think sometimes it's good to take a step back from an argument and 'sleep on it'. I know about 'not going to bed angry', but some things can be left unsolved until the next day.


    Absolutely bernd; it's all about whatever floats your boat. icon_wink.gif


    Maybe this belongs in it's own topic but I'm curious to your thoughts on this particular part of the issue. Never go to bed mad or learn to time lower the emotions and always sleep on it before making a bad argument that once you've had time to sleep on might seem to insignificant to even matter? If it's dependent on the personalities, what happens if one person believes in never going to bed mad and the other believes that sleeping on things usually brings a clearer head?
    There is no one-size-fits-all answer, as everything has to be decided case by case. In an ltr you learn how to solve your disagreements in a respectful way and if both parties can leave their emotions out of discussions the case-by-case give-and-take will not be a problem.