Do u sleep with your Ex

  • chuck2006

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    Jul 13, 2010 4:26 AM GMT
    About 3 months ago my lover of 15 years broke my heart by my walking out on me to be with a women. Since then we have slept together about 4 times. Im not sure if im doing it to spite her or because I think I still want him or that I hate the idea that I got dumped. Any way its kinda nice being the other man and that hes all romantic to me and I get to **** him in their bed and walk away and dont have to put up with any of his nonsense. Maybe im just pissed off but do u sleep with your ex. icon_twisted.gif
    PS im looking for a replacment (this time one that is not physically abusive and can hold a job).
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    Jul 13, 2010 4:52 AM GMT
    Yup. It can be an emotional tightrope walk sometimes. But it can be fun.

    Does your ex's girlfriend know you two are still boinking?
  • chuck2006

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    Jul 13, 2010 4:53 AM GMT
    No but i wonder what his family has told her about us.
  • chuck2006

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    Jul 13, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    I wanta be happier than he is and afraid if I dont maintain contact he wont know it
    again Y do people sleep with their Xs
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    Jul 13, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    Oh, so you are fucking him for vengeance.

    I can fuck my exes because we are adults who are comfortable with the new dynamic of our relationship.

    Fucking him out of spite is petty and immature. Please stop and move on with your life.
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    Jul 13, 2010 11:06 AM GMT


    and nooooooo u do not go back and fuck him
    move on
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    Jul 13, 2010 11:08 AM GMT
    I'm still stuck on the "my partner of 15 years left me for a woman" piece of the conversation. Ouch!

    That has to hurt!
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    Jul 13, 2010 11:08 AM GMT
    Nope. Mostly cuz I lose almost all attraction to my exes... it's weird... plus, I just don't want to go there.
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    Jul 13, 2010 11:40 AM GMT
    photosrus saidNope. Mostly cuz I lose almost all attraction to my exes... it's weird... plus, I just don't want to go there.


    The same for me. Once it's done the attraction is gone.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 13, 2010 11:46 AM GMT
    The only ex's I have were girlfriends... only 1 bf here and its "present"...

    However, despite any physical attraction if the dude walked out on you for a woman
    (and he couldn't hold a job, etc)... I think its time to move forward. No more sleeping with the ex!
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    Jul 13, 2010 11:53 AM GMT
    There are way too many hot gay guys out there for me to be fucking an ex.
    My personal opinion: Once an ex, always an ex. But that's just me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 13, 2010 12:18 PM GMT
    he is/was phisically abusive
    can,t hold down a job
    left u for a woman after a 15 year relationship
    and u make yourself available to him for (revenge) sex
    your not over him
    sounds like your a sucker for punishment
    he,s still got u on a leash,and u kinda like it
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    Jul 13, 2010 12:25 PM GMT
    photosrus saidNope. Mostly cuz I lose almost all attraction to my exes... it's weird... plus, I just don't want to go there.



    Yup same here. Once I've moved on...they might as well be a Ken Doll
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    Jul 13, 2010 12:28 PM GMT
    move on. get a life
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    Jul 13, 2010 12:33 PM GMT
    You don't get anywhere pedaling backwards on most bikes, the same in life your not going to do anything effing your ex boyfriend. Especially one that, left you.

    Keep it moving fwd don't look back. I stick to that and advocate it to my friends. It's harsh but it's true, no mess no drama to deal with in the long run.
  • rnch

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    Jul 13, 2010 2:39 PM GMT
    suthrnstud said
    photosrus saidNope. Mostly cuz I lose almost all attraction to my exes... it's weird... plus, I just don't want to go there.


    The same for me. Once it's done the attraction is gone.


    yeh u rite! i'm still kinda sorta friends with my ex; but there is NO sexual attraction there (for me, anyway) anymore. icon_neutral.gif
  • chuck2006

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    Jul 14, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    I dont think Im sleeping with my ex for revenge. I think im having a hard time believing that out relationship is over, also lost my best friend.

    My mind knows that I am better off with him gone but my heart thinks otherwise. I think im jealous that he moved on so damn fast. (WTF it was 15 years)
    Another x and I brought property together we both have houses on the farm and are good friends but there are no sexual feelings from either of us. I slept with two other guys I dated for a bit and the sex was terrible (no wonder we quit dating) but still are friendly with each other.

    Think I need to accept that he is a selfish person and that he really just doent care about me.

    Thank u for the responses writing this is helping me im somewhat embassed to tell my family that he walked out but FYI if u listen to country music u will understand when i say im praying for him lol
  • DrobUA

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    Jul 14, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    suthrnstud said
    photosrus saidNope. Mostly cuz I lose almost all attraction to my exes... it's weird... plus, I just don't want to go there.


    The same for me. Once it's done the attraction is gone.


    I'll third that.. the emotional connection is a big part of the physical attraction.
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    imabadboy88 said


    Love this

  • dreamer121

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    Jul 14, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    imabadboy88 said

    and nooooooo u do not go back and fuck him
    move on


    Well guess what yo, fuck you right back



    Oh, to answer the question. No I don't have sex with my exes. I get caught up in mixed "feelings" and I can't sort it out, so i just stay away from it all.
  • Markebri

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    Jul 14, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    I've been guilty of crawling into bed with my ex while I going through a rough patch of life a few years back. I found him to be like a old security blanket, one that knew exactly where and what to touch and what to say... icon_lol.gif

    He and I broke up on weird terms, mostly on my part, but we still value each other's friendship.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 14, 2010 10:39 AM GMT
    I dunno ... I don't see the rewards of allowing a man who as you put it "dumped" you to come back and get man fix at your expense

    All this is doing is letting you be distracted from moving on
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    Jul 14, 2010 10:44 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidOh, so you are fucking him for vengeance.

    I can fuck my exes because we are adults who are comfortable with the new dynamic of our relationship.

    Fucking him out of spite is petty and immature. Please stop and move on with your life.


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    Jul 14, 2010 11:35 AM GMT
    As hot as he was (and still is to some degree) I couldn't get it up for him if I tried. Even the last time we tried when we were making an effort to get back together again was a flop (literally).
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    Jul 14, 2010 11:37 AM GMT
    The thought of it makes me shudder!