Buying love?

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    Jul 14, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    Eight months ago I met a hot real estate agent at work. He asked my older brother a lot of question cause he was curious about me. Then my brother asked if I was interested in dating him cause he liked me. I didn't say anything to my brother cause I haven't told him that I am gay. So I just ignored it and thought he was joking about dating. I met the real estate agent a few more time on job sites and he didn't say anything. My thought was ok he was just joking. However, today on my last appointment he was there and came up to me. He asked how I was and if I was still single. I couldn't say anything cause he caught me of guard. Then he asked "well do you have a girlfriend? boyfriend? I like you and would like to know you". That just made me even more nervous and still didn't say anything. Then he says "I would like to take out on a date or have you come over for dinner?. Besides you don't want to marry a girl they are nothing but trouble. I could take care of you, I have lots of money". That's when he killed it and made me think that just because he has money I would say yes. Strike one!
    Any thoughts? Should i try a date and see how it goes?
    Anybody dated or currently dating a real estate agent?
    Sure would like some input.
    Thank you.
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    Jul 14, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    If you already have your aspirations of personal wealth (and if you actually like him), go for it.
    If by chance you do decide to go the sugar daddy route, there's no shame in that either.
    Just be yourself and do what makes you happy.
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:32 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    If by chance you do decide to go the sugar daddy route, there's no shame in that either.


    If you choose to be a Sugar Baby be sure to hammer out the details in advance. Let 'em know you're not a whore!
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    I would pay everything I could afford to buy the love of my life
  • Bunjamon

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    Jul 14, 2010 4:47 AM GMT
    "I don't care too much for money, money can't buy me love." -Ohhhhhh, those Beatles! icon_cool.gif

    But that being said, he might just turn out to be a gem of a guy who just happens to have money. You won't know unless you see him at least a few times.
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:49 AM GMT
    you're all barking mad. you start threads because you can't find love, because you've lost it, because can't get rid of it, and now because it's chasing you down.


    could someone please explain to me what the hell you guys want?
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:57 AM GMT
    dancerjack said


    could someone please explain to me what the hell you guys want?


    No, I don't believe someone can, really icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 14, 2010 5:07 AM GMT
    Voltrons79 said... I could take care of you, I have lots of money".


    Sorry, anyone who would say this is a douche.

    That being said, since you're young, let him take you out somewhere nice. It's an experience that every young person needs to get out of the way. Everyone need to learn the difference between the "price" of something, versus its "value."
  • RSportsguy

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    Jul 14, 2010 5:12 AM GMT
    I guess you have to ask yourself if you would have dated this guy before he made his last statement or not. It seems like he has been interested for awhile and you have been sending him mixed messages. Now, your brother must have some idea that you are gay or he would have not asked you if you were interested in dating another man.
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    Jul 14, 2010 5:39 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo said
    dancerjack said


    could someone please explain to me what the hell you guys want?


    No, I don't believe someone can, really icon_neutral.gif

    And if they did do you think we'd have such interesting topics?
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    Jul 14, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    dancerjack said

    could someone please explain to me what the hell you guys want?



    SO true, but i doubt if anyone knows what they want....actions do speak louder than words.....icon_idea.gif

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    Jul 14, 2010 5:51 AM GMT
    Maybe he did it a bit awkwardly, but all it sounds like he really did was ask you out on a date.

    If you feel an attraction to him or are somewhat curious about the situation, what harm is there in a date? And as for the "buying your love" thing, he can only buy if you are selling.
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    Jul 14, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    If you like him go for it!!! The fact that he has lots of money is just a plus, but if he's really rich you should marry him ASAP lol.

    P.S. If you're not into him, send him my way, there's a few things I wanna buy.icon_razz.gif
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jul 14, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    I think he was just coming at you as an adult and not a high school crush he wants to get to know you, but tell him your not interested in his money, tell him money comes and goes and doesn't even really exist. Go on a few dates with him you never know he could be milk to your cookies icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 14, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidmoney comes and goes and doesn't even really exist. />


    That's a new one on me.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jul 14, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    WHAT BITCH YOU LIVE HELLA NEAR ME, Give him my number and pass him along my way icon_cool.gif only if he's cute if he's not then never mind
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    Jul 14, 2010 6:04 AM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidWHAT BITCH YOU LIVE HELLA NEAR ME, Give him my number and pass him along my way icon_cool.gif only if he's cute if he's not then never mind


    NO NO NO OP I asked you to send him my way first, and I don't care if he's ugly, he has lots of money right? hahaha icon_razz.gif.
  • silverfox

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    Jul 14, 2010 6:18 AM GMT
    Voltrons79 said
    Anybody dated or currently dating a real estate agent?


    Um hello? Anybody out there?
    Voltrons I have some news for you.
    Douches are not "profession" specific.
    You can find a douchebag Personal Trainer, a Douche Accountant, Lawyer, President...etc.

    Please don't generalize about real estate agents. There are great guys who are realtors, and there are some that aren't so great. Just like every other profession.
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    Jul 14, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    dancerjack saidyou're all barking mad. you start threads because you can't find love, because you've lost it, because can't get rid of it, and now because it's chasing you down.


    could someone please explain to me what the hell you guys want?


    i want a new tv . . that would be nice, i think my ps3 games would look WAY better if i had an hd screen . . .
  • Webster666

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    Jul 14, 2010 8:01 AM GMT
    Yeh, somebody offering to buy me would turn me off...
  • SFGeoNinja

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    Jul 14, 2010 9:29 AM GMT
    Here's what I'm confused about: your own brother is asking you whether you are interested in this hot guy he has been talking to. YET you seem to think he doesn't know that you're gay because you haven't told him yourself yet. Don't you think that the very fact that he's suggesting you date this guy (and the guy is suggesting you date him by asking if you're single), that both your brother and the real estate agent ALREADY KNOW YOU'RE GAY. I think you're masking your insecurity with being gay by projecting ulterior motives onto the real estate agent who is "buying your love". When in reality, you don't know what you're looking for in a guy in terms of dating because you are still too uncomfortable to come out to people very close to you. Dating is as much about exchanging life stories/emotional background as physical attraction. If you can't be open to your brother even suggesting the idea of you dating a guy, how can you be open really to dating anyone? I say give the date with the real estate agent a chance, and let your brother know you are interested in getting to know the guy - on your own terms.
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    Jul 14, 2010 10:43 AM GMT
    NoSuchPerson saidMaybe he did it a bit awkwardly, but all it sounds like he really did was ask you out on a date.

    If you feel an attraction to him or are somewhat curious about the situation, what harm is there in a date? And as for the "buying your love" thing, he can only buy if you are selling.


    I'm going with this explaination. It sounded like the money thing was a last ditch effort to get a yes, and was not the original offer.
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    Jul 14, 2010 10:54 AM GMT
    Well maybe he mentioned money to you since he was nervous and you were not showing any interest in him otherwise. If you like him and you are single why not give it a shot. If not then let him no right upfront so that he doesn't bother you again.
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    Jul 14, 2010 12:11 PM GMT
    Damn, some of you are ruthless sons a bitches; I like that in a guy ; )
    Anyway, my vote is that "Real Estate Guy" was either joking about the "taking care of you" thing, or was possibly nervous;
    I mean, he was interested enough to talk to your brother about you for back ground info, why wouldn't the dude be nervous about taking a leap of faith to ask you out to dinner.

    Say yes, take a pill, and don't play the douch card too early or it may just be on you...
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    Jul 14, 2010 12:16 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidcould someone please explain to me what the hell you guys want?
    They want you but they're afraid to ask. icon_razz.gificon_twisted.gif