Does Anyone Know Anyone That....

  • Celticmusl

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    Jul 14, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    ...Likes to hear how hot or handsome they are over and over? Not to put myself in any kind of classification, but if someone says I'm handsome I like it the first time, and perhaps the second time.....but damn after that it is really embarrassing. I am talking about real life and not internet chat. I also start wondering why someone has to continually say something like that to someone. At some point I almost feel it is a putdown and they can't see me as a long-termer because of what I look like or something.

    Seriously though, this doesn't happen to me much, so don't get all hissy acting like I'm trying to stroke my ego! icon_lol.gif I also know everyone hears it every now and then so it's no big deal. I'm just wondering why anyone would continually say this to someone over and over.

    Also, do some guys just need to hear this validation all the time?
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    Jul 14, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    It depends on who's saying it and how often.
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    Jul 14, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    Celticmusl saidAlso, do some guys just need to hear this validation all the time?

    Yes, and I had such a guy for a BF. Why? Well, he really was handsome, great body, and smart, good company, and I just smiled when I was with him.

    But he required me to constantly praise him, especially about things I really didn't think he merited. And one of the first things he ever said to me, when we started dating, was that I was never to criticize him, about anything.

    I mean, he TOLD me this, and made a big deal about it. How many guys in your experience do that? Even the most indirect thing I said that he thought was the least bit negative he'd snap at me, tell me to stop.

    Well, I just figured he'd had some past trauma about that issue, and so I put that aside, I'm very patient, believe it or not. I guessed the day would come when I would be able to criticize him, for his own good, and that day did come. And later he told me how much he appreciated my opinions, the only person he trusted to second-guess him. I do miss him at times now, but he really was neurotic... LOL!
  • jgymnast733

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    Jul 14, 2010 3:03 AM GMT

    I enjoy hearing it considering how much time i spend at the gym, however, i'm complimented on many things i.e. etiquette, protocol [because of my job],cooking ect..... and i never get tired of hearing my partner tell me how good this ass is.....icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 14, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    I dunno. Even when I see a ridiculously handsome guy, I don't feel the need to tell him. I'm sure he knows it and is tired of hearing of it. And yeah, some guys crave the validation and will even fish for compliments. But those guys lose their handsome points, if they make a big stink about it.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 14, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
    I can't believe somebody's bitching about getting a compliment (regardless of how many times they hear it).

    Dear Abby used to say, "Smile and say thank you."
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    Jul 14, 2010 3:59 AM GMT
    Compliments should always be accepted with grace and sincerity. They are not something that is yours that you are free to disdain or undervalue if you don't feel comfortable with, but something connected to the person who offers it.

    That being said I fucking hate compliments. If you want to show appreciation to the Ciarsolo stuff a $20 down my shorts.
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:18 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo said, " If you want to show appreciation to the Ciarsolo stuff a $20 down my shorts."

    Lol, we can't reach that far!

    So here, instead:

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    Jul 14, 2010 4:20 AM GMT
    meninlove saidCiarsolo said, " If you want to show appreciation to the Ciarsolo stuff a $20 down my shorts."

    Lol, we can't reach that far!

    So here, instead:

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    Damn, I gotta make it extra special now icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:24 AM GMT

    PS Bill still tells me how handsome I am, and I tell him the same, because I think so. Lol, it's nice to know someone still thinks I have da mojo.
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:24 AM GMT
    jprichva saidI know, I know. Believe me. I can hardly walk down the street without someone demanding to suck my cock. I was in a taxi on the way to the airport last year, and the driver pulled over and wouldn't budge until he had fellated me thoroughly. I cannot tell you the number of times I've tripped over the clothing that men, women, and children drop in their haste to get naked in front of me. It's a hazard. I try to counsel patience, but what can I do? They worship my handsomeness to an alarming degree, and when I just smile and say "Aw shucks" in that country-boy winsome way I have, they practically eat me alive.

    It's exhausting.


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    Jul 14, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    there's a total hottie i fuck every now and again, and he likes to regale me with stories of how everywhere he goes there is someone suggesting he become a model... i'm like, "dude, i already think you're hot. i don't need to know that everyone else does too." lol

    here's that convo:
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/894644/
  • Celticmusl

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    Jul 14, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidI can't believe somebody's bitching about getting a compliment (regardless of how many times they hear it).

    Dear Abby used to say, "Smile and say thank you."



    Eh, welcome to the real world.

    I'm always polite in reply, and give them a valid compliment in return, but yeah I guess you keep on hearing it from someone over and over again it starts sounding insincere and I dunno.....like they expect something for it or something.

    As Rosanne Rosannadanna use to say: "It's always something. If it's not one thing, it's another."
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    Jul 14, 2010 4:36 AM GMT
    jprichva saidI know, I know. Believe me. I can hardly walk down the street without someone demanding to suck my cock. I was in a taxi on the way to the airport last year, and the driver pulled over and wouldn't budge until he had fellated me thoroughly. I cannot tell you the number of times I've tripped over the clothing that men, women, and children drop in their haste to get naked in front of me. It's a hazard. I try to counsel patience, but what can I do? They worship my handsomeness to an alarming degree, and when I just smile and say "Aw shucks" in that country-boy winsome way I have, they practically eat me alive.

    It's exhausting.



    We saw it on TV. The 6 o'clock news had a bit about a mall full of people in Florida that suddenly went insane at about 2:30 this afternoon. Police being interviewed, some of whom were in a half naked state and caught in extremely compromised positions, said that a man walked through the mall and everyone went bananas; naked people running everywhere in a state of unquenchable arousal.

    Once the man vacated the mall sanity returned, though the mall's emergency hoses had to be turned on several hundred that refused to stop sexual activities in the mall's courtyard.

  • calibro

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    Jul 14, 2010 4:53 AM GMT
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    Jul 14, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    I secretly like it but I pretend I don't and I'm like stop it icon_redface.gif hahaha when actually I enjoy receiving compliments,icon_razz.gif and I dunno if someone tells you you're handsome/hot over and over is because they find you handsome/hot, I've been with guys that I found incredibly hot and I just kept saying- You're so hot over and over hahaha.
  • azureskyy20

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    Jul 14, 2010 5:34 AM GMT
    It tends to happen to me with guys that want to woo me only by how attractive they think I am. I'm seriously not the hottest guy out there.

    One guy took it so far as to stop one of my friends in mid conversation so he could just look at me. I told him if he ever did that shit again he could walk his ass home. We were in the car btw.

    I don't know, it really bothers me to constantly hear compliments mainly because I don't always understand how to take them. Every time I try to think that people don't have alterior motives when the 'compliment' me, they ruin it by trying to get me to lay with them in the very near future. So then I can't think that the next guy is serious. That's just my take on it though...
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    Jul 14, 2010 5:48 AM GMT
    azureskyy20 saidIt tends to happen to me with guys that want to woo me only by how attractive they think I am. I'm seriously not the hottest guy out there.

    One guy took it so far as to stop one of my friends in mid conversation so he could just look at me. I told him if he ever did that shit again he could walk his ass home. We were in the car btw.

    I don't know, it really bothers me to constantly hear compliments mainly because I don't always understand how to take them. Every time I try to think that people don't have alterior motives when the 'compliment' me, they ruin it by trying to get me to lay with them in the very near future. So then I can't think that the next guy is serious. That's just my take on it though...



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  • Road89

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    Jul 14, 2010 8:56 AM GMT
    Personally, I enjoy hearing the good, bad, and the ugly about myself. Some things I can change or work on, something I have to learn to live with. Though I like to hear the compliments, one thing i can't stand is someone not telling me when there is something wrong with me (i.e. food in teeth, something on my face, body odor...). Other than that, I don't mind compliments here and there but to many make me feel uncomfortable - After all i shouldn't be getting so much praise because I was created by God - all the glory belongs to him. I'm just an end product icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 14, 2010 1:19 PM GMT
    'handsome' is my nickname from my bf...he calls me that all the time. I like it..
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    Jul 14, 2010 1:51 PM GMT
    No.
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    Jul 14, 2010 1:51 PM GMT
    Oh god yes, i totally understand!

    It just makes life soooo much more difficult when im constantly being told how hot i wm.. I mean damn it i even get random messages from guys reminding me of how hot they find me, do you know how that feels? I mean gawd give it a damned rest i already know damn it!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Jul 14, 2010 2:07 PM GMT
    I get it a lot from my bf,most of the time it's good to hear it but I'm not the best at giving compliments myself, and sometimes I feel obliged to reciprocate even when I don't want to - I'd rather it be spontaneous than tit for tat.
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    Jul 14, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    first time i accept it graciously.... by the 3rd or 4th time it means "I wanna have sex with you".

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    Jul 14, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidIf you want to show appreciation to the Ciarsolo stuff a $20 down my shorts.
    Damn, what a cheap bitch. Either that or you left out a zero or three. icon_razz.gif