Tattoo dilemma...

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    Jul 14, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    So I've been wanting to get a tattoo for a while now (I want a have sleeve that possibly falls over onto my chest), and I've been very open about this with my boyfriend from day one. Well, yesterday I was looking at different designs just to try and get an idea (mainly for color), and he says he doesn't want me to get a tattoo. I've already had been slowly setting money aside, and planned on starting it in October as a birthday present to myself. Should I just be defiant and do it anyways? I mean, it is my body and I've been saying for years that I had planned on getting one without any objection from him.
  • BardBear

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    Jul 14, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    Guess the real question isn't the tattoo, but how serious are you with your boyfriend? I mean, are you living together, this is serious kinda stuff? For if you have to have a future together, a certain amount of compromise will have to occur.

    However, to make a bold statement on his part for you--especially if this is something you really want, well, if he was crazy about, it wouldn't matter what you did to yourself.

    Whatever the case may be--and coming from 12 years in a relationship, I have learned--when something comes between a couple, whatever the issue is, it's a sign that there's something else going on.

    In more direct terms? Time for a talk. Find out why he said no. Listen. Then require that he listen to you.
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    Jul 14, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    We've been together for over three years now, we live together, have dogs together. lol. His objection to it was that it's against his religion. Now, he's Christian (as am I - I actually worked for a church for six and a half years), and it's not against the religion. The scripture he was referring to discusses pagan symbols people had placed on their body to show their loyalty to their god... That's obviously not the case here.