Potential problem with a fraternity?

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    Jul 14, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
    So there's this fraternity at my school that I've been thinking of trying to become a member of. A lot of the guys seem cool and the "focus" of the fraternity seems to fit what I'm looking for. However, one of the current members is a guy that my ex-boyfriend had cheated on me with. Now it happened a while ago and I'm passed it/don't necessarily hold a grudge but I don't really feel the desire to be friends with this person. It's a big group of guys, roughly 30 or so in this fraternity so I feel like I can adequately avoid having to talk to this one guy and still get along with everyone else.

    So what do you think? I've always thought the point of greek life was to foster a sense of brotherhood within all of the members and if there's already a guy in it I don't really want much to do with then if I join I might be doing a disservice to this one group. However on the other hand I'm sure that realistically not all the brothers necessarily like every single other brother anyway so my relationship with this one guy wouldn't necessarily be out of the ordinary. So should I still try joining or just not bother and find another fraternity to join?
  • Greygull

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    Jul 14, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    I would say join up. I understand you may not like this guy now, but who knows, maybe you will become very good friends. It would be really stupid of you to miss out on such a good opportunity ( Frats motivate people to keep thier grades up, make sure you always have friends, for networking ect.)