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    Jul 14, 2010 6:37 PM GMT
    ok so 4 the past week or so
    i notice that there is alot of
    anger ... against ex's
    as im reading the forums they all say something like
    " Revenge on ex"
    or wut if i have sex with his bff?
    wut if i give his number out on craglist
    wut if i do this
    wut if i do that
    wtf is wrong with yall, move on ppl
    i do not care how bad your ex was , your the one that was with him and wated 2 stay with him. maybe u should have gone on more dates and figure out wut kind of person he was before jumping in 2 his pants..........
    the point is, i hate when ppl do this kind of crap y cant we just move on and go on 2 the next....
    y do we have 2 get revenge?



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    Jul 14, 2010 6:55 PM GMT
    Because revenge is a very natural desire and revenge doesn't just show up in the context of relationships but in every facet of life. It's just that we are more willing to accept revenge under certain circumstances.

    For instance, if you think about it, isn't every legal system in the world based on the concept of revenge?

    Let's say a guy murders someone and goes to trial for it. He's found guilty and so society enacts its revenge on the guy by either locking him up in prison or sentencing him to death as well. People sue each other as a means of enacting revenge, etc etc but we don't call it revenge we call it "justice."


    I mean for all those people who always say it's best to just move on, imagine if our legal system just "moved on" whenever something happened. Oh, that guy raped 10 women 5 years ago? Clearly that happened in the past, everyone involved should just moved on already. The guy even apologized too and isn't going to do it anymore so there's no need to send him to jail for his crime.


    Now you might find this comparison extreme, but it really isn't. It's the same basic concept extended to actions/behaviors that are just simply much more severe than the simple stuff that goes on in relationships.
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    Jul 14, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    no. you are conflating two separate ideas that work on two different scales for two different purposes.
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    Jul 14, 2010 7:18 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidno. you are conflating two separate ideas that work on two different scales for two different purposes.



    How so? Please explain yourself.

    Most of the phenomena that we see take place in society at large are really just magnified versions of human nature in every day situations.

    Even something like war is rooted in the fact that many people solve their problems through violence instead of negotiation in their day to day lives. So likewise, so is the legal system rooted in the human need for revenge.


    Everything about society, war, justice, genocide, etc can be explained through the ways in which humans behave naturally.
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    Jul 14, 2010 7:29 PM GMT
    While revenge is a form of punishment, judicial punishment is not a form of revenge in it nature. At its purest intentions, judicial punishment seeks to advertise the adage "you reap what you sow."
    It is called dealing with consequences for something that was injurious to another party.
    We would all like to be forgiving and beneficent, but society does not work on emotions.
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    Jul 14, 2010 7:38 PM GMT
    carmineastoria saidWhile revenge is a form of punishment, judicial punishment is not a form of revenge in it nature. At its purest intentions, judicial punishment seeks to advertise the adage "you reap what you sow."
    It is called dealing with consequences for something that was injurious to another party.
    We would all like to be forgiving and beneficent, but society does not work on emotions.


    Revenge is also meant to make the other person "reap what he sows."


    Everything you just stated about the legal system are also motivations for why people enact revenge. People get even because they want the other perosn to deal with the consequences of their actions, instead of simply letting them move on without them serving any punishment.

    Just because the legal system has rules and laws concerning the proper way to carry out justice,at its core it is still rooted in a universal human need to see other people bear the consequences of their actions which is in short, pretty similar if not exactly the same thing as vengeance.


    Emotions are a HUGE part of why society runs the way it does. Not everything is so cold and logical as people seem to think.
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    Jul 14, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    imabadboy88 saidy do we have 2 get revenge?
    Because immaturity is fun if done right.
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    Jul 14, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    imabadboy88 saidy do we have 2 get revenge?
    Because immaturity is fun if done right.
    normally i wouldnt sorry but he is right everyonce in a while it is fun just to get even and let them know u r not playing games. then they r more likely to leave u alone and not try anything again.icon_twisted.gif