Nukie saidSo I'm going to be honest here-I'm not the best flirter in the world. I find myself getting awkward and simply ignoring the guy Im interested in because it's like a pressure cooker in my head. I only think of flirting as being cool, sly and nonchalant, and sexy/interested at the same time. In general I'm not cool, or sly. I've been described as awkward but in an endearing way (hey, at least its something.) Im just wondering how I can flirt in a way that expresses myself while still attracting teh boiz. Anyone here flirt alternatively/had an "awkward" flirting experience that worked?
Body language. Don't cross your arms in front of your chest, or obstruct eye contact in any way. Face your chest toward the person you're interested in, making yourself vulnerable to them. If you're seated, cross your legs toward them, not away.
As far as conversation...ask the person you're interested in questions about themselves. Actually listen to the responses. You don't have to be witty to convey your interest, though wittiness may engage some people. I actually don't find wittiness more or less attractive.
If you can find a way to do so, subtly compliment the other person. If they acknowledge the compliment, and maintain eye contact, it's good. If they hear the compliment, and break eye contact without a smile, it's not good. Even if they smile and immediately make eye contact again.
The trick to not being shy is to stop thinking about yourself, and to start thinking about the other person.