Red flags in profiles

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    Feb 10, 2008 8:56 PM GMT
    A lot of times I'll see a pic of someone on here that looks interesting and maybe I'll even see something interesting he posted to a forum, but then I read his profile and something in it will make me think I probably shouldn't bother making contact. Not that I believe he isn't a good person or isn't worthwhile, but just that we probably wouldn't get along that well. I'm sure we all have things that raise red flags when we see them in other people's profiles, whether we actively screen for them or not. Here's mine:

    RELIGION. I'm not a very religious person, so any strong religious belief whether I happen to agree with it or not will likely turn me off. While I respect everyone's religious beliefs and I'm not bothered by a casual mention, if it seems to be a big part of his life then he probably isn't someone I'll ever be close to because it will never be a big part of mine.

    POLITICS. See above; substitute "political" for "religious".

    ASTROLOGY. I'm a professional scientist (physics), so I give astrology about as much credibility as I give the Easter Bunny. If it's in the profile, it better be a joke. And if it's a joke, it better be funny.

    Like I said, I don't think any of these things make anyone a bad person. They just make him a person I'm not likely to get along that well with.

    OK, there's mine. What are yours?
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    Feb 10, 2008 9:01 PM GMT
    Anything spelled wrong just really pisses me off, not that I'm a spell freak but when I see the word cuddle spelled wrong...Hmm.
  • mcwclewis

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    Feb 10, 2008 9:02 PM GMT
    Anything implying promiscuosity, for one...


    I agree with your thoughts on religion.

    I like people who are politically active, as long as they're not insane about it.... but I tend not to like republicans.... at all.

    Anything about hating femmy guys.... Im not femmy in the least, but I dont like judgemental people.

    Still closeted.



    I think thats about it.
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    Feb 10, 2008 9:14 PM GMT
    "Don't react if youre..... " Does it to me, if someone say's he wants no reactions above 45 for instance, i know that isn't someone i wanna talk to, if youre just here for some chat why should you exclude people?

    For me, people with no pics, almost blanc profiles(give me a cleu/handle to go on) and racists are red flaggs

    jo2ju saidAnything spelled wrong just really pisses me off, not that I'm a spell freak but when I see the word cuddle spelled wrong...Hmm.
    Eever thought that there a lot of no-native Englishspeakers here? Well try to do youre best translating this sintence in Dutch without any errors.... Good luck with that icon_biggrin.gif
  • Artesin

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    Feb 10, 2008 10:06 PM GMT
    Anything that makes that person seem pompous or as if their view is next to none.

    Astrology doesn't become an issue until that person begins to think that all their personality is a basis from it, sure some descriptions may be true but to believe your the embodiment of it .... ?

    A good religious or political debate every now and again can be fun however complete fanatics should be quarantined into psychiatric hospitals.

    Personaly complete mental pacifists tend to be boring and our personalities conflict. A happy medium with everything is good.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 10, 2008 10:21 PM GMT
    Well I tend to be a very thorough person and think about what I do and say (I learned its always better to consider carefully if possible).. so I place value on a complete profile. There are certain "red flags"

    1. Nothing on profile: How many profiles on RJ have nothing written on them or are not complete. I tend to think of someone here as not being serious or rather to have one single goal in mind on RJ.....

    2. Lack of balance: If the person comes across as
    jaded, thats a warning sign.

    3. Cynacism: Most of us can be critics, but if someone lists the attributes and/or habits of people that would disqualify them from talking.. my reaction is I'd rather just not talk to them. Yeah I don't smoke, do any kind of drugs or even drink really, but I'm not going to make a list in my profile to those I won't talk to. Thats ridiculous.

    4. First contact: "I have unlocked my private pic".
    I find that a little odd. No hello.. just someone unlocking their private pictures. What do we say?
    What an introduction to a conversation.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 10, 2008 10:23 PM GMT
    I'm not really a red person. I'd have blue flags in my profile if I had any.
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    Feb 10, 2008 10:43 PM GMT
    "laid back" or synonyms thereof... icon_confused.gif

    "no baggage" or synonyms thereof... icon_rolleyes.gif

    egotism or "high-handedness"... icon_rolleyes.gif

    "Likes" are too generic..."walks on the beach," "quiet times at home," "fine wine/fine dining"... icon_lol.gif

    Religious/Spiritual... icon_rolleyes.gif

    No info in profile... icon_wink.gif

    300+ hotlisted guys... icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 11, 2008 4:51 AM GMT
    I think when it comes to online profiles, less is more. If someone has a very lengthy discussion about how they see themselves in the world, it seems strange to me.

    Also, many people online supply photos which I would consider amateur porn. Whereas this is a requirement for some, it bothers me.
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:00 AM GMT


    4. First contact: "I have unlocked my private pic".
    I find that a little odd. No hello.. just someone unlocking their private pictures. What do we say?
    What an introduction to a conversation.[/quote]

    It could make for the start of a very interesting conversation actually. Of course most may be looking for a little cybersex but not all private pics are what i would consider private.
    like:
    face pics
    underwear shots
    Moon shots...cmon didn't i get enough of those in over night camp?
    of course i sometimes wonder how many private photos could one possibly need even if they are all good ol dick pics how many pictures of the same dick do i need to look at?
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:01 AM GMT
    Some red flags for me.

    1) Long lists saying what he does and does not like.
    2) Cannot express enough how masculine he is.
    3) Your mind fills in the sound of knuckles dragging as you read his profile.
    4) Self esteem is good, but when you're arrogant as hell and look like a pot bellied shaved ape who's one syringe away from a liver transplant thats just delusional.
    5) This has happened to me enough times it bears mentioning. "Please unlock your private pics". Last time I checked, I didn't have any.icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:03 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan
    jaded, thats a warning sign.


    Forgive my blonde... but what does jaded mean? icon_biggrin.gif

    Ignorance in basic medicine really drives me nuts... injections aren't processed by the liver
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:05 AM GMT
    ROFL.

    Sure glad I don't have a pot belly (7.8%), and that my CMP is perfect.

    Injectable testosterone is not hepatoxic, at virtually any level. LMAO!

    Tylenol, and C17 orals, are, but, you won't have liver problems from injections, unless you take an oral and inject it. What's more likely to cause you liver function problems is fast food! Watch Super Size me, the movie. ROFL.

    Some people are fun to laugh at, if nothing else. Some folks are just ignorant. Such is life.

    The thing about ignorant folks is that you have to be compassionate: they don't realize they're ignorant.

    It's refreshing to know that at least some of the creeps wouldn't be attracted. Awesome!
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:08 AM GMT
    Alexander89 said

    4. First contact: "I have unlocked my private pic".
    I find that a little odd. No hello.. just someone unlocking their private pictures. What do we say?
    What an introduction to a conversation.


    It could make for the start of a very interesting conversation actually. Of course most may be looking for a little cybersex but not all private pics are what i would consider private.
    like:
    face pics
    underwear shots
    Moon shots...cmon didn't i get enough of those in over night camp?
    of course i sometimes wonder how many private photos could one possibly need even if they are all good ol dick pics how many pictures of the same dick do i need to look at?[/quote]

    LOL, Alexander, you just described my profile and our first conversation. I thought you liked by private pics, the ones with a little bend over action?
  • Kevin82

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    Feb 11, 2008 5:17 AM GMT
    1. Multiple pictures of basically the same thing with out any artistic value. ( I realize art is subjective)
    2. Guys with private photos who love to "cam".
    3. Not trying to be judgemental but....
    4. Overly explaining one'self.
    5. Spelling. (Dictionary.com is a click away)
    6. Masculinity pushers
    7. Arrogance in general
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:19 AM GMT
    If you use Firefox, the spelling checker is built in.
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:27 AM GMT
    This is a great topic. Interesting how one person's red flag is another person's match-made-in-heaven indicator.
    I've been burned a few times by fakes & freaks so I'm developing a list of red flags.

    - No profile or "I hate writing these...."
    - No pics; only one pic; or tiny pics (likely lifted from another site
    - Pics holding a bottle of liquor/beer (if you think that makes you look cool then I don't think you're cool)
    - Pics making an obscene gesture
    - Measurements that do not match the appearance of the person in the pic
    - RJ screen name includes handsome, hottie, hot, stud, etc. (too cocky or just let me offer you the compliment)
    - Poor grammar (spelling I can forgive)
    - Any references to "masculine" & "Str8t Acting"
    - Overtly sexual profile (not why I'm here)
    - Lists too many rules and conditions for contact

    Geez! I hope I don't sound jadedicon_smile.gif
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:27 AM GMT
    dood said[quote]

    Ignorance in basic medicine really drives me nuts... injections aren't processed by the liver


    To the extent I was exaggerating for comedic effect you are correct my dear young twinklette. However, some injectable testosterones do have a very miniscule impact on liver function in high enough doses. Injectable nortestosterones like Deca, however, have been shown to cause hepatic lesions in high enough doses albeit in extremely rare cases.

    So yes, I'm mostly wrong, but an itsy-bitsy tiny bit right and I will admit to exaggerating because it's just so damned much fun to poke the animals through the bars at the zoo.icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:30 AM GMT
    Guys who seem awfully full of themselves.
    Profiles that say "if you're -----, don't bother." I don't.
    The religious. Like the poster above said, I have nothing against it, but it doesn't interest me.
    Judgmental guys. I am not interested in people who restrict themselves when it comes to friends. And yes, Chuckystud, I even have friends who are--gasp--fat people.
    Some of my friends have no picture AND no profile, and do you know why?

    BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT ON THIS SITE.
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:46 AM GMT
    obvious fakes
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    Feb 11, 2008 5:48 AM GMT
    guilty that's a different i requested to see yours you're hot.
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    Feb 11, 2008 10:35 AM GMT
    erm... too much confidence, no sense of humor, obvious fakes, and um... hatelists. icon_razz.gif

    EDIT: Oh yeah, religion and politics too.
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    Feb 11, 2008 10:50 AM GMT
    10. Nothing written

    9. More negative than positive

    8. The "I don't like" list is longer than the "I like list"

    7. A hidden agenda

    6. Photos are not consistant

    5. Says he's in a monogamous relationship but "looking for a hook-up"

    4. Sends you a first message saying, let me see your cock

    3. They send you a message but never read your profile

    2. Too into one self

    1. NOT VERIFIED ON RJ
  • GQjock

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    Feb 11, 2008 11:19 AM GMT
    Not many Red Flags

    but... Blank Profile - what's that about?

    No picture - We know you're not Brad Pitt so why
    the secrecy?

    First words on contact... Hi Let's cam

    Religion and Politics .... Not a fan of the former
    but you've at least gotta have an opinion on the latter
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    Feb 11, 2008 12:17 PM GMT
    Besides everything that RBY71 said in addition to several others excellent additions by Caslon, HndsmKansan, jprichva, and USMmmm.
    1. Religion - not an issue for me unless its myopic or proselytizing in which case it's not just a flag but a deal breaker.
    2. 20 pictures that are all almost the same (e.g. chest pictures from every angle, or face shots from every angle) with virtually no other images as Kevin82 said.
    3. The assumption that this is primarily a hookup site.
    4. Likes and dislikes lists that seem to be based on their view as being righteous rather than simple personal tastes. I'd be more interested in what their interests are. 'I like Paris Hilton.' is NOT an interest!