Out Of The Blue

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    Jul 16, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    Today, out of the blue, I received a voice message from the first guy I ever slept with way back in the 90s. After not having seen him for several years, I ran into him about two or three months ago while he was staying in town for a few months. I hadn't thought about him for ages but was happy to see him and we talked about getting together to catch up. We talked once after that but never did get together. Today, he left a really nice message about being sorry about not being able to get together before he had to leave town and that he'd like to get together with my partner and me when he is back in Tampa again in January. I sent him a text letting him know I would like the three of us to get together and that he would always have a special place in my heart which is something I told him when we decided to end our relationship.

    It got me to thinking how many of you guys keep in contact with your "first"? And do you have fond or bad memories of your first guy?
  • Thomas757

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:11 AM GMT
    I see my first from time to time and we always say hi. It's really kind of funny cause his dad (who I work with) keeps introducing us. My internal voice screams..Oh I know him, i know him quite well. I just hope I don't blush when it happens. But other than that, I barely know him. Of course it was also a one night stand/hook-up kind of thing so... icon_redface.gif
    but it was fun!
  • Celticmusl

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:15 AM GMT
    I forget which porch I buried him under or I would visit.
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    Jul 16, 2010 4:25 AM GMT
    My "first" ignored me 3 days after "it". And that was that.
  • Thomas757

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:46 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidMy "first" ignored me 3 days after "it". And that was that.

    His loss! I think you're pretty damn awesome Ciarsolo
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    Jul 16, 2010 4:50 AM GMT
    Thomas757 said
    Ciarsolo saidMy "first" ignored me 3 days after "it". And that was that.

    His loss! I think you're pretty damn awesome Ciarsolo


    Aww thank you icon_biggrin.gif I'm only awesome on paper, but that's good enough icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 5:03 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidMy "first" ignored me 3 days after "it". And that was that.


    I feel you! I chatted with my first for a while.... I met him just weeks before he moved to L.A. But there was a connection and he stated his intent was to at least keep in touch sometimes.

    Well.... he disappeared after a few weeks. And when I sent him a friendly text upon visiting LA almost a year later, "Hey! how are you, guess who is in LA?"... I got no reply. He's an actor... and I suppose a bit of a closet case. He wouldnt even add me on facebook as a friend, although he also said "If I were staying in DC i would have to tell myself to take it slow with you.... I really like you." LAME! I was duped. Oh well. At least he was hot and a great kisser.

    ...Update: Apparently he has starred in a web mini-series parody of Lost and Jersey Shore... lol. The preview I saw had 950 views. Oh well.
  • Markebri

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    Jul 16, 2010 5:49 AM GMT
    My ''first' enlisted himself into the army right after high school and disappeared off the radar. Several years later, I received an email from him on facebook asking if he could crash at my place while he looked for a place for himself. He apologized about falling out of contact with me, also mentioning that was in the process of getting a divorce and gaining custody of his son.

    I let him crash on the couch for the night, but woke up to him crawling into my bed. I was apprehensive about how to react, so I played it off as if I was still asleep. He pressed his body against mine while making damn sure I felt his hard on against my ass. I knew he wanted to get off, so I turned around and let him finish what he had started icon_lol.gif

    I woke up the next morning to an empty bed, and a text message on my phone saying, ''Nice catchin up w u...see u around.'' I found out later that week that he had moved in with his new girlfriend, which he failed to mention when I invited him over that night.

    He occasionally sends me text messages asking if I want to meet up while his girlfriend is not around. I rather not get mixed up in the sidelines, especially since his son is living in the apartment with him and his g/f. Wish him all the best, but I don't want to be a home wrecker.

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    Jul 16, 2010 5:52 AM GMT
    Celticmusl saidI forget which porch I buried him under or I would visit.


    LMAO icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:43 AM GMT
    Ehm, depends which "first" if you mean bf, it only lasted two weeks, hes from another island and we had a very typical relationship, in which he would have others on the side, but he would call me his "no. 1," I could accept that, being Caribbean/Latin myself, but we broke up over his drug habits... we stayed friends for years, over which his drug habits got progressively worse and his personality began to change and he became very rude and unfriendly... up to the point where he broke off contact with me.... this year I tried mailing him once in a while..... but he had trouble remembering me... so I was like "whatever" and stopped trying to stay in touch... kinda sucks because I did wanna just stay friends, thats perfectly fine on islands where the social circle is small, so everyone knows each other, so yeah, I dont think its wierd to keep in touch with an ex at all, in fact I prefer it
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jul 16, 2010 6:45 AM GMT
    If he was "the guy" you would never have let him get away back then. He's just looking to get off again.
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:49 AM GMT
    I'm still friends with my first. We reconnected on facebook a couple years ago. He and my other exes on there compare notes and gang up on me. It's always good for laugh.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 10:23 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidI'm still friends with my first. We reconnected on facebook a couple years ago. He and my other exes on there compare notes and gang up on me. It's always good for laugh.icon_biggrin.gif


    I'm glad someone is still on good terms with his first.

    Yeah - I always feel weird when my ex boyfriends become friends. Can't wonder what notes they are comparing! icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 10:26 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidIf he was "the guy" you would never have let him get away back then. He's just looking to get off again.


    Nah - he wasn't "the guy". Just a nice guy. Unlike some other breakups, I didn't feel any bitterness about the situation when the relationship ended.
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    Jul 16, 2010 10:27 AM GMT
    This is not my day... now Im wishing I had even had exes (in the plural icon_twisted.gif ) to compare notes with lol
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    Jul 16, 2010 11:53 AM GMT
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    GuerrillaSodomite saidI'm still friends with my first. We reconnected on facebook a couple years ago. He and my other exes on there compare notes and gang up on me. It's always good for laugh.icon_biggrin.gif


    I'm glad someone is still on good terms with his first.

    Yeah - I always feel weird when my ex boyfriends become friends. Can't wonder what notes they are comparing! icon_lol.gif


    Think it's weird when they become friends? Two of mine have been a couple for 15 years. I've even been dragged to their couple's therapy because they both had unresolved issues surrounding me. icon_lol.gif
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Jul 16, 2010 12:04 PM GMT
    My first stood me up for our third date. He was about 24, I was 19, and I bought tickets to a sold-out BBKing concert (he said he really liked him). Night of the show I waited outside the theatre, and waited, and waited...I gave the tickets away to a couple. Never heard from the guy again.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 16, 2010 12:06 PM GMT



    Yeah, I'm still in contact with my first... he's my bf.. LOL
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    Jul 16, 2010 12:07 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidThink it's weird when they become friends? Two of mine have been a couple for 15 years. I've even been dragged to their couple's therapy because they both had unresolved issues surrounding me.



    Oh Sod...so many of us have unresolved issues surrounding you. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 12:07 PM GMT
    Not a chance in hell. He really hurt me (verbally and emotionally abusive), and tried to destroy my reputation at home and went down to my university to try to ruin my reputation among their small gay community so I would be shunned. Even though he apologized, he has the sense not to contact me and to stay the hell away from me when we are around mutual friends about 3x a year.
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    Jul 16, 2010 12:08 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    sashaman said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidI'm still friends with my first. We reconnected on facebook a couple years ago. He and my other exes on there compare notes and gang up on me. It's always good for laugh.icon_biggrin.gif


    I'm glad someone is still on good terms with his first.

    Yeah - I always feel weird when my ex boyfriends become friends. Can't wonder what notes they are comparing! icon_lol.gif


    Think it's weird when they become friends? Two of mine have been a couple for 15 years. I've even been dragged to their couple's therapy because they both had unresolved issues surrounding me. icon_lol.gif


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  • DCEric

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    Jul 16, 2010 12:09 PM GMT
    Her: Sort of. We talk maybe once a year, at most.

    Him: Well, now we own a house together.....
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    Jul 16, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said


    Yeah, I'm still in contact with my first... he's my bf.. LOL


    Love that!

    Same to DCEric. You didn't have to kiss a lot of toads before finding your prince. I love hearing about couples that are each others one and only. There is something so sweet and romantic about that.
  • CAtoFL

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    My first commited suicide when he [mistakenly] thought I had cheated on him.

    Don't want to waste money on seances. I'll kick his ass if there's an afterlife.
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    Jul 16, 2010 5:33 PM GMT
    CAtoFL saidMy first commited suicide when he [mistakenly] thought I had cheated on him.


    Oh god, is this for real? So tragic.

    Well, my ex and I are friends on FB. We definitely had fond memories. icon_biggrin.gif