Would you date a guy you know has cheated in the past?

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    Jul 16, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    So the title says it all basically. If you know a guy has cheated on a previous partner(s) would you still go out with him? Would it depend on how many people he's cheated on or any other factor? If you did decide to give the guy a chance would you watch him more closely or be on alert more?
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    Jul 16, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    Hell yeah I would! I'd have him pick up guys for us. icon_biggrin.gif
  • calibro

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
    whether it's cheating or something else, everyone makes mistakes in life and many of us learn to grow from them into better people
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    Jul 16, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    If you have an open relationship, it'd be hard for him to cheat.

    "Those who make laws also make criminals."
  • AlanGZ

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    Yeah I would.... I might be a little bit suspicious but hey, everybody can learn from its own mistakes
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    Jul 16, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    The only guy I wouldn't date is a guy with young children. Because I have, on more than one occasion. And you will always come second to his kids.
  • Thomas757

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    Jul 16, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidThe only guy I wouldn't date is a guy with young children. Because I have, on more than one occasion. And you will always come second to his kids.

    True for me, and they aren't even mine....they are my sister's. But those kiddos always come first for me. Just another reason why I'm not dating material...but whatever.
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    kalvinosaurus saidIf you have an open relationship, it'd be hard for him to cheat.

    "Those who make laws also make criminals."


    Agreed there... I think I if I loved him, I wouldnt mind at all.. just be open about it and dont leave me icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidThe only guy I wouldn't date is a guy with young children. Because I have, on more than one occasion. And you will always come second to his kids.


    So you wouldnt want kids of your own, or adopted, Ciar? icon_surprised.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:31 AM GMT
    Probably not, i dont cheat and i dont want to be cheated on, its just means the person he was with was just not enough for him,...so thats a no no.... once a cheater always a cheater...
  • frankyzhang

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    Jul 16, 2010 6:56 AM GMT
    well, depends on how much i love him, but if i decide to date him, i wont be suspicious, otherwise i prefer not to date him
  • AlanGZ

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    Jul 16, 2010 7:56 AM GMT
    amar_m said
    kalvinosaurus saidIf you have an open relationship, it'd be hard for him to cheat.

    "Those who make laws also make criminals."


    Agreed there... I think I if I loved him, I wouldnt mind at all.. just be open about it and dont leave me icon_cry.gif


    What! No way darling!
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    Jul 16, 2010 8:16 AM GMT
    I wouldnt want to have a relationship with him, but for booty calls, sure why not?
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    Jul 16, 2010 8:24 AM GMT
    I would. I'm in no position to judge, for I know that people are weak at times. Of course, while I do believe in second chances, I don't believe in thirds. Only I can decide whether or not the feeling of getting back together is sincere.
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    Jul 16, 2010 3:57 PM GMT
    If it was just a short term relationship with the ex then I might reconsider. But if they were in a serious long term relationship I would never even second guess my answer..which would be NO! I believe once a cheat, always a cheat.
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    Jul 16, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidI wouldnt want to have a relationship with him, but for booty calls, sure why not?


    but if hes a cheat why give him the satisfaction of giving up your Reese's Pieces?
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    Jul 16, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    FunStud91 saidProbably not, i dont cheat and i dont want to be cheated on, its just means the person he was with was just not enough for him,...so thats a no no.... once a cheater always a cheater...



    *stands up and claps*
  • Regina_Guy

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidThe only guy I wouldn't date is a guy with young children. Because I have, on more than one occasion. And you will always come second to his kids.


    Well in all honesty, when children are involved, you should come in second behind the kids.

    I probably would date a guy who has cheated in the past. It would all depend on the situation.
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    Jul 16, 2010 4:10 PM GMT
    Guys in unhappy relationships are sometimes driven to step out on occasion - just to keep their sanity. If you're with a guy who won't talk; is non-sexual; treats you like crap; is bi-polar or has developed other problems - - - you might just find yourself needing a little comfort and solace in the arms of another warm, normal guy. A nice evening in the arms of another guy who treats us well is often just what we need to realize that we need to extract ourselves from the bad relationship and find someone who really cares about us.

    So - yes - I'd be happy to be with a guy who has stepped out. He probably is more mature and has learned some valuable lessons in life.

    (Now since I'm nearly perfect and consider myself Cream of the Crop - if he stepped out on ME, he'd be buried in the Rose Garden - as our friend Mel Gibson promised his soon-to-be-ex.)
  • calibro

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:13 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidThe only guy I wouldn't date is a guy with young children. Because I have, on more than one occasion. And you will always come second to his kids.


    what if his kids are hot and in their twenties?
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    Jul 16, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    AlanGZ saidYeah I would.... I might be a little bit suspicious but hey, everybody can learn from its own mistakes


    Same here.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:33 PM GMT
    Yes, I would.

    Hell, I've been the guy that cheated on someone!

    Am I a bad person? Hells no!

    Was it stupid? Yup!

    I can't say it will never happen again because keeping a promise like that is stupid. Who know what the future holds?
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    Jul 18, 2010 2:17 AM GMT
    I'm pretty sure I have...
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    Jul 18, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    Wow, I can't believe some of the answers in this thread, but I guess to each his own.

    And no.
  • mybud

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    Jul 18, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    I would stay clear.....Would I watch him closer....what?....Baby sitting shit doesn't work for me.....BUD