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  • cromi

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    Jul 16, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    there is a lot of nice(i think)/goodlooking guys in this site so i send some emails to who i thought were both but the only problem is, most of them dont really reply and it kinda makes me sad icon_sad.gif, maybe its because im ugly, thin, asian,uninteresting or something
    so, what i would like to know is how do you introduce yourself to fellow RJers cause i really dont know how to...
    i just wanna make friends(no matter how lame it sounds)
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    Jul 16, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    Hey Cromi! Welcome to Real Jock! icon_surprised.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 5:21 PM GMT
    No, your cute, and I always reply to hi's, shouldve sent to me first ;) icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Hi Cromi! Welcome to RealJock the internet.
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:15 PM GMT
    Dude, you're certainly not ugly, too skiinny, too small, etc. It's the way the internet works. Eventually you'll meet some great people, but don't beat yourself up over the ones that don't reply to your emails.
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:38 PM GMT
    Where are these people located? Maybe you are just geographically-undesireable.
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    Jul 16, 2010 6:54 PM GMT
    cromi saidthere is a lot of nice(i think)/goodlooking guys in this site so i send some emails to who i thought were both but the only problem is, most of them dont really reply and it kinda makes me sad icon_sad.gif, maybe its because im ugly, thin, asian,uninteresting or something
    so, what i would like to know is how do you introduce yourself to fellow RJers cause i really dont know how to...
    i just wanna make friends(no matter how lame it sounds)

    First I checked my old email back for a few months, and don't see anything from you. Well, DUH, you did say nice, good-looking guys, and I fail on both counts. But I wanted to double-check to be sure.

    Because I do sometimes get unsolicited email, which is what you seem to be describing, and I generally don't respond to those, and never to unknown IMs. Maybe your technique is part of the problem. Emails from out of the blue are always suspect.

    I recommend you do what you are doing in this thread: introduce yourself to everyone here, get involved in the forums, become known. Then you will start to receive emails, and your own emails will be answered.

    That's how I had got started here, and I've now even met a number of these great guys in person, having exchanging emails, and in some cases spoken on the telephone. So I endorse becoming active in the forums. Oh, and not to be mean, but swap your main pic for one with a smile. That one in front of the blue SUV (?) is nice.
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    Jul 16, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    You have to understand that "goodlooking" guys are inundated with a lot of spam, i.e. guys "phishing," sending out mass generic "hi!" emails in the hopes of landing a response. The good news is that most of those phishers lack game (imagination; creativity; a decent pickup line; a photo) so you shouldn't have to work too hard to differentiate yourself. I'm not about to tell you how, though - that's your job.
  • jgymnast733

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    Jul 16, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    You look fine, dont worry if someone fails to respond to a simple hello..Consider yourself lucky to be rid of people who lack basic manners, Afterall its only hello not marriage.....FUCK UM..icon_exclaim.gif
  • cromi

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    Jul 17, 2010 7:49 AM GMT
    thanks to all the good posts that i recieved in these forum, i'll definetly consider doing what you all adviced me...
    sorry if i used the word "goodlooking", i didnt mean to be selective of whom i should mail or something...
    and sorry to the regulars on here(u know who u are)if u didnt get any mail from me saying hi, it doesnt mean you're not nice or "goodlooking"(gosh! i really should read my post before posting it... i feel like a douche for typing "goodlooking" haha) im saving u for later cause... i dont know, i really dont know why lol... maybe its bcoz i feel like the new kid on here and befriending the "regulars" seems a lil too fast...
    @wilton, one smiling pic coming up maybe tom icon_smile.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jul 17, 2010 8:00 AM GMT
    The internet is not the best place to find men who don`t have issues and make you feel like shit because they like you but don`t want to admit it because of all those issues. Open the front door of your house, and go meet real people. These guys online are all asholes.Really.
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    Jul 17, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidThe internet is not the best place to find men who don`t have issues and make you feel like shit because they like you but don`t want to admit it because of all those issues. Open the front door of your house, and go meet real people. These guys online are all asholes.Really.


    WOW speak for yourself father
  • Mohannned

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    Jul 17, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidThe internet is not the best place to find men who don`t have issues and make you feel like shit because they like you but don`t want to admit it because of all those issues. Open the front door of your house, and go meet real people. These guys online are all asholes.Really.

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    Jul 17, 2010 8:13 AM GMT
    cromi saidthanks to all the good posts that i recieved in these forum, i'll definetly consider doing what you all adviced me...
    sorry if i used the word "goodlooking", i didnt mean to be selective of whom i should mail or something...
    and sorry to the regulars on here(u know who u are)if u didnt get any mail from me saying hi, it doesnt mean you're not nice or "goodlooking"(gosh! i really should read my post before posting it... i feel like a douche for typing "goodlooking" haha) im saving u for later cause... i dont know, i really dont know why lol... maybe its bcoz i feel like the new kid on here and befriending the "regulars" seems a lil too fast...
    @wilton, one smiling pic coming up maybe tom icon_smile.gif


    lol, Im not offended... but I'm awaiting your mail anxiously now!
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    Jul 17, 2010 8:21 AM GMT
    what are you talking about? i never got an email,...i always respond to emails.. icon_idea.gif
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    Jul 17, 2010 8:22 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidThe internet is not the best place to find men who don`t have issues and make you feel like shit because they like you but don`t want to admit it because of all those issues. Open the front door of your house, and go meet real people. These guys online are all asholes.Really.


    I think we have a winner for the Sweeping Statement of the Month Award.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 17, 2010 11:03 AM GMT
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    This is the internet
    Please don't take anything said or done seriously
    because you'll be in for a world of hurt
    There can be a million reasons why a guy doesn't answer you on line
    Don't make it about you ..... because ten to one it probably isn't
    and even if it is
    It isn't like there aren't fifty million guys just like him out there
    It's just words and pictures on a page icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 17, 2010 11:08 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidThe internet is not the best place to find men who don`t have issues and make you feel like shit because they like you but don`t want to admit it because of all those issues. Open the front door of your house, and go meet real people. These guys online are all asholes.Really.


    Umm. Am I the only person that took this as SARCASM? The last line made me laugh. icon_cool.gif
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Jul 17, 2010 11:25 AM GMT
    My advice is to not say "hello", or "what's up", or "how are you". I often get emails like this, with those quotes being the only thing in the entire message and the sender never having spoken to me before. I do ignore these ones usually.

    On the other hand, if you start saying something about what you saw in my profile, then I'll respond. And if you mention that you like my music playlist, I'll love ya forever.
  • cromi

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    Jul 17, 2010 11:43 AM GMT
    GQjock saidcrying%20baby.gif

    This is the internet
    Please don't take anything said or done seriously
    because you'll be in for a world of hurt
    There can be a million reasons why a guy doesn't answer you on line
    Don't make it about you ..... because ten to one it probably isn't
    and even if it is
    It isn't like there aren't fifty million guys just like him out there
    It's just words and pictures on a page icon_wink.gif


    thanks! this shit is making me realize a lot of things...
    no more whining from now on!!! im just recovering from a slight depression thats why i posted this. today is the best day in the last 6 months cause i feel good about the feedbacks here...
  • cromi

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    Jul 17, 2010 11:48 AM GMT
    jlly_rnchr saidMy advice is to not say "hello", or "what's up", or "how are you". I often get emails like this, with those quotes being the only thing in the entire message and the sender never having spoken to me before. I do ignore these ones usually.

    On the other hand, if you start saying something about what you saw in my profile, then I'll respond. And if you mention that you like my music playlist, I'll love ya forever.


    great advice!!! how can i forget complimenting his music taste... icon_smile.gif