GYM rules that go with out saying

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    Jun 02, 2007 7:23 PM GMT
    I had an incident this morning at the gym and I want your feed back on this one. I know there are a few writen rules at the gym, besides the basics ones, dont drop the weights, dont walk in front of people when they are lifting, wipe the machines after use, etc. But there are a few that you just know you should not do. You should not move a guy's towel or stuff from a bench if you know he is not done, or you should not take weight off the machine if the guy is taking a break, or take the dumbells if the guy is still working with them. AM I alone on this one? I jack ass not only took the dumbells I was working with, but gave me attitude cause I did not put them back where they belong. Im like buddy I am not done, and he just waved his hand and said whatever, next time put things back. I just moved on and grab another set but he pissed me off. Was I wrong? Would like to know if any one out there had a situation like mine.
  • Laurence

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    Jun 02, 2007 8:27 PM GMT

    Maybe he was having a bad day or (more likely) was too stupid to realise you weren't done, and that acted with attitude. Some people don't know that gyms are for the use of everyone and not just their private domain.

    I think you were in the right and should excuse his behaviour as bad manners.

    The couple of times I have taken someones bench, without realsing they were using it, or if someone has jumped in my space or used my weights, it's all been resolved peacefully and with no fuss. He sounds like a jerk.



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    Jun 03, 2007 3:13 PM GMT
    He's just being rude. Not only is he in the wrong and he should have apologized, he should have ASKED first to see if you were done. When I go to a bench or near dumbells that are not in their original place, I ask people around if they're using it. Why? Because I would expect others to do the same and ask me instead of taking it.

    You have every right to be pissed off. I would have probably gone off on him for it.
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    Jun 03, 2007 3:30 PM GMT
    i pretty much agree, however it -should- go without saying that guys should put their weights back (where they belong), but most don't. weights get left laying on the floor, mixed all over the rack, left around the gym... additionally, some guys hog the weights. they pull out several sets of weights and make a pile around them.

    i really think it's inappropriate. how much work is it to swap up to the next set of weights when you're done doing reps on this one? if you can't tolerate waiting a minute because the gym is packed and everyone has weights, then change your schedule. don't be a greedy bastard and piss off 20 guys because you have five sets of weights piled around you.

    it's not just one gym, we tried out about six in the area. a lot of guys are slobs.

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    Jun 03, 2007 3:39 PM GMT
    Not only that but if you're taking a rest between a set it really won't kill you to let someone jump in. It's actually an easier way to rest without having to keep time paranoically.

    Friday, for example, I was doing bench presses and a guy asked me how many sets I had to go. I had just gotten started so I had a few to go but I told him he could jump in. Not only that, but I spotted him whenever he did his excercise (he did the same for me).
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    Jun 03, 2007 6:49 PM GMT
    From the information you've provided, it does sound as if he was rude and in the wrong.

    One of the things that piss me off, other than hunting for dumbbells under benches, are those guys who beging working out, and during thier 'rest' spend 20 mins in conversation while hogging weights and machines. When I'm in the gym, I dont socialize. My headphones are firmly in my ears and I'm in and out.

    And I'm pretty good at the "are you done/using this" sign language/lip reading.
  • metlboy

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    Jun 03, 2007 11:27 PM GMT
    One thing that bugs me are guys who will leave their stuff all over the gym. It's annoying when you see someone using a bench, but their bag is on a different bench, their towel is over a bunch of weights, and their water bottle is resting on yet another piece of equipment. Clearly they're not actually using it all at the moment, so is it so hard to keep your stuff in one spot so people don't have to wonder if the equipment is in use?
  • gymingit

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    Jun 03, 2007 11:59 PM GMT
    I agree, I believe you were in the right and the guy was wrong for what he did. Honestly, I just started the gym in Jan. of this year and I realized a lot of those rules from the start and sounds like this guy was just way off.

    The other things I'm hearing... it may be because I'm from a small GA town of maybe 70,000 which includes University students, but we don't have a lot of those problems.

    When I go, the weights are always where they're suppose to be and the guys are always friendly in letting you jump in as needed.

    Some of them know I'm gay and I don't exactly hide the fact either. When a hottie walks by, I can't help but notice, just as they notice every female that walks by. My trainer and I kid each other a lot.

    Granted I'm sure as all good southern christian boys do (girls included), they talk about me behind my back. But up front, they're gentlemen. lol

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    Jun 04, 2007 1:19 AM GMT
    Don't forget those who lounge on the leg curl machine, chatting on the cell phone with their head turning constantly left and right, checking out the crowd, like a beauty queen on the back of a convertible.

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    Jun 04, 2007 5:59 AM GMT
    100% agree with Metlboy. I hate it when guys stake out a "territory" in the gym by placing towels and waterbottles etc on pieces of equipment that they aren't using.

    At my gym, we also have a group of "gorilla's" who come in most nights about 5pm. There are four or five of them and they take it in turns to do sets of about 3 reps of ridiculously heavy bench presses. Then they all stand around talking for 5 minutes before the next guy does his set of 3. In all, this group take up about 1 hour or longer on the bench press. I usually go with dumbbell presses or pec dec or cable crossovers simply because I cannot get onto the bench for the entire time. They puff and preen and congratulate each other about how heavy they lifted and are constantly looking around and being loud to make sure people notice them. Bunch of tools if you ask me.
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    Jun 04, 2007 3:53 PM GMT
    Hey guys

    I totally agree with Firefighterblu3, Metlboy and cooper, guys should not mark their territory with their bags or towels, but if some one sees that you are using the equipment, and you are sitting on the bench and you just put down the weights because you are between sets, then they should atleast ask. As some of you have mentioned I think thats a great way to meet people, let them jump in or share the weights. I met 3 friends this way and I have no problem sharing,you may learn something new. I know this is not my private gym, unlike some other people, and when I am done I do put the weights back where they belong, because I know the pain of looking all over the gym for them, but to just take the weights and insult some one in the process, that is just wrong. The good thing about our gym they have policy that you can not have more than one set of dumbells/barbells with you at all time, so guys can not hog the weights, and thats what pissed me off, since there were 3 sets of the same dumbells on the rack and the freak had to go and pick on the ones I was using and give me attitude.
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    Jun 04, 2007 5:41 PM GMT
    You did nothing wrong. The guy was probably having a bad day, but his actions were bad. Thing I hate is when a guy is finished with a set and sees me waititng for a machine or bench and doesnt wipe off the equipment. THAT PISSES ME OFF!!!
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    Jun 04, 2007 7:30 PM GMT
    Yes, equipment hogs are the most annoying. One time in particular, a guy was jumping back and forth between 3 stations, towel, shirt and water bottle on each to "occupy" what he aint using. then he disappears to the other side of the gym to do core and leaves all his junk there.

    and for the guy you're talking about, whether he had a bad day or not doesn't give him the right to unload on you, nor is it his place to bring his 'tude to the gym
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    Jun 04, 2007 8:07 PM GMT
    Must say I find it quite annoying when guys are on a bench, take a walk away, have a chat, then come back to it 20 min later and get irritated if someone places their towel elsewhere. Use it, then move on, I say.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 04, 2007 9:14 PM GMT
    With what you said here you're right should be pissed
    ...but just as an aside
    and I'm not sure if you did this
    ...guys who do one set or two and then mosey around the gym
    getting a drink of water
    talking with friends
    ...doing a hostile stock take over...who knows
    that gets me pissed too
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    Jun 04, 2007 9:25 PM GMT
    Usually when I'm working on a machine, I like to do 4 sets and about a minute or two between. I'm more than happy to let another guy work in when the gym is crowded. But nothing annoys me more than when I am on a machine and there are dozens of other apparatus not in use and some jerk stands by me wanting to work in. I usually get a pissed look and move to other equipment and then go back when the jerk is done. My routine is not so strict that I can't work out elsewhere or change my sequence.
  • hazeleyesinla

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    Jun 04, 2007 11:03 PM GMT
    All it takes is saying "Do you mind if I work in with you?" and learning to take no for an answer. I've always let others work in with me because it gave me time to reset and watch someone else form on the exercise as well which could, at times, lead to improvements in my own workouts.

    Not to mention this is just common gym courtesy I feel the grouch was in the wrong as well.

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    Jun 05, 2007 11:12 AM GMT
    If there had been only one set available at that weight, and you were not within a few feet of the them, it would have been OK, but otherwise, he should have asked.

    If all the benches are in use, and one has weight on it with no one close, I will use it. I pay the same as everyone else, and my time is too valuable to wait on an empty bench. I will also take a bench or machine if someone if on the phone or chatting with someone, because I think it's ruder to interrupt their conversation than it is to just work in. In the few cases where someone has been inconsiderate enough to pause their cell phone talk to say "I'm using that," I'll say "I'll just be a minute" and only do one set before checking if they want it back.

    If someone's towel or other stuff is on a bench with no one using it, I will loudly ask "is anyone using this bench." Everytime I have done that, someone has come from another machine and apologized, and moved their stuff. I will usually say something like "Thanks, do you have just one more set you want to do, I can wait."

    People should be polite and share well in the gym. If a guy has to put a lot of weights on a machine (like 6 45 pounds), and needs to rest 5 minutes between sets, it's a lot of trouble for him to reload it each time. But if it's longer, or not that much weight, he needs to politely give it up.

    I've found that most of the people are nice, and that the biggest guys who often stake out territory do it because they are working really hard with a lot of weight, and alternating exercises, and if I am polite, they will share-- there's no reason for them to give up a loaded bench unless someone needs it.

    The rudest people are the ones there to socialize. They don't understand people there to work hard, and they just have to deal with getting out of the way.
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    Jun 05, 2007 3:03 PM GMT
    Next time don't play into his game. Anger is such a waste of energy. Just politely let him know that you weren't finished yet and that you'll put the weights away when you are. If you still get attitude just laugh at him and walk away. When you let your emotions take over because of what someone else does or says, you are giving them exactly what they seek and that is control over you. It was his issue not yours.

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    Jun 05, 2007 3:33 PM GMT
    LMAO...I totally thing that you are in the right...I would get pissed...I would have even gone over there and when he laid them down...picked them up and said "I am not done with these...thanks" And walk away.

    I hate people who all think their the coolest thing since sliced bread at the gym...they have all the weights, use all the machines...leave there stupid water bottle on one, towel on another, there little journal on the other side of the gym...all so nobody will use the equipment. I understand maybe circuit training or something...but can't be using all that crap at the same time.

    So need to pet peeves are slamming of weights even the slightest tap...if I can hear it through my headphones its too loud...same goes for the guys who orgasms when he is lifting...AGHHHH shut the hell up...nobody here wants to hear your "O face" noises.
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    Jun 05, 2007 5:26 PM GMT
    Has anyone ever noticed that the guys making the most noise aren't even lifting that much weight?
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    Jun 05, 2007 5:32 PM GMT
    you mean the huge grunts and loud gutteral sounds? *laugh* yeah :)

    i've never figured out why there must be a loud grunt or groan associated with exhertion :D
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    Jun 05, 2007 6:23 PM GMT
    LOL! I've noticed the ones making the most noise (and the ugliest, "I'm gonna go for it!!!" faces) are typically the ones in the poorest condition!

    I remember one time I was in the gym, looked around to see if anyone was on the decline bench. No one was so I got on it. Sure enough, a minute later a meathead walks up and is all "I'm using that actually". I was like, "Well, then you can have it back when I'm done, which will be in a few minutes." Sorry, but if you're not using something, give it up so someone else can.
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    Jun 05, 2007 8:42 PM GMT
    I'm not sure about the noise-making either, but in high school, the football coach insisted on it. "If you're not yelling, you're not really trying."

    Anyway, I notice that when performing feats of resistance against balky farm equipment, certain noises tend to escape from me, but I won't try to reproduce them in polite company.
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    Jun 06, 2007 6:47 PM GMT
    i remember when i first started working out at gym a number of years back. At busy hours, people are less polite. The similar incident happened once or twice, then i changed my workout time. Normally, i f i wanna work on weights that someone else's having it. i just ask or wait. courtesy is the basic rule that other rules are derived from.