Dumb Bitches at the Gay Bar....

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    Jul 18, 2010 2:29 PM GMT
    Hey guys, soooo.......I think we have all been through this at one point or another....you meet a guy online, chat every now and then, when you are both at the gay bar finally....you go up to him and introduce yourself "hey....._______ right? how are you???" and he looks at you with a puzzled look then he looks at his friends then back at you and says "i'm sorry have we met, and totally denies chatting with you or he says "oh yes! hey how are you....with the puzzled yet shady look" basically acting like he didn't recognize you when clearly he know EXACTLY who you are! Now why would you do that? mind you this particular situation was just chatting as friends, i had no interest in jumping his bones....and it wasn't like we were gonna go on a date, but we chat every now, atleast weekly online if both of us were on and we had great, fun conversations too.

    This is what I call a DUMB BITCH at the bar! you turn into a totally different stuck up person when with your friends! I mean this as happened to me on rare occasions because its a douchey thing to do, but still, has any one else been through this kind of situation? and what happened? this is exactly why alot of guys are too shy or afraid to go up and talk to others at a bar, whether straight or gay, especially when the person is with his friends.

    I say brush them off and move the fuck on!

    Stephanie Tanner says " HOW RUDE!!!!"
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    Jul 18, 2010 2:48 PM GMT
    I can agree with what your saying, but meeting at the gay bar is the worst place to meet someone in person for the first time.
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    oh i hear ya bud, but we didn't plan on meeting there we just both happened to be there...
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    crazycool said this is exactly why alot of guys are too shy or afraid to go up and talk to others at a bar, whether straight or gay, especially when the person is with his friends.

    I say brush them off and move the fuck on!



    Ah rejection like life she's a bitch. Moving on is all you can do. I mean would you really start a fight at a gay bar over whether they recoginized you or not from online. LOL
  • Midas426

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    Jul 18, 2010 3:11 PM GMT
    Yup...been there and I also delete from my online list.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 18, 2010 3:11 PM GMT
    Well you found out whatta dumb bitch asshole he really is

    ... and now you're gonna forget all about him and move on with your life
    .... right? .... right?
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:12 PM GMT
    Ricovelas said
    crazycool said this is exactly why alot of guys are too shy or afraid to go up and talk to others at a bar, whether straight or gay, especially when the person is with his friends.

    I say brush them off and move the fuck on!



    Ah rejection like life she's a bitch. Moving on is all you can do. I mean would you really start a fight at a gay bar over whether they recoginized you or not from online. LOL



    exactly! so not worth it! there is no need for drama...you know what I mean? REALLY! but it's still annoying, some people just need to get off their high horse....
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 18, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    If I got treated that way... and it was clear he knew who I was, I'd say it was time for me to find a better way to meet quality dudes.
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    Maybe you just surprised the guy if you were meeting him for the first time.

    It's just awkward to introduce someone to your friends as... they guy I chat with online but haven't met in person myself yet

    Yet I tend to avoid the bars, for that very reason bitches and skanks
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    GQjock saidWell you found out whatta dumb bitch asshole he really is

    ... and now you're gonna forget all about him and move on with your life
    .... right? .... right?


    hahaha one word explains it all NNNNEXT!!! it's just stupid cause i really thought we had chemistry, friends wise, oh well, his loss! watch that dumb bitch try to talk to me next time when his friends aren't around hahaha that's definitely happened before in the past with others!
  • JockChefJim

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    Jul 18, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    I had an experience simular to that. Mine was slightly I worse I think in that we had actually met in person earlier that week over coffee. So when I saw him at the bar I was comfortable enough to go say hi and he was pretty much ignoring me. I did call him on it a couple days later online and he got mad at me. Over all bars are terrible places to talk/meet people anyway.
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    He may have had some personal (and valid) reason why he did not want to introduce you to his friends. You knew you were only going to introduce yourself as an acquaintance, but he did not have a clue what you might say. Obviously, you were a little hurt by the experience. Drop him a line and ask him why he behaved that way.
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    Rawrly said
    crazycool saidoh i hear ya bud, but we didn't plan on meeting there we just both happened to be there...


    You went up to him though. I don't go up to people I see online. I'm really, really friendly though so if we've spoken, they usually want to come up to me and say hi. Otherwise though, no, telling someone you know them from online is kind of weird in my opinion.


    I understand what your saying however how would you really know what a person is like unless you take a chance.

    The need to feel secure and safe are the best feelings to have in the world, no one wants to show nervousness or shakyiness, especially at a gay bar. However, I say sometime you gotta have some guts and risk it. You could connect on more levels than just online.
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    cold said
    crazycool said... Now why would you do that?... "


    Obviously I don't know the whole story, but may he was just really embarrassed? Some people aren't gifted with confidence and when they feel awkward they spin a situation to try and make themselves feel more comfortable; even if that means unintentionally appearing rude or aloof... not that I know from personal experience or anything heh... icon_eek.gif *gets real sweaty and vomits on self*



    LOL that puking part totally reminds me of Trina from MadTV hahaha so funny! when she pukes after getting excited!!

  • gsh1964

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    Jul 18, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    I for one have a really hard time changing someone from 2D to 3D.
    I have a really hard time recognizing people. I honestly do, it's not out of being hateful or mean.
    Once I recognize you, then it's all good.

    If this guy is going out of his way to totally admit that he has never chatted with you on-line or met you on-line. Then yes, he's a jerk... Move on.

    Trust me, there are many guys out there that would love to spend time with you and would be proud to admit they know you.

    Best of luck
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    Rawrly saidOtherwise though, no, telling someone you know them from online is kind of weird in my opinion.


    What? That's absurd!
  • rnch

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    Jul 18, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    quoting the old, time-proven phrase:

    DITCH DA BITCH!!
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    Rawrly said
    crazycool saidoh i hear ya bud, but we didn't plan on meeting there we just both happened to be there...


    You went up to him though. I don't go up to people I see online. I'm really, really friendly though so if we've spoken, they usually want to come up to me and say hi. Otherwise though, no, telling someone you know them from online is kind of weird in my opinion.


    but why would it be weird? alot of us meet each other online first right? its one of our ways to meet new people in our community, so i don't know why that would be weird...if I saw you at a gay bar and knew you from realjock and we had conversation online for example, i would go up to you and say " hey _____ aren't you from realjock, we've chatted before, how are you?" that's how we met, so that's what I'm gonna say haha
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    Rawrly saidI feel slightly uncomfortable when someone tells me that they know me from online. Not that I'm different online vs. offline, but still... It's not a good lead-in.

    If you can't make the simple transition from online to "real" life, why are you talking to people online?
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    rnch saidquoting the old, time-proven phrase:

    DITCH DA BITCH!!

    My New Orleans buddy summed it up quite well. Way to go, podnah!icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:36 PM GMT
    gsh1964 saidI for one have a really hard time changing someone from 2D to 3D.
    I have a really hard time recognizing people. I honestly do, it's not out of being hateful or mean.
    Once I recognize you, then it's all good.

    If this guy is going out of his way to totally admit that he has never chatted with you on-line or met you on-line. Then yes, he's a jerk... Move on.

    Trust me, there are many guys out there that would love to spend time with you and would be proud to admit they know you.

    Best of luck



    thanks bud, much appreciated! and your chest tattoo is sssssick! me likey!
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:40 PM GMT
    JockChefJim saidI had an experience simular to that. Mine was slightly I worse I think in that we had actually met in person earlier that week over coffee. So when I saw him at the bar I was comfortable enough to go say hi and he was pretty much ignoring me. I did call him on it a couple days later online and he got mad at me. Over all bars are terrible places to talk/meet people anyway.


    wow sorry to hear that man, that's a totally douche thing to do, i'm glad you called him out on it! guys like him don't deserve your time anyways! NNNEXT!
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:42 PM GMT
    Mil8 saidHe may have had some personal (and valid) reason why he did not want to introduce you to his friends. You knew you were only going to introduce yourself as an acquaintance, but he did not have a clue what you might say. Obviously, you were a little hurt by the experience. Drop him a line and ask him why he behaved that way.


    Oh you better believe I did! hahaha and what did he say " i'm sooo sorry i just don't like guys coming up to me and introducing themselves when i'm with my friends"

    WHAAAAAAT???? are you kidding me? geeese, it's not like I was gonna introduce myself and totally ignore them, i thought bars were supposed to be a social atmosphere......aaanyways i deleted his ass! what a let down though...
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    Jul 18, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    The transition from ONLINE to OFFLINE (ie real life) is tricky and perhaps this "dumb bitch" felt like his friends would discover that he is online, even though he could have lied and said you both met at an UNESCO conference or the library or while planting trees in venezuela.

    I'd be a little startled too and not sure how I would react, but then, I dont go out and meet people in real life, nor have friends ....so I don't have that transition problem. When, what a relfief. icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jul 18, 2010 4:13 PM GMT
    sundayswim saidThe transition from ONLINE to OFFLINE (ie real life) is tricky and perhaps this "dumb bitch" felt like his friends would discover that he is online, even though he could have lied and said you both met at an UNESCO conference or the library or while planting trees in venezuela.

    I'd be a little startled too and not sure how I would react, but then, I dont go out and meet people in real life, nor have friends ....so I don't have that transition problem. When, what a relfief. icon_biggrin.gif



    well that definitely one way to avoid it haha but there really are alot of cool guys out there you could be meeting! I say give it a try icon_smile.gif