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    Jul 19, 2010 8:34 AM GMT


    ~_~

    -sigh- after thinking about it, i really dont belong on a fitness site unless im working on it.

    well oviously i want to get into "shape". which is being more flexable and having more muscle mass. but my workout system is lacking in most fields. well all fields.. it think i may have done 30 push-ups this year if that, i posted them on the 1,000,000 push-up challange here.. that about all i have done this year. other then walking. i dont have access to a gym but that no excuse for not working out. i can get alot closer to my goal even without a gym but also without a gym i dont have that commentment. my overall health is good though.

    just fell like ranting on the fact im not working out .....
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    Jul 19, 2010 12:41 PM GMT
    Dont worry about it man, When I joined this site, I hadnt been working out for a week or two

    It just happens that sometimes I am in a low motivational state, or I simply dont have the resources or the time... in med school for a while I lived close to the beach, I oculd walk there and swim every day, but with my school schedule it went down to thrice a week

    Now I dont have a car and dont live anywhere near enough t get any exercise... and I dont find being at home motivating enough to work out... when I had a car and I could go, I love to go to martial arts, surfing and breakdance trainings with friends... but at the moment thats just not an option, and doing things all alone just doesnt get you going its true

    Humans are a social species, so the best advice I can give you is well training buddies
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    Jul 19, 2010 12:44 PM GMT
    I dare you to do 30 more push ups
  • MidwesternKid

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    Jul 19, 2010 12:47 PM GMT
    You just need to find something that suits you. But keep in mind you have to allow it to become habit. So push through it for about two weeks till it gets to the point you can't get through the day without it.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 19, 2010 1:20 PM GMT
    Just because you aren't in the middle of physical improvement doesn't mean you can't be a member here. Let this site help be the inspiration to help aid you in physical improvement! You are here because you have the interest.
    Maybe the members and subject matter will help motivate you to take your physical fitness to a new level.
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    Jul 19, 2010 1:22 PM GMT
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    Jul 19, 2010 1:33 PM GMT
    bucalo said

    ~_~

    -sigh- after thinking about it, i really dont belong on a fitness site unless im working on it.

    well oviously i want to get into "shape". which is being more flexable and having more muscle mass. but my workout system is lacking in most fields. well all fields.. it think i may have done 30 push-ups this year if that, i posted them on the 1,000,000 push-up challange here.. that about all i have done this year. other then walking. i dont have access to a gym but that no excuse for not working out. i can get alot closer to my goal even without a gym but also without a gym i dont have that commentment. my overall health is good though.

    just fell like ranting on the fact im not working out .....


    You may not have a gym but you already have one very good piece of equipment. YOURSELF!!

    Take time if you can and research body weight exercises and go from there. Physical fitness has many benefits aside from looking good and gain muscle mass. I'm sure your already aware, like people always tell me because I'm a big time procrastinator.... The biggest thing holding you back is well you.

    Get out there man and do that damn thang. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 19, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    I was on this site 2.5 years before I started working out seriously. I'd do a little bit here and there, but never stuck with anything. It took getting a less-than-good physical exam to motivate me...I was 50 lbs overweight and had borderline atrial fib, and the doc told me to either put down the coffee or start exercising.

    Now I'm 30 pounds lighter, and building muscle while losing the last few pounds of fat so the skin doesn't get too loose.

    PS. Being 50 lbs overweight never stopped me from getting laid -- it simply made it more difficult to get laid by those I preferred to get laid by.
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    Jul 19, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    it's 30 pushups you hadn't done before. icon_smile.gif

    consider getting a trainer or a workout buddy. don't give up just yet. dat's jess ignant.
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    Jul 19, 2010 3:25 PM GMT
    http://www.realjock.com/article/825/
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    Jul 19, 2010 3:42 PM GMT
    bucalo you do so belong on here. Read the title beside the Realjock logo on the upper right. It says gay fitness, health and life. You have three to choose from. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 19, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    meninlove said bucalo you do so belong on here. Read the title beside the Realjock logo on the upper right. It says gay fitness, health and life. You have three to choose from. icon_wink.gif
    I'm still trying to figure out the "gay fitness" part.
    Every time I go to the gym, the gays and straights are doing the same type of stuff...didn't realize there was a difference. icon_razz.gif
  • me35mtl

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    Jul 19, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    buddy you belong where ever YOU want to belong.. i know sometimes i look at the guys on here and think to myself why am i here?? i work out 3-4 times but theres no way i come close to looking like some of the guys here..
    BUT at least on here i pick up on some tips, and also talk about other stuff OTHER than working out..
    As for working out and not having access to a gym..theres alot you can still do..you can still challenge yourself on running outside, getting some freeweights off craigslist (some people sell good stuff dirt cheap) or even like the other guy said, do an extra 30 push ups..
    But again, if you like being on here, stay and just use the site to use something to inspire you to get back to working out..
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    Jul 19, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    bucalo said

    ~_~

    -sigh- after thinking about it, i really dont belong on a fitness site unless im working on it.

    well oviously i want to get into "shape". which is being more flexable and having more muscle mass. but my workout system is lacking in most fields. well all fields.. it think i may have done 30 push-ups this year if that, i posted them on the 1,000,000 push-up challange here.. that about all i have done this year. other then walking. i dont have access to a gym but that no excuse for not working out. i can get alot closer to my goal even without a gym but also without a gym i dont have that commentment. my overall health is good though.

    just fell like ranting on the fact im not working out .....


    self-loathing masquerades in all shapes and sizes...for instance, thinking you don't deserve to belong on a gay fitness website because you haven't done enough pushups. you deserve whatever you want for yourself. accept that. if you like it here, if you like the guys here, (not all of them, mind you...some of them are nuts), and if you like the conversation, then by all means accept that you deserve to be here...yea even, you have a right to be here...at least as much as anyone else.

    it would be one thing if you were posting in thread after thread bragging about the number of push-ups you're doing, how you can do pull-ups for days, and how you're eating a 90% protein diet. but you don't. you're being honest. that, my friend, is refreshing.

    once you begin to accept yourself, all your gifts and talents and all your quirks and shortcomings, you can see that you have something to offer ANYWHERE you are. that takes a different kind of strength...the kind that people flock around. but being honest like this means you're further along than you might think.
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    Jul 19, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    me35mtl said... i work out 3-4 times but theres no way i come close to looking like some of the guys here..
    I used to think that because people told me that.
    Then I said "fuck them, I'll prove them wrong" -- and did. icon_wink.gif
  • me35mtl

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    Jul 19, 2010 4:11 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    me35mtl said... i work out 3-4 times but theres no way i come close to looking like some of the guys here..
    I used to think that because people told me that.
    Then I said "fuck them, I'll prove them wrong" -- and did. icon_wink.gif


    GO GET EM TIGER!

    i think im ok with me now..before i kept thinking i was the ugliest piece of shit walking around..and at the gym i would look at everyone else and say wow why cant i be like that..And because i compared myself so much i totally didnt see the changes in the mirror..my friends and family were so shocked at how much i changed..then one day i hurt my back and had to stop working out for about a year..everything i worked hard for went away..and i was pretty much in bed for the 1st few months..and then it hit me..when i was ok before, i should have been just happy that i could walk around and had function of my body and couldnt believe that i hated my body..

    Fast forward 3 years..back at gym and i dont care how bad i look..the point is i can get out of bed again, and actually try at the gym..the word here is try ;)
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    Jul 19, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    me35mtl said...
    Fast forward 3 years..back at gym and i dont care how bad i look..the point is i can get out of bed again, and actually try at the gym..the word here is try ;)
    The word "try" implies failure.
    Just do your best and work with what ya got. You'll surprise yourself later.
  • me35mtl

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    Jul 19, 2010 4:18 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    me35mtl said...
    Fast forward 3 years..back at gym and i dont care how bad i look..the point is i can get out of bed again, and actually try at the gym..the word here is try ;)
    The word "try" implies failure.
    Just do your best and work with what ya got. You'll surprise yourself later.


    really??
    not for me....not trying is failure..but trying tells me that im gonna be determined like hell, and whatever happens with my shape happens, but i wont know till i give it a try. Its almost saying youre half way there.
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    Jul 19, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    me35mtl said
    paulflexes said
    me35mtl said...
    Fast forward 3 years..back at gym and i dont care how bad i look..the point is i can get out of bed again, and actually try at the gym..the word here is try ;)
    The word "try" implies failure.
    Just do your best and work with what ya got. You'll surprise yourself later.


    really??
    not for me....not trying is failure..but trying tells me that im gonna be determined like hell, and whatever happens with my shape happens, but i wont know till i give it a try. Its almost saying youre half way there.


    "do or do not...there is no try." -- yoda

    sure, it's a little green muppet in a movie, but it is truth.

    i agree, though, that doing (in your case "trying") is better than nothing. it is in QUITTING that we fail. when you stop doing, stop trying, or just stop, then there can be no more results: therefore, fail.

    call it what you like, but my new favorite saying is:

    "fall down six times, get up seven." -- chinese proverb

    EDITED: the reason i really like the above chinese proverb, is that i've heard stating a negative to yourself ("don't quit," "don't overeat," "don't pick your nose," etc.) doesn't work because your mind can't conceptualize negatives...it has to picture the positive first then negate it. so, in order to really understand the statement "don't quit," you have to picture yourself quitting first (which is very powerful) and then you have to picture NOT doing that. the above chinese proverb is stated in the positive. you merely have to get up one more time. get up. get up. get up. it is far more powerful to your mind to see yourself rising again and again to do something than to picture yourself quitting and then NOT quitting. just my .02
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    Jul 19, 2010 4:32 PM GMT
    Old saying, 'a quitter never wins, and a winner never quits.' icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 19, 2010 4:36 PM GMT
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  • me35mtl

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    Jul 19, 2010 4:45 PM GMT
    rangard said
    me35mtl said
    paulflexes said
    me35mtl said...
    Fast forward 3 years..back at gym and i dont care how bad i look..the point is i can get out of bed again, and actually try at the gym..the word here is try ;)
    The word "try" implies failure.
    Just do your best and work with what ya got. You'll surprise yourself later.


    really??
    not for me....not trying is failure..but trying tells me that im gonna be determined like hell, and whatever happens with my shape happens, but i wont know till i give it a try. Its almost saying youre half way there.


    "do or do not...there is no try." -- yoda

    sure, it's a little green muppet in a movie, but it is truth.

    i agree, though, that doing (in your case "trying") is better than nothing. it is in QUITTING that we fail. when you stop doing, stop trying, or just stop, then there can be no more results: therefore, fail.

    call it what you like, but my new favorite saying is:

    "fall down six times, get up seven." -- chinese proverb

    EDITED: the reason i really like the above chinese proverb, is that i've heard stating a negative to yourself ("don't quit," "don't overeat," "don't pick your nose," etc.) doesn't work because your mind can't conceptualize negatives...it has to picture the positive first then negate it. so, in order to really understand the statement "don't quit," you have to picture yourself quitting first (which is very powerful) and then you have to picture NOT doing that. the above chinese proverb is stated in the positive. you merely have to get up one more time. get up. get up. get up. it is far more powerful to your mind to see yourself rising again and again to do something than to picture yourself quitting and then NOT quitting. just my .02


    I like that proverb! especially your version - try not to pick your nose lol
  • Geoedward

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    Jul 19, 2010 4:57 PM GMT
    bucalo,
    You do belong here just as much as the rest of us. I agree with HndsmKansan, let this site help be your inspiration. It has for me. I find coming to this site and talking to the guys very helpful in many ways. Some days I need a good pick me up and there is always someone here to do just that. I have received so much good advice, and made a couple friends along the way. On days that I am feeling lazy and I don't feel like working out, I look at all of these awesome men and their stories. They help me realize that I have no excuse for not working out. So belong, yes you very much so belong and are welcome to this site.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 19, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    paulflexes said

    PS. Being 50 lbs overweight never stopped me from getting laid -- it simply made it more difficult to get laid by those I preferred to get laid by.


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    Jul 19, 2010 11:03 PM GMT
    You shouldn't worry too much about what other people on here think of/about you- just enjoy the time you spend on realjock.com.
    (I'm not sure if you've noticed... but the only topics that ever pick up are the ones that have nothing to do with fitness.)