How important is it for you to live alone?

  • solak

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    Jul 19, 2010 9:33 PM GMT
    peace of mind, solitude when coveted, walk around naked, not having to clean up other's messes (or vice versa), don't have to schedule tricks..

    of course exception if there are kids.
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    Jul 19, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
    I keep thinking of renting out the 2nd bedroom...then I realize that "thinking" is hazardous to your health.
    Single and livin' alone and lovin' it! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 19, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    It all depends on you. Some guys need their separation. I've known gay couples who lived completely apart, and yet who were monogamous.

    As for myself, per your thread question, I'm best with a man. I hate an empty bed. I sleep better with a guy right beside me.

    That's just me, and I realize not for everyone. But you ask, and that's my answer. Not only in bed, but everywhere in the house. I guess I'm a social animal. Why I couldn't tell you. I just go with the flow.
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    Jul 19, 2010 10:12 PM GMT
    I lived on my own between 1976 and 1999 before getting married. That's 23 years.
    During that time I enjoyed the freedom from parential restrictions, can go out and come in when I like, have people in when I want, stay up all night if I wanted to, not argue over TV channels, no longer having to eat badly cooked meals or food you don't like set before you, not listening for approaching footsteps when jacking off, and so on.
    Ok, I had to take much greater responsibility in making sure that all my bills were paid, and I didn't allow myself to get into serious debt, but in all, living on my own was great fun!
  • solak

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    Jul 19, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    agreed, my bf (or extended hookup?) comes over all the time n vice versa to sleep over..

    love the roomies and going out with them, but between school, work, interviewing, gym, club meetings, sometimes it's nice to come home to dead silence..
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    Jul 19, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    solak saidagreed, my bf (or extended hookup?) comes over all the time n vice versa to sleep over..

    love the roomies and going out with them, but between school, work, interviewing, gym, club meetings, sometimes it's nice to come home to dead silence..
    Sounds like me, although I generally have more than one "boyfriend." Fortunately I'm honest with them about it, and they feel the same way: Living alone rocks! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 20, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    I absolutely hate living alone and that is why I lived in the dorms all five years of undergrad. The past year and a half in an apartment really bugs me because I am the textbook definition of an extrovert and I need constant stimulation. I would love a Real World sort of arrangement with 7 diverse people in a house in some awesome town.
  • Regina_Guy

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    Jul 20, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    Sometimes I would I think it would be great to live alone. But then my boy goes away for the week and I'm completely lonely and feel I have no purpose.

    Two thumbs up for not living alone!
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    Jul 20, 2010 1:20 AM GMT
    Regina_Guy saidSometimes I would I think it would be great to live alone. But then my boy goes away for the week and I'm completely lonely and feel I have no purpose.

    Two thumbs up for not living alone!


    Is it pronounced Rajeena or Ragina? I know accents are different.
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    Jul 20, 2010 1:21 AM GMT
    its nice to live along, but at the same time, i like having my bf over at least 3 times a week, so the rest is still on my own, and i think it works better that was...to have time for each other and time a part as well....helps to just have to place to myself at times....
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    Jul 20, 2010 1:54 AM GMT
    I have a "people intensive" job and work 10 hour shifts, 5 days a week. It's a huge relief to come home to an empty house and just relax.
  • jgymnast733

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    Jul 20, 2010 1:59 AM GMT
    Man, i love living alone,
    i'm in the process of turning my guest bedroom into a gallery, it'll be nice putting up my paintings .... I'm painting the room RED, since i'v always wanted a red room and most of my frames are gold , it should look pretty nice when i'm done....
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    Jul 20, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    agri_sci said
    Regina_Guy saidSometimes I would I think it would be great to live alone. But then my boy goes away for the week and I'm completely lonely and feel I have no purpose.

    Two thumbs up for not living alone!


    Is it pronounced Rajeena or Ragina? I know accents are different.


    "Regina, the city that rhymes with fun" - scrolled on a bathroom wall in "sneaky d's" in Toronto.
  • ScreamShatter

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    Jul 20, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    i love living alone icon_smile.gif it's just nice to have my space and break from having roommates.
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    Jul 20, 2010 2:22 AM GMT
    i live alone in a big house with to many rooms and yes it gorgeous but empty it nice to i can do anything i want swim naked etc but i rather have a dog hahaha jk its great i love it,party every weekend..
  • AlanGZ

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    Jul 20, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    I am living alone since i am 18...i could not go back to my father's house....
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    Jul 20, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    I ended my ten year relationship in January. I'm all on my own again. I was nervous about it at first, but I have adjusted well to the lack of hustle bustle.

    It reminds me of the first days on my own after graduating high school. I LOVE it! I can relax!

    I am free to do what I want, when I want, and how I want to do it. I WILL leave that dirty dish in the sink overnight! I WILL hold off on doing the laundry. I WILL watch my favorite TV shows, and listen to my music as loud as I want. I WILL stay up as late as I want. I couldn't do that before without getting nagged.

    The peace and quiet help me focus on my reading, art and reflection.

    The only downside...I'm out of work, and have LOTS of free time. I get lonely from time to time, and the quiet can go on too long.

    Otherwise, I can't imagine living with someone else again.
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    Jul 20, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    I always had great roommates but after my last situation, well, it drove me to a single bedroom apartment, blinds closed, don't come looking for me. icon_mad.gif

    Never live with friends.
  • omatix

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    Jul 20, 2010 2:48 AM GMT
    I go back and forth on this - usually I love living on my own, and in practical terms it's awesome. But there are times when it'd be good to have people around. Mostly in the winter, when nobody leaves their apartments in Minnesota.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 20, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    I used to making decisons and orienting my life (and home) the way I want it.
    Fortunately my bf and I have made a number of decisions together and while
    we don't live together at present, I can see us successfuly doing so.... not that I don't and won't value private time. It's always an important balance.
  • imperator

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    Jul 20, 2010 2:52 AM GMT
    I wish I could afford to live alone. Or with just my bf... I suppose... since, if I told him I wanted my own place he'd crap himself and act like I told him I wanted him dead icon_confused.gif He and I live with two roommates and it drives me a little nuts sometimes-- all of them do. I'd like to be able to walk 'round nekkid more often. Would like to be able to put my shit someplace and know that it would still be there next time I went to pick it up. Would like to be able to decorate without getting nagged ("we're running out of room, why did you get a bookshelf?" [we're not running out of room by any stretch of the imagination, and I got it to reduce horizontal clutter.] or "why do you still have that buddha poster up?" [because I don't worship your bronze-age deity and I don't fear 'idolatry']) Would love to have peace and quiet whenever I want/need it. Would be awesome not to have to pick up after other people or to lose track of whose food is whose and then watch it go bad because it's ownership is ambiguous.

    So... yeah, I'm pretty sure I was meant for a solitary living arrangement. My inner-hermit is dissatisfied.
  • Regina_Guy

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    Jul 20, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    carabin said
    agri_sci said
    Regina_Guy saidSometimes I would I think it would be great to live alone. But then my boy goes away for the week and I'm completely lonely and feel I have no purpose.

    Two thumbs up for not living alone!


    Is it pronounced Rajeena or Ragina? I know accents are different.


    "Regina, the city that rhymes with fun" - scrolled on a bathroom wall in "sneaky d's" in Toronto.


    LOL, right you are icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 20, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    I have always been fortunate and thankful to live in a large home. With my ex, his territory was the basement when he needed his space. I always floated to the large gallery where a concert grand sat along with a desk, computer, etc. Then too, one of the garages was for me, one for him. We floated in and out of each others presence but always ended up together at night. But then, we were unique. :-)
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    Jul 20, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    I have determined that I'm much better living alone. I treasure my 'me' time. I work my ass off during the week, usually only have a couple hours a night before hitting the hay. The nights I actually have time to do something, I would much rather hang at home with a glass of wine, a book or TV. It is much more relaxing than trying to appease another person.

    Now, I do have kids that are here a lot of the time, and I love having them here, but I don't feel guilty when they go home to mom either. Hey, at this point in my life, I feel like I deserve my alone time if that's what I want.

    Sure, there are times I wish I had a little more interaction here, but inevitably, I end up craving my down time by myself, so there has to be a trade off somewhere.
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    Jul 20, 2010 3:32 AM GMT
    It's very important for me to have my own space. It's really a sanctuary where I just clear my head. I'm extremely outoging and I love being around people but I like having the option of just being by myself at times.

    Waking up in the morning, and getting a chance to read quietly or to pace around my apartment at my own leisure are just some of the perks. Besides, if it gets too lonely, dogs come in handy.