What a waste you're gay!

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    Feb 12, 2008 5:34 AM GMT
    Anybody ever told you the same?
    I took it as a compliment but I did somehow find it irritating.
    How about you?
  • Salubrious

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    Feb 12, 2008 9:32 AM GMT
    I don't usually hear "waste", but I do get "what a shame..." not to be cocky or anything. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 12, 2008 2:39 PM GMT
    i've definitely thought to myself "shit, what a shame he's straight" on a few occasions.

    'crush on a straight friend' forum anyone?
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:08 PM GMT
    Much like Salubrious, I was never told it was a "waste" that I was gay, but I was told it was a shame that I was. I find that just as inconsiderate... I'm not ashamed about it.
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:09 PM GMT
    I've gotten that from girls a lot. What exactly is the waste? That they can't pull girl cock tease games with me or that I won't be adding to the gene pool?

    The kicker is then they get all relaxed and take liberty to try and do things like have me touch them since, "it won't matter cause you're gay".

    Ummmm that's exactly why it matters. Trust me there are enough hot str8 guys out there to grope all the women who want felt up by a cute gay guy. But you can have em. I like my men gay.
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    As Robert Preston's character tells Leslie Ann Warren's character in Victor Victoria... "I assure you, it is not wasted."


  • MSUBioNerd

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    Feb 12, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    I've gotten this too. I know it's meant well, but it is irritating. It implies that if I find a nice guy, he's also "wasted" on me. When it's been someone I've known at least somewhat, I've tried to say as non-confrontationally as possible "I'm not trying to yell at you, but are you aware how rude that statement is?"

    I much prefer "what a shame" or "that's too bad" to "what a waste"
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:11 PM GMT
    DJBens77 saidThe kicker is then they get all relaxed and take liberty to try and do things like have me touch them since, "it won't matter cause you're gay". Ummmm that's exactly why it matters. Trust me there are enough hot str8 guys out there to grope all the women who want felt up by a cute gay guy.


    Ironic, isn't it? Also ironic how bent out of shape they get when a straight guy does grope them.
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:12 PM GMT
    BRIX saidAs Robert Preston's character tells Leslie Ann Warren's character in Victor Victoria... "I assure you, it is not wasted."




    HAHAHAHAHA!!! PERFECT response!
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:15 PM GMT
    I used to get this a lot from my clients. 'Oh Shawn, if only you were straight, I'd introduce you to my daughter'.

    I do my best to take it as a compliment, because that's how it is intended afterall. I do remind them that if I were born straight I'd be a completely different person, and not nearly as wonderful, refined, witty, and charming as I am. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:27 PM GMT
    ShawnTO saidI used to get this a lot from my clients. 'Oh Shawn, if only you were straight, I'd introduce you to my daughter'.

    I do my best to take it as a compliment, because that's how it is intended afterall. I do remind them that if I were born straight I'd be a completely different person, and not nearly as wonderful, refined, witty, and charming as I am. icon_wink.gif


    That's another one. I think the reason they want to introduce you to their daughter is because you are gay.
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:36 PM GMT
    Yeah, I used to get that a lot from the women I work with and when I'm out. Women hit on me more than guys. It's a compliment and statistically they're right. There's far more eligible women out there to date than there are gay guys.
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    Feb 12, 2008 3:36 PM GMT
    ShawnTO saidI used to get this a lot from my clients. 'Oh Shawn, if only you were straight, I'd introduce you to my daughter'.

    I do my best to take it as a compliment, because that's how it is intended afterall. I do remind them that if I were born straight I'd be a completely different person, and not nearly as wonderful, refined, witty, and charming as I am. icon_wink.gif



    A friend of mine said this to me this once; I asked her why she didn't introduce me to her son instead. icon_biggrin.gif
    Her reply was one about having grandkids and passing on the family name...
    We are still friends, but now she just trys to hook me up with guys she knows in town. lol.
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    Feb 12, 2008 4:33 PM GMT
    To some of the females I've come out to I've gotten similar comments. I've always taken it to mean what a waist I can't "breed" with them and let them suck me dry of my last dime. Thats why I take it as both a compliment and an insult. I can still easily make a baby I just prefer to raise the kid with my potential husband icon_smile.gif
  • jarhead5536

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    Feb 12, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
    I used to hear that all the time when I was younger, and it kind off pissed me off. It reveals so much misunderstanding, ignorance and prejudice about the woman saying it. I still can turn a head or two even at my age now, but I don't hear it so much anymore, because I think straight people now are a little (although just a little) more enlightened than they were twenty years ago...
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    Feb 12, 2008 5:09 PM GMT
    Yes some women have told me that and my answer was !

    "What a waste you are straight as you would make a great DYKE"


    Its a stupid thing to say anyway!
    So deserves a Stupid Answer.
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    Feb 12, 2008 5:19 PM GMT
    LOL. Continuing the Robert Preston / Leslie Ann Warren characters' dialogue, when she goes on to tell him, rather salaciously, "I think the right woman could reform you...", he responds, "You know, I think the right woman could reform you."


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    Feb 12, 2008 5:19 PM GMT
    I've never had anyone tell me it's a waste that I'm gay, but I have been told it's a shame. Usually it's meant as a compliment, so I accept it graciously.

    Once, though, a drunk sorority girl meant it as a putdown when I wouldn't return her advances. I looked her up and down very deliberately, then said "nope, doesn't look like I'm missing out on anything here at all" and walked off.
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    Feb 12, 2008 5:37 PM GMT
    This older wman that i was dancing with to pass the

    time while i was with Carlos at that period of my life

    she was drunk but she told me. "you don't have to be

    gay you could be with me instead." I told her i loved

    my man but she still tried.

    My future baby's mama invited me to her little

    brother's birthday party so she wouldn't be bored and

    it was at her grandma's house and that lady is

    awesome. Well anyway's a few days later she is texting

    me saying that her little brother was suggesting for

    her and i to get married. I texted back... but you're

    a girl. Later the nextr day i got her phone call and

    her little bro was over her house and wanted to talk

    to me. BTW he islike 9 or 10... I forgot. He said well

    you guys like each other right? I said yes. He's like

    well than why don't you two get married? I said well i

    don't daate girls i date men. He says so what when two

    people like each other they should get married and i

    never liked any of her other dates. I said thank you

    and asked him to put my future baby's mama back on the

    phone....I laughed my freakin ass off.icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 12, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    ShawnTO saidI used to get this a lot from my clients. 'Oh Shawn, if only you were straight, I'd introduce you to my daughter'.

    Shawn, the appropriate response is "I'd love to meet your son."
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    Feb 12, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    medfordguy said[quote][cite]ShawnTO said[/cite]I used to get this a lot from my clients. 'Oh Shawn, if only you were straight, I'd introduce you to my daughter'.

    Shawn, the appropriate response is "I'd love to meet your son."[/quote]

    I've responded that way too. Or, 'You're son's very attractive. Is he single?' They take it well, although I'm sure inside they're more than a bit disturbed at the thought.
  • helium

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    Feb 12, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    I rarely get that myself. Although once in awhile when I get really deep with a girl's conversation and she sees that as a strong skill I have, that's when she asks me for a date and I say that I'm gay. I know only one girl is still after me with her hope that she can turn me straight.
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    Feb 12, 2008 6:08 PM GMT
    I used to find it a back-handed compliment, now I find it irritating. Why is it that people think the whole purpose of living is to reproduce is beyond me. Look at this list of well-known people:

    - Beethoven;
    - Da Vinci;
    - George Eliot;
    - Brahms;
    - Tchaikowsky;
    - Michelangelo;
    - Willa Cather;

    And this is just for starters. What did all of these people have in common? They did not have kids, matter of fact most of them never married (and not because they were gay, some like Beethoven were not).

    I am quite happy to be gay thank you very much, and don't think I would be happier if I was straight (just the opposite).
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    Feb 12, 2008 6:08 PM GMT
    Its one thing to be a cute guy who can breed well with a lovely daughter. Its another thing to be a gay guy who wants to hook up with a hot son. Or is it?

    I have had a woman I knew try and hook me up with her gay nephew. It would not have been a love match.
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    Feb 12, 2008 6:16 PM GMT
    I mostly get this "What a shame or waste" from women when they find out I'm not available to them. I just chalk it up to them wanting what they can't have.....like a bunch of coats at Macy's. The one that says "hold" or "sold" is the ONE they just have to have. As stated above, there are lots of straight guys out there - let them latch onto one of them...........and bleed THAT poor guy dry!