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  • Road89

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    Jul 20, 2010 9:26 AM GMT
    sweet, caring, young, self-motivated CHRISTIAN guy. Too much to ask for? icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 20, 2010 10:46 AM GMT
    It's funny... I'm not Christian, or religious at all for that matter, but I think it is a good characteristic in a man icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 20, 2010 2:34 PM GMT
    Sweet/caring and christian are oxymorons. Now, if you would have said hate-filled/bigoted xian - I know a ton of those I could introduce you to. You like southern baptists??
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    Jul 20, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidSweet/caring and christian are oxymorons. Now, if you would have said hate-filled/bigoted xian - I know a ton of those I could introduce you to. You like southern baptists??


    Oouch! that's harsh, sad, yet funny.

    But no, that's not a lot to ask for at all. Everyone has their own specific qualities they look for in a man, and if you keep actively searching you'll find him. It's just a matter of how long your willing to wait. And if your looking for guys with Christian moral values there are tons of them who aren't necessarily Christians. I say don't limit yourself, life's about living outside of the box, but to each his own.
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    Jul 20, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidSweet/caring and christian are oxymorons. Now, if you would have said hate-filled/bigoted xian - I know a ton of those I could introduce you to. You like southern baptists??



    Really? I think 90% of my friends are Christian.... they must secretly hate me icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 20, 2010 3:29 PM GMT
    lol, Waterboi, I'm christian and I married an atheist. I'm very very very very very very very happy.
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    Jul 20, 2010 3:29 PM GMT
    Waterboi07 saidsweet, caring, young, self-motivated CHRISTIAN guy. Too much to ask for? icon_neutral.gif


    A bit yes, as I would think most christians aren't down for manlove, even if they secretly gay. A closeted one maybe, however he's going to be filled with an occasional grief that my make or break a relationship.

    I'm sure there are gay churches out there. That's where you should seek someone if your really interested in a relationship with a way guy with christian background.
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    Jul 20, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
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    catfish5 saidSweet/caring and christian are oxymorons. Now, if you would have said hate-filled/bigoted xian - I know a ton of those I could introduce you to. You like southern baptists??



    Really? I think 90% of my friends are Christian.... they must secretly hate me icon_confused.gif


    90% of my friends are xians too. I'm trying to recruit them to become homosexuals.
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    Jul 20, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    I'd say yes it's a little much to ask for. If your man being a Christian is really important to you, then start getting involved in gay Christian groups... are there any in your area?

    I'd agree with what some people have said though, that maybe you should open your search to someone who may not be Christian, but who still allows you to practice your faith and respect your decision, and you his... you can learn a lot from someone who is different from you.
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    Jul 20, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    I'm an atheist/agnostic. Religion doesn't matter much to me so long as the person does not think less of me for my atheistic beliefs. Nor do I want my future partner indocterinating our future adopted child.

    However, I could never date a fundamentalist of any religious ideaology--e.g. Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Pagan, Wiccan, Pastafarian. icon_wink.gif

    I view religious certainty as an intellectual flaw in people--blind faith is not a virtue.
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    Jul 20, 2010 5:57 PM GMT
    I'm a Christian first...Gay second. Who is anyone to say what is possible or impossible for anyone. As gay men we have to go under a lot of scrutiny of being judged as a whole with no indivdual differences, so it's up to us to not allow ourselves to place other groups under that same judgement of what they are like.
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    Jul 20, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    That depends on to what extent you want this dream guy to be-- in context of each category of you list.
    One of the first guys I dated fit this description. Things were great till his church group convinced him was surly going to hell.
    Yet another, so self-motivated, never had time for me.
    Careful what you wish for.
  • Road89

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    Jul 21, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    It's not that I'm 100% turned off by non-Christians (because I have a small crush on someone who is Atheist) BUT! It would make me feel much better if I was with someone that understood what I was going through fully. If I'm going to hell - it's not because I don't love God, and if what I'm doing isn't working - Until I am miraculously "healed" then - then I don't know what else to do.

    I've been on both side of the fence - striving to be straight and being carelessly gay - nither of those worked for me, so now I'm striving to be a gay Christian, and this is working for me. To my friends I am out, to my church and family - it's a dormant/dead thing of the past. It's hard to say what is right or wrong in the Bible, and it's hard to say what religion or theory is right - but because I was raised a Christian, I will be a Christian - so will the person (man or woman) that I spend the rest of my life with, and so will our children.

    I ask no one to change from who they are to fit who I am - it would be hypocritical for me to do so and I am not a hypocrite. I am, however, requesting that anyone interested in getting to know me meet the small requirements, because it won't work any other way I've tried, and it's truly a waste of time. The Bible says that it's not vital that a man is married, so if it comes down to it - I will just stay celibate AND single for the rest of my life.
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    Jul 21, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    There are Christian churches that are accepting of gays. You just have to look for them. If you are interested in meeting a guy into Christianity, it might be a good place to meet. I think it would be a wonderful thing if you can embrace both your religious values and your sexual orientation and find a church that accepts you for who you are. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 17, 2010 6:27 AM GMT
    Nothing is too much to ask for.
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    Aug 17, 2010 6:30 AM GMT
    Waterboi07 saidsweet, caring, young, self-motivated CHRISTIAN guy. Too much to ask for? icon_neutral.gif


    uhm....good luck?
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    Aug 17, 2010 6:31 AM GMT
    a HUSBAND!