Am I the only crazy person that...

  • Delivis

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    Jul 20, 2010 7:32 PM GMT
    ....leaves my RJ buddy list for, you know - buddies, and my Facebook friend list for, you know - friends?

    On facebook I get friend requests from people I have never spoken to constantly and on RJ half the people that hot list me also buddy list me at the exact same time.

    Am I just behind the times, old fashioned, anachronistic? Am I missing something here?
  • Webster666

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    Jul 20, 2010 8:25 PM GMT
    On the internet, the "friend/buddy" lists often mean, "I like the way you look."

    It's amazing to me (and sad) how many guys have NO friends in real life. It's a lot easier to make "friends" on the internet, because the friendships don't require the maintenance of a real life friendship.
  • mybud

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    Jul 20, 2010 9:42 PM GMT
    Personally...it takes me more than one 5 minute conversation for me to consider anyone a friend and or buddy.....I need to build a sense of trust...but I have always been in the minority...which is fine...it makes me who I am......BUD
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    Jul 20, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    omg, i totally have way more people on my lists than you do. like, what?! omg. and stuff. wow.
  • Greygull

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    Jul 20, 2010 9:46 PM GMT
    I'm the same way, if you notice my buddy list is very brief while my hot list is different icon_smile.gif
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jul 20, 2010 9:47 PM GMT
    No, I'm totally on the same page with you
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Jul 20, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    I constantly get friend requests on FB from people I've never met in my life - I usually ignore them unless we have similar goals/interests for networking purposes. On RJ, I usually reserve my 'hot list' for really exceptional guys.

    There are a lot of great looking guys on here, but some just have the intellect and personality that just makes them so much more 'hot.' My buddy and hot lists do seem to overlap though. As for my buddy list, those are guys I like to talk to on a fairly regular basis - or I try to at least. The hot list is my advertisement section for the guys I think who are special.
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    Jul 20, 2010 9:53 PM GMT
    I usually buddy list people that I'll want to talk to again in the future... that can be only five minutes for some, or months for someone else, it depends on what my intuition says
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    Jul 20, 2010 10:28 PM GMT
    amar_m saidI usually buddy list people that I'll want to talk to again in the future... that can be only five minutes for some, or months for someone else, it depends on what my intuition says


    Agreed! If I buddy list ya, It means I wanna get to know ya!
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    Jul 20, 2010 10:39 PM GMT
    I don't take the internet that seriously. If, after talking a while, someone buddy lists me, I'll buddy list them back. Otherwise I don't fret about it.

    If they're becoming good friends we'll exchange phone numbers anyway, so the buddy list thing is irrelevant.
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    Jul 20, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI don't take the internet that seriously. If, after talking a while, someone buddy lists me, I'll buddy list them back. Otherwise I don't fret about it.

    If they're becoming good friends we'll exchange phone numbers anyway, so the buddy list thing is irrelevant.


    Oops now I feel bad I buddy listed you after talking a while icon_razz.gif LOL
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    Jul 21, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI don't take the internet that seriously. If, after talking a while, someone buddy lists me, I'll buddy list them back. Otherwise I don't fret about it.

    If they're becoming good friends we'll exchange phone numbers anyway, so the buddy list thing is irrelevant.


    Indeed dude. I kinda look for buddies on here because I really haven't any in real life. Just the enviroment I am in.
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    Jul 21, 2010 12:42 AM GMT
    amar_m said
    paulflexes saidI don't take the internet that seriously. If, after talking a while, someone buddy lists me, I'll buddy list them back. Otherwise I don't fret about it.

    If they're becoming good friends we'll exchange phone numbers anyway, so the buddy list thing is irrelevant.


    Oops now I feel bad I buddy listed you after talking a while icon_razz.gif LOL
    hehe

    I'll eventually exchange numbers with ya...when out-of-country calls are a bit less expensive. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 21, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    agri_sci said
    paulflexes saidI don't take the internet that seriously. If, after talking a while, someone buddy lists me, I'll buddy list them back. Otherwise I don't fret about it.

    If they're becoming good friends we'll exchange phone numbers anyway, so the buddy list thing is irrelevant.


    Indeed dude. I kinda look for buddies on here because I really haven't any in real life. Just the enviroment I am in.
    That's what I "thought" about this hick town in GA. But now I've met a few guys I can chat with at the gym while I'm there, spot each other, etc. etc. etc. Not exactly "running buddies" to hang out with yet, but there are some cool (and hot) people here. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 21, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    Nah I agree, my friend list, IM list, buddy list, hot list are usually different based on how well I know someone. Facebook for me is only for people I would really like to stay in touch with, they are somebody I have known for sometime and I trust them. IM list is mostly people I would chat regularly, friends, somebody I plan to meet. Buddy list I think they are hot and it will be nice to stay in touch with. Whereas Hot list is mostly for who I think you are hot, as per your pics.
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    Jul 21, 2010 1:01 AM GMT
    OP, you are not alone. I don't add people on Facebook unless I've actually talked with them in person or if they're related to my job and/or internship. I only buddy list if I know someone IRL and I refuse to hot list people, that always kinda creeped me out a bit.